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Mrs_T2B, 26 September, 2010 at 11:43 Posted on Planning 0 11

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Well I went to my H2B sisters wedding on Friday....and what a palava it turned out to be....for all the wrong reasons ☹️

It was a lovely service, short and sweet at the Register Office, everyone looked stunning, the stretch hummer and champagne was surprisingly good fun, and all went without a hitch....until the night time that is!

Anyway about 10.30pm, I had the urge to go the toilet so off I trotted. Anyway on the way out I was faced with my mum, dad, MIL2B and H2B all saying 'come on we're going', there's me stood all confuzzled pulling my dress back down, wondering what in the hell was going on ?

Turns out FIL2B had just completely gone off his rocker and started threatening his own family including MIL2B and H2B with violence ? H2B obvioulsy got upset and told his dad he was out of order. He then told H2B to sit down or he was 'getting one'. With that mum and dad got up and we all left before anything else kicked off. H2B's cousin was outside going mad that H2B's dad was well out of order! MIL2B was distraught and just kept saying sorry. As we were leaving the Bride came out and told us all to F Off to which we were all shocked, and completely disgusted. All of this being fuelled by stupid amounts of alcohol, and H2B's dad being completely trollied!

Anyway to cut a long story short MIL2B ended up staying the night with us, H2B's brother who is supposed to be our best man is sending my mum abusive rubbish on FB saying we should apologise......which we have nothing to apologise for. Best thing is FIL2B thinks it's all a joke and seems to have got out of it all scot free!

On one hand I feel sorry for H2B's sister as it was her wedding day etc, but she was out of order telling us to F off having heard what her dad had just said to H2B and his mum. H2B is so upset, as is his mum, my mum and dad were furious with H2B's dad and are now refusing to speak to him, aswell as H2B and I.

Is it me or do we have anything to apologise for?

It's all very stupid, pathetic and completely ridiculous. H2B is now comtemplating looking for a new Bestman and has said his dad will be lucky to even get an invite to our wedding.

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Sherrie H · 26 September, 2010 at 12:00
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Sounds like a complete nightmare! As they say though " Beer in, senses out"

I would let it all die down & the culprits are now probably thinking back & feeling awful about what happened.
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Mrs_T2B · 26 September, 2010 at 12:37
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We took MIL2B home yesterday and FIL2B thought it was funny and said a wedding isn't complete without a good fight. His words weres 'no one got hurt so what's the problem'. With that H2B walked off and got in the car. It's not about physical hurt, the emotional side of it is devastating!
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teeheeyoucrazyguys! · 26 September, 2010 at 13:28
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You dont need to apologise for getting the hell out of there......none of you did anything wrong. However I dont agree with your future father in law thinking a good fight should be part of a good wedding......... I would not be inviting him to your proceedings until he can promise to behave!

what was the fight all about anyhoo???? (nosey)
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Sherrie H · 26 September, 2010 at 13:29
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I agree the first thing I would have done this morning is to retract my FIL2B's Invitation.
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Sloan-R · 26 September, 2010 at 13:31
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Sorry but what an @sshole your FIL2b is, does he not realise how mis wife feels not only with being threatened by him but being embarrassed infront of everyone. I'd imagine there were guests they didn't even know there. What a showing up. I would stand your ground with H2B and your parents, there was no need for it and no need for SIL to shout that at you all, not the best classy bride moment that's for sure. If I were you I'd seriously consider having her at the wedding, if she can do that at her own what would she do at someone elses. Even FIL2b, I just wouldn't give in to him. Your parents must be raging. Hopefully it'll all have died down by then and you will all be on good terms but I'd have some strict low alcohol rules for them if they attend yours.
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Mrs_T2B · 26 September, 2010 at 13:49
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H2B has said he just won't invite them but I don't want it to have to come to that as it's still his family at the end of the day. He has said IF he is invited by then (FIL2B) he is having a drinks allowance (which sounds stupid giving a 50 odd yr old man rules but so be it). It's pathetic it really is. I feel so sorry for H2B and his mum ☹️

It was all over too much alcohol on FIL2B's half and him just being a complete and utter plank and threatening his own family! Sad I know ☹️
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SouthB2B · 26 September, 2010 at 13:56
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Oh gosh, what a nightmare! I do tend to agree with you that if you can make it work, and you both feel comfortable with doing so, then it probably would be best to invite him as family are family; that said, if you can not trust him not to ruin YOUR day (and it does sound like he isn't very trustworthy), then perhaps it isn't worth the risk. I'm sorry you've been put in that situation - and feel for your H2B and his mum too. x
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celticgoddess · 26 September, 2010 at 14:11
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You poor thing what a horrible experience. I kinda have the same dilemma with my side of the family.... my 2 brothers and sister are instigators when theyre drunk, and im loathe to invite them to anything let alone my own wedding.......i have a huge family and most of them dont get on....so i wont be inviting them...........OH has no family at all, just his son, which is gona be a nightmare when we do finally get round to organising a wedding...........but you know what.............its your day, dont invite who you dont want there............the last thing you want is trouble after witnessing it at your SIL's.....she sounds like she can be trouble too from what you have said.
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Mrs_T2B · 26 September, 2010 at 14:19
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I mean I know it's her dad and obvioulsy she will stick up for him but having witnessed and heard what the FIL2B said I think she was personally bang out of order.

Oh well we'll just see how it goes. If he is invited then he WILL NOT be drinking anywhere near as much. I don't think he would start at ours anyway...well he won't if he knows what's best for him. I'll clip him around the ear hole with my shoes ?
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Arquard · 26 September, 2010 at 14:31
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Oh that is a complete nightmare Your poor h2b. As much as I feel for his sister having that to deal with at her wedding reception, speaking to you the way she did is inexcusable, and in your position I'd be reconsidering their invites too.
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celticgoddess · 26 September, 2010 at 14:53
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If your father in law 2 be can behave like that at his own daughters wedding who knows what he will do at yours? I think you and H2B have to sit him down and if he still thinks its a laugh and is unremorseful then thats your answer.......do you really want to be on edge the whole time? you have enough to stress about without having to babysit him! Sorry if im being harsh but I know where youre coming from re family etc...mine are hell.....i would not even consider inviting those in mine that are shady!
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