Wedding Superstitions

I haven't heard of that one before but it's beautiful!

This isn't one I'm doing for obvious reasons, but I heard that if someone drops the rings on the day then it's good luck for the bride and groom because it shakes all of the evil spirits out of the metal, but the person who did the dropping will be the first to die.

Sounds lovely! ? I'm personally hoping the rings aren't dropped!

I had the old new borrowed blue and sixpence in my shoe, and a horseshoe on my bouquet, that's it I guess. H and I saw each other on the morning of our wedding, so that one went out the window! Also I believe you can pay a chimney sweep to pass by and wish you good luck, but I don't think it can really work if it's prearranged!

Can't remember where I got this one from but it's said to be lucky if you say the 'I do' when the minute hand is going up on the clock rather than down...! So our ceremony is at 1.30, presumably something to do with pointing to heaven (and probably useless for those with civil ceremonies, like us)!

Lol. I've never heard of this. Also I bet my husband wishes he knew of this 'tradition,' it's a pretty cheap and no-effort gift!

We didn't really stick to tradition at all as we both hold feminist values and felt it would be inconsistent to stick to some of the more blatantly misogynistic traditions. Plus my OH in particular is too much of a skeptic (but no so much that he doesn't value marriage in general).

So I didn't have a veil, we spent the night before together, arrived to the ceremony together, I didn't throw my bouquet, BMs didn't have bouquets, my dad didn't 'give me away' (I wouldn't be able to do that without feeling like a hypocrite). We did have speeches though, only pretty much everyone gave a speech- my dad, his dad, me, my OH, best man and a BM.

I'm no biggie on superstitions. I had something old, but that was only because his mum gave me a piece of jewelry as a welcome to the family gift and i thought it would be nice to put it on my bouquet.

I've never heard of this one. I think it's a nice gift if you're planning to put a personal note in and the person you're giving it to would 'get' it. i wouldn't say it's a no-effort gift. Someone's gone and bought me a (presumably nice) box and written me a note.

I'd think it's thoughtful even though i'm not superstitious....

That's one i've never come across before, but I think that's a lovely idea. Definitely one of the nicer ones I think!

I don't have any superstitions myself and offhand I can't think of any traditions that we're adhering to on our day. Aside from me wearing a wedding dress and him a suit.

I just read back my post and realise how that part sounded- OP I didn't mean to belittle the idea at all, just my sense of humour! I did in fact get a box as my present from my OH but it was not 'filled with sunshine,' as we are just not the type of people to do that. Instead he said I could keep all our cards and keepsakes in it from the wedding day, and he also got me a necklace to go with it so it wasn't just an empty box. He also had it engraved with a sketch of our venue and our names/wedding date.

In fact here's a flash. The sketch part is a bit out of focus.

Superstitions and traditions are not quite the same though, a superstition is something that you do cos you believe bad luck will befall you if you don't. I don't think people are given away by their dads cos they think it's good luck - do they?

Fair enough IGBMN... Nice box!

What ID said re superstition not being the same as tradition.

I personally don't / won't do most of the traditions and superstitions but I like some of them as long as people don't believe that it will TRULLY give you luck / bad luck. Plus some are very old fashioned and out of date or simply chauvinistic.

I will have something blue because, well, it's funny to look for an item that will serve this tradition. I will have something new and old and borrowed but it just happens some of the stuff will be new, some I will need to borrow... I never thought about doing anything else (not much things seem like fun, rather silly) but the box with sunshine? I admit I like it very much. I think I will do that I already start thinking about how the box will look like and will be written on it So thanks for the tip!

I'm not big on superstitions myself but my mum most certainly is. I think she was looking into hiring a chimney sweep for the day but I told her I thought it a bit silly so hopefully that's thrown her off the idea (but until the day arrives with no sweep I'm not 100% sure!) One other superstition she mentioned is seeing a black cat cross your path on the way to church is supposedly lucky?

The other one that comes to mind is that I once read/heard that it is unlucky for bridesmaids to be dressed in green. Not sure where I heard that one though!

I think a black cat crossing your path is lucky generally. Or is it lucky if it goes one way but unlucky the other...?

If there is a distinction between the two then I would go for tradition over superstition but I also think many of the traditions are out of date and patriarchal.

What do you mean IGBMN? I'm not sure I follow... Are you saying superstition is more patriarchal than tradition?

I thought a black cat was unlucky, because they are associated with witches?!

No I mean traditions can be very patriarchal, and therefore they are not my bag. However if you put a gun to my head I would still choose tradition over superstition as I can at least accept that tradition can be meaningful in terms of creating memories, continuing identity, whereas superstition is complete fabricated nonsense.