Weekday Weddings

Our is on a Friday during school term time. My MoH and SIL are teachers, so I checked if they could get the day off before we booked.

As long as people have enough warning, they can negotiate at work, or book annual leave.

I've been to a few weddings on Fridays recently, I just booked the day off work (Although I work shifts, so weekends mean nothing to me anyway!!)

HTH

I'm not. i did think about it (like you, for budget reasons) but then we realised that as half our guests will be travelling from scotland, they would need to take at least 2 days annual leave in order to attend our wedding. that's quite a bit especially if you only get 20 days or not much more.

i can see your mum's point to do what's best for you, but what you need to understand is that if you do decide to go for a weekday wedding, some people may not be able to make it as they will have other commitments. if you're happy with that approach then by all means do it.

know this doesn't really answer your question, but thought it might help a little.

We didn't really consider it. Lots of my family are from the Isle of Man so it would mean more time off work for them as they are flying down. We both also wanted a 'traditional' Saturday wedding.
I don't have a problem with attending a weekday wedding though. I quite like it when someone has one on a Friday, makes the weekend nice and long! What about a Sunday if you are worried about people getting time off work?

I am having a weekday wedding, I spoke to many of my guests before naming the date (mines a thursday!) about this and they all said they'd be happy to rearrange shifts of take time off and make it a long weekend! As for the numbers, mie keep going up! Perhaps if you spoke to some of yours first they would put your mind at rest, because your nearest and dearest will want to be there with you! I agree with your mum though, if its what you want then that should be the decider!

Ours was a Thursday (couldn't get a Saturday booking at any decent venues near us) and it was fine. Some people couldn't make it and only those who were staying at the venue stayed on the dancefloor to the end but as that was our nearest and dearest, it didn't really matter.

I don't think there is anything wrong with weekday weddings, we are comprimising and going for a friday wedding we also considered monday and Sunday and Thursday. I think at the end of the day th epeople who matter wil make the efffort to be there and these days so many people work Saturdays there is often little difference as many will have to arrange time off etc....

Your mum is right you should do what makes you happy. (If we had listened to evryone else our wedding would be on a sat in summer on 3 different dates to fit in with holidays and such so really you can't keep everyone happy so make yoursef happy.)

I wouldn't be put off because it was a week day wedding. As long as i was given plenty of notice i would book it off work and enjoy the chance of a long weekend.

WCS, I would do what works best for you and your H2B.

Thanks for the replies everyone.

I'm considering a Thursday because for the venue I really like it would be £1200 cheaper than a Saturday, and that money would really help to go towards paying for something else. My only concern is that the venue only has 3 B&B rooms and those who decide not to or can't take the next day off might have difficulties although there is a nice pub with bedrooms just across the road and it's a short taxi ride into Cambridge city centre. But then again, they don't have to stay right to the end of the evening I guess.

If I went for a Friday/Sunday option it's only £500 cheaper than a Saturday, but still it would help to save that money.

Mum did point out that a lot of people work shifts and weekends and even a Saturday might be difficult for some. I guess it's all swings and roundabouts hey!

If it makes your dream venue affordable, go for it!

We considered a weekday wedding, but like you and some others were concerned that people might not be able to make it or be able to stay too long so decided against it.

The venue hire cost £1500 on a Saturday and £750 on a Friday or a Sunday. I forget how much it was midweek, I think it was around £450.

We had hoped that it might be available on one of the bank holiday mondays but they were all booked up so settled on sunday. We expected some guests would not want to be going to work the next day if they had to travel, had a late night or had a bit to drink so thought it would be best if they only had to take one day off as opposed to two.

Only just sent the invites out though so don't know how many can/can't come at this stage.

We're getting married on a Friday and people have loved the fact it's an excuse for a long weekend (especially as it's a Bank Holiday on the Monday)...I think as long as you give plenty of notice. My sister got married on a Monday and it was fine too. If your guests are important people in your life they'll be happy to sacrifice a days annual leave for your big day. if you can stick to the end of the week, that would probably be nicer to then lead into the weekend.