What are you NOT having?

We're not having:

Favours - I've never been to a wedding where the favours were anything other than a complete waste of money. I know some people on here have been quite inventive with theirs, but it's really not my thing.

A cake - of sorts, anyway. We're going to have a six tier cheese stack instead. I don't like fruit cake, can't get over the fact that some people pay £700 for flour, sugar and eggs, and really like cheese!

Not having the following - children, entertainment- well a DJ but nothing else, traditional cake, traditional shoes

Oh yes no cars either

i lurrrrrrrve cheese. May hav to have have both! yum yum x

1st time around I had the full wedding, 2nd time we went for registry office, no cars, no photographer, no attendants, no favours. In fact just a sit down meal for 14 at a local Carvery and a 1 tier wedding cake. Home made dress (Black lol) home made silk bouquet , button holes and corsages.

We're not having cars (don't need them) or a sweetie table (waste of money) or chair covers (venue has fab looking chairs already).

I / We are:

not having a sit down meal,

not having any adult bridemaids and no ushers as such, but we do have to have people to escort any senior members of the forces who do attend to their seats

drinks on arrival.

not wearing briadal shoes - I want something modern

I am not wearing provacative undies under my dress

I am not going to throw the boquet - I want it placed on my grandparents grave.

OH is getting married uniform so thats a bit diff - means groom and all other groomsmen won't match

We are also not having evening entertainment - the DJ, first dance, bar, cutting the cake, photo's etc will do us fine!

Not favours - for exactly the reason cricket bride says! Also for the same reasons no OOS/OOD or menus. For one thing I try to be quite green, and it all just seems such a waste.

Not having a free bar all night.

Not having chair covers (we're perfectly happy with the chairs) or a sweetie table.

I am not having:

cars

chair covers

traditional dress

white shoes

veil

orders of service

fancy table plan

traditional food (we're having thai)

fruit cake

groomsmen in matching suits (only h2b is hiring a suit)

Can I just ask... Do you have to have OOS in a church?

Hi,

2nd time for me and the 1st one was big white wedding. Still having a wedding but on smaller scale and somethings no or different.

Not having

white wedding dress - having cadbury purple!!

no cars

no wedding cake. This was a complete waste of money 1st time, 1st tier cut up and served out ended up with 2 tiers, and threw them out a couple of years ago. Cost £400 15 years ago.

Having Cheese cake like CB above already ordered 5 tiers and only £185.

no veil

no Best man

no CBM

no ushers

no involvement from the parents, doing it ourselves and its going to be our way.

x

We're not having...

Cars (all in one place so seems a waste)

Ushers

Page boys (between us we've got too many nephews to choose, so not having any)

Little BM's (for the same reason as above, just having OH's little girl as FG)

No OOS/OOD or Menu's

No free bar

My brother is doing the FOB speech as my dad doesn't feel comfortable doing it

I won't be throwing my bouquet as like Kayl i will be placing it on my grandparents grave the day after.

That's all i can think of at the moment but i'm sure there wil be others that crop up along the way.

x

We aren't having a sit down meal as it's just not for us. We aren't having the traditional top table arrangement wither (mixed sides). I'm not intending on throwing my bouquet as it will be going on my grandfathers grave the day after the ceremony, and my BM's may be having corsages instead of posies.

Everything else we are pretty much traditional.

Not having:

• Children as guests
• bouquets for the bridesmaids - they are having wrist corsages
• traditional BM dresses- they are wearing black swing dresses with white polka dots
• traditional cake - having cupcakes
• not throwing the bouquet as placing it on my Granny's headstone the day after
• a top table. My Dad died when I was young, plus my OH's parents have divorced and his Dad remarried so would be wonky and awkward!
• ushers
• not having favours either!

Also not having:

children at the wedding

Oh yeah - we are not having a top table either - we are having just me and H2B, and instead of a huge table decoration we are having a few red roses in a vase between us.

NOT HAVING:

cars

adult bridesmaids and/or CBM

ushers

traditional cake (having towers of chocolate)

traditional bridesmaid dress for teen (strapless mini dress)

parental involvement (only there on the day)

long top table (having round one like everyone else)

honeymoon (OH is a tight ar**)

gifts for each other

Ah yes Kayl

We are not having a top table too.

We are going to have 4 tables for our guests, and have suggested to OH that we have a course sitting on each table so we can sit with the guests. We only have about 30 guests daytime.

Not having.....

Bridesmaids

Ushers

Best man

Cake

Entertainment

Flowers other than bouquet and grooms buttonhole

Guests!

A wedding in the UK ?

We are not having:

A dress code (I expect people will still wear traditional "wedding clothes" though - but I don't care what they wear)

A long top table

Page boys or flower girls or a billion bridesmaids

Floral tablecentres

White bridal shoes

A veil

Cars

Table place names (considering allocating people to tables but they can seat themselves at their table - can't be too complicated, surely?)

Traditional bridesmaids' dresses (will be tea length and from Debenhams or Coast or somewhere)

Videographer

Formal photos that take hours

A proper colour scheme - we will pick a colour for the bridesmaids' dresses but other than that I will be trying to make sure that things aren't too colour co-ordinated as I prefer it that way.

Also not throwing the bouquet as I find this weird and outdated.

Were not having

sit down meal

brids maid

best man

no suits

no dj getting marred at 4pm then the buffet after and just back grond music

no speeches (cant stand them)

proper cake having cupcake and these will be the favers

white dress having red and red shoes

Not really anything different to everyone else but thought i would still input! ok so we are not having:

a theme- (center pieces are all going to be different, although slightly vintage, this is not going to be continued on to invites etc or the bridesmaids)

real flowers-(going to some lovely silk ones as they are cheaper and last)

a top table-(we are going to sit with BM, CBM usher and BM and their partners and our mums will sit with their mates/siblings)

cars- (all at same venue)

favours- (went to w wedding recently which didnt and i didnt notice until OH pointed it out, in my experience they always get left on the table after the meal!)

order of service- (i personally dont see the point- sorry!)

table places- (we are having a table plan putting people on tables but they can sit where they want on that table)

matching suits for the boys- (thinking of having them in their own suits with matching ties)

cake- (having baked cheese cake)

the rest i think we are having!!

I do like that idea! We have over 100 so we need a more radical plan - we are thinking on it....

Oh suggested a meal for the two of us before we go in to our guests at reception - but i'm not keen, as we still won't be able to talk whilst they are eating..

BALLOONS < this may sound weird but i just can't do with balloons.

Im also not having a traditional white/ivory dress, traditional shoes, traditional dessert (we are having scones, clotted cream and jam, to go with our teaparty theme), traditional flower arrangements (we are having them in quirky things like teapots, wellies, teacups) we aren't having name places (we are having tiny photoframs with the guests photo in).

Other than that i think its all pretty normal.

Katie

x

We're not having:

cars

a professional photographer

video

favours (dont get me started on the boxes of sugarded almonds!!),

gifts for the wedding party (we're going to give MOTB and mother inlaw flowers from the tables to take home),

children at the ceremony, reception or evening do (we have to pay per person and a toddler counts so we've said no)

there's probably a lot more but will have to have a think.

Also I'm deffo getting blue shoes as my something blue (not sure if that counts as not having the traditional ivory shoe?!)

Oh and not being walked down the aisle by my dad, because he doesn't deserve to do it and my step dad who would have done it died last year so my mum is doing it

I also cannot deal with balloons - they pop and I jump! And I just am not a huge fan of the way they look - my mom and OH think i'm mad!

I'm not having:

Wedding cars (ceremony and reception are at the same venue)

Videographer (OH is asking a friend to do it)

White/ivory dress (mine is pink!) ❤️

Ushers

Chair covers

Balloons

Sweetie table

Wedding list (we're asking for money for our honeymoon instead)

Proper wedding cake (we'll probably go for M&S)

DJ (live band will provide music for in between sets)

Probably not a top table either (we can fit in six dining tables with a top table or seven if they're all round)

I know because my sister had them at hers and most people do my family think im weird. I just don't like balloons they remind me of kids birthday parties.

My dress is pink too

x

Glad it's not just me! ?

We're not having:

Cars

Any entertainment other than a DJ in the evening

Balloons

That's about it I think!

We're not having:

Wedding cars although am tryng to persuade OH to let me put ribbon on his new company car, unsuccessfully so far!

I'm walking down the aisle with OH and not my Dad, would feel silly being "given" to him at 29 and having been together 10 years

Videographer

Bridesmaids

Bestman

Ushers

Chair covers

Balloons

Sweetie table

Wedding list

Entertainment, just an iPod through the venues PA system

No top table, four tables together in a rectangle

No first dance

No speeches unless anyone feels like saying a few words

It's very no frills, I actually can't wait!