What are you NOT having?

ooh, me too with the last poin, my 2 brothers are giving me away and my god father is going to do a God-Father of the bride speach! :-)

We didn't have an Evening do or a first dance! We liked the idea of going on our honeymoon on the wedding evening!

Only thing I can think of off the top of my head is.... wedding cars.

We are staying at the hotel the night before (in seperate rooms) and getting ready there on the morning. So no need to have the cars.

Plus I know my nerves will be bad and last thing I wanted to do was have a half hour journey in the car when I was feeling sick!!!

I'm/we are not having:

• Adult bridesmaids (just H2B's 2 nieces as flower girls)
• Floral centrepieces - we've opted for balloons instead
• A veil (just looked silly on me!)
• A video - I can't stand listening to myself back! Haha!
• Sweet table - just a roll of love hearts will do everyone!
• Sexy undies - the hammock I am wearing will have to do as only thing I felt comfortable in under my dress!
• Suspenders = pain!
• Mixing guests on from all parties on tables - I just want people to sit with who they know to make everyone feel more comfortable and relaxed - including my parents sitting together next to me and his parents next to him on top table!
• I'm not throwing my bouquet - would rather it went on my Nan's grave.

We're not having a car (we live 10 minutes' walk away, and i'm changing at work which is 5 doors away from the church)

we're not having a sit-down meal (we're having an informal buffet)

we're not having proper flowers - we're growing some and the church is doing the stands for us. and we have a friend who is going to bring some vases down.

i'm not having a bought dress, nor is it white. i'm making it myself and it's green.

i'm not having a veil either! or a corset of frilly knickers (will show through the dress!)

I thought we were being quite traditional but,

We're not having :

Cars (all at one venue and I'm there the night before)

Masses of flowers (bouquet for me, buttonhole for OH and wrist corsage for older BM's)

Readings (at the minute I keep changing my mind)

Children at the wedding (ok so there will be 4 undr 18's but they will be coming 300 miles with their parents)

Professional photographer (unless we can stretch the budget)

Baloons (the kiddies party thing)

Oh and we wern't going to have favours but thanks to alexiness and winning a voucher on facebook we are now lol

I'm not having balloons either - didn't realise they WERE traditional - to me they just seem far too kiddy.

We are not having cars - Friends will drive other half, b/maids going in o/h car driven by an usher and ive found a guy who drives a plane white london taxi so i am hireing that like a normal taxi. Its all in one place so we just need to get there!

I'm not throwing my bouquet. I read about a lady in my wedding mag who can make your bouquet into paperweights, going to get this done after and give to my mum, nan ect.

No real wedding shoes, having flat white pumps from primark although i might stick some cheap brooches on them.

Not wearing posh underwear just my plain cotton tesco pants!!! Sooo comfortable!

The only real things im not having that i would've thought traditional are....

No fancy venue just a local social club but is on a off-site field, way too many to invite to have somewhere that would've just cost an arm an a leg.

No sit down meal, but a buffet.

No free bar.

No sweetie bar, but our centre pieces will be sweets, so no floral centrepieces.

Chair covers, just think again waste of money.

And my dress is red, not white/ivory, and still unsure of shoes, might just stick to trainers,(personal reasons.)

Whoever asked if OOS are neccessary - they are in a church, as the minister and organist will want to know whats happening but if its civil its up to you..

we didnt have

me getting ready at my mums (which she later slightly mumped about....)

didnt have a video

didnt have posh undies

didnt have a dj - had a band.

didnt have a ring cushion - whats the point??!

didnt have chair covers

didnt have flower girls or page boys

didnt have an mc..

my dad barely made a speech which was a shame but I understand his reasons...

didnt stay over at the same venue as the guests

didnt have a free bar

didnt throw my flowers - went to my cousins headstone.

didnt have confetti - no one thought of it!

didnt have a veil or tiara either!

thinks thats all lololol..

Oh, reading everyone elses has reminded me that we arent having balloons, or chair covers or a sweetie table or a tiara!

Its great to hear how everyones day varies and the individuality everyone is stamping on their day, its great!!!?

we arent having chair covers, or placecards on the table, we are having a table plan, but not specific seats. Think might be having slightly different music than the usual, but not too ott either. Other than that, all very traditional. Or as much as I can anyway!! I am pretty traditional when it comes to a wedding!!

NOT HAVING

posh stationery, making it myself, all gets thrown in bin afterwards anyway and I see it as a waste

not throwing bouquet

a gift list (personal bugbear of mine)

honeymoon - maybe next year once we have saved up some money again

choc fountain, sweetie table, favours

Bridesmaids / Flower Girls / Page Boys

Ushers

make up artist, am doing it myself, I know how I like it

a garter

posh underwear

videographer

canapes

balloons, hate it when they squeak and drunk men think its funny to let them zip round the room ?

not having anyone there that we dont personally know ie plus ones, everyone knows someone else so noone will be on their own

think that's about it!

Not having an all ivory dress, ivory & burgundy for me

not having traditional favours (having sweet buffet instead)

not having floral centrepieces

not having balloons

not having a all fruit wedding cake

no sexy undies for me either! (bridal doesnt go with my size knockers!?lol)

not having 20 bridesmaids just the one for me

no wedding breakfast, straight to buffet

no hotel, village hall instead

no table seating plan or placecards (other than top table)

no father of the bride speech

no father of the bride!lol

not having bridal shoes although still ivory, and they were only £22!

think thats it!lol

Right... We're not having:

- church wedding (I had a catholic upbringing...)
- cars
- traditional wedding invites with traditional wording
- paid maids' dresses. Actually no "bridesmaids" I'm calling mine "matrons of honour" (all 3 of them!) which probably makes no difference but it makes me think it does... I told them to get whatever they fancied, they all decided to buy the same dress anyway!
- white/ivory dress
- wedding shoes (shiny red instead)
- top table with our parents, they will be on another table
- official speeches. Whoever, whenever, if they want to, and if it's not too long.
- wedding breakfast: instead afternoon tea and then sit-down "crepes" dinner for everyone
- a beautiful & expensive venue or a hotel
- men wearing the same suit than my H2B
- best man (at the moment anyway...)
- balloons
- professional photographer

No:

Cars

Being given away by my dad or father of the bride's speech

Top table (we are sitting on a round table in the middle with our friends)

Morning suits

'Bridal' shoes

Champers (having Prosecco)

Evening buffet (having bacon sarnies)

Wedding DJ (though the band are sort of DJing after their set)

Favours

Flowers for table centres ....

I'm/We're not having:

A veil

Wedding cars

A top table (a circular table for just the 2 of us!)

A sweetie table

A chocolate fountain

balloons

a receiving line

much input from our families (we're doing & paying for almost everything ourselves!)