What are you stressing about?!!

No wonder you're stressed about that, I would be well peed off.

H2B's standard response of 'Whatever you want babe' whenever I ask him a wedding related question is stressing me out! IT IS YOUR WEDDING TOO!!!!!

Im stressing about my dress. just had a mojor rant about it on a post i started. proper proper stressed ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Money!

or lack of it.....! x

I'm a bit stressed that one of my bridesmaids seems to have turned into uber *** and is upsetting the rest of the bridal party.....plus she started a bit of an argument about where FIL's GF should sit, even though it was pretty much decided that she should sit on top table. STRESS!!

I'm also really stressed that h2b is yet to choose a best man- I don't understand why this is so hard!!!

At the moment I am a little concerned that I can't seem to get the manager at our venue to reply to my email about when we can visit (we live MILES away from our venue so have to arrange it over a weekend) to plan for what decoration and stuff we need......?

The only thing 'stressing me out' is that one of my Bridesmaids doesnt seem to give a sh*t.

Shes my OH's sister & her husband is my OH's best man, they live in cornwall and we live in nottingham, we arranged last year that we'd have the hen and stag do on the same day so they can come up and it not cause a problem, the plan was for may bank holiday because shes a teacher so can only have time off at half terms, they were going leave the dog down cornwall with family and have our bestmans mum to look after there son whos 13. but when i told her what we were going to be doing she told me she couldnt come because she had to look after the dog and son, but best man is still going out because 'My OH is more important' her words not mine! Shes never met my other bridesmaid before and i hoped it would be a nice way of them meeting when we're all had a drink and chilled out, but now the first time there going to meet is on the wedding day!

At the moment I'm stressed about not being able to find a chiller van that doesnt cost the Earth just to hire it for a weekend!

Also my OH is stressing me out as he's done nothing off his 'to do' list and keeps telling me 'I'll sort it' whenever I ask but then does nothing! Plus he limits himself to one task a day - wtf?

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Getting H2B to sort out who he wants as his ushers and have also asked him to sort out the dj. Neither of which he has done yet.

Also somehow finding a deposit to book cars after just having an invoice for uni fees, grrrrrrr!!

LakeGardaBride - re: money WSS!!

I am only really stressed about the logistics of the actual day. The hair, make up, getting dressed, fitting everything in before walking down the aisle. I know it will be fine and I will be able to plan once I know how long hair and make up will take.

I'm stressed/cross because the choir and organist have just pulled out!

Great. Back to sq 1!

LakeGardaBride -re: money WSS!!!

One of my BM's lives in Cornwall too (OH's daughter) and she's not coming to my hen either (hen is in Stoke).

OK, I'm not a hug person so....... Chocolate cake to all that need it!!

What's stressing me out?

Well, despite being a small size 12 I feel awful, fat, and horrible. Ended up in floods of tears on Sunday after my mother commented on the size of the takeaway pizza me and OH had eaten Saturday night. Not cool.

Also stressed that OH hasn't started to get a wriggle on with his suit and it has to be handmade by military tailors who are noutoriously slow! And that his BM is still in Afghan and we doesn't have a hotel book, no stag do has been organised as OH didn't want to ofend him and organise it himself and don't know how he'll get to his suit fitting - major banging head on deak.

BUT... I am a stresshead and this will pass when I am less tired........ Had to drive to work at 5:45 this morning and had an awful dream last night that saw my Fiance morf into my evil ex. Not good.

Another one to join the money, or lack of it, club!!! We have sorted all the big stuff, its the money for the little bits (the bits that are important to me) that I'm struggling to find, I'm sure we'll cope jsut ahving a bit of a down day, me and H2B work together and have just been told there will be no pay rises again this year as standard company procedure, which we weren't counting on but would have been a nice bonus. Never mind just a bit fed up with it.

My BM/sisters not being that bothered about going to see the birmingham lady to get there dresses made! I have been asking them to go since october!! I have told them i give up and for all i care they can wear matching blank bin bags! it is less than 1.5 hours away from home

My current stress is how to convince OH that all the little extras that I keep finding are essential!

I wouldnt have been bothered but it was all organised last year and like i said we worked it around them and now shes just dropped me like a hat! :-(

I've already had 1 bridesmaid cancel on me so was down to two bridesmaids for the wedding wish i'd only ask my best friend but wanted to ask SILTB because her son & husband were members of the groom party x

ATM i am stress free...had a few running up to now, but its coming together nicely. I suppose the one that rears its ugly head from time to time is MONEY but i suppose thats normal.

Join the club. It's been really hard as H2B has had hardly any work in since Christmas - his wage is what we live off. No work = no pay. Mine pays the bills... so we're living off and trying to pay for a wedding with one wage.

I'm totally fed up but worrying isn't gonna help matters so really trying to remind myself that we will be Mr & Mrs in just over 14 weeks time and that is the main thing.... Easier said than done tho! xx

WSS, but in a years time I am sure there will be loads of things!

I'm not really one to get stressed out about things generally, but I'm definitely aware of how much I need to do in the next year! I've just got my wedding mojo back after the festive break and am into full flow again.

The only thing I'm really bothered about (not too bothered really, but going backwards and forwards depending on the level of inane chatter I have to out up with!) is about inviting people from work - there are only 8 of us in my team but of those, there are a couple I'd gladly have there all day including partners, another whose partner I don't really know, a couple who I'd be happy to have at the evening do again with partners, and a couple who I'd rather never see at all, never mind on my wedding day!!!!! unfortunately, the general convention here seems to be that you send an open invote for the evening do to everyone in your team. Luckily enough, the ones I don't like don't generally attend things but I feel that even extending an invite implies some kind of friendship that I just can't be bothered with lol I sound like a right cow but you don't know these women!!! ? I'm making sure I get my wedding fix on here instead of chatting to people about it at work so they don't know too much and if I decide not to invite them I haven't been rubbing it in their faces for 18 months lol

My only other worry at the moment is completely O/T but my deodorant only lasted enough to do one armpit this morning, and my right arm is a bit smelly - not sweat though, it smells of onion which is causing me a bit of alarm lol

Oh no!!! I hate that - makes me mega paranoid...!!!! xx

Another relatively stress free bride here...sorry!

Money is tight becuase we've just bought our first home and have limited furniture due the Wedding expenditure... but we planned our payments month by month and so I feel pretty on top of things. I know that little things will pop up nearer the time but for now I'm ok.... I may be contributing a different answer in 5 months time though!

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i agree with this, i am fed up of his general lack of interest and how he seems to think the whole thing is too much a a strain at the moment! he also moans if i do something without his opinon "its my wedding too" then show a ruddy interest!

when he does do something he then moans how stressful it was, and i have to bit my tongue and not compare our 2 do lists over the last year!

wow, that felt good!

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Im stressing about Money mainly. Worrying that we won't have enough of it! ☹️

But I spoke to my Dad last night and he re-assured me not to worry as he would help me out with any shortfalls I had. (Thank god)

Also stressing about my B**ch SIL2B's (there are 2) who are moaning about the price of my hen do- even though I am spending alot of money on them to be my bridesmaids, their dresses are costing me almost £300 each. The thing is, they have spent that on hen do's for there "friends" hen weekends they obviously just don't think im important enough to spend that kind of money on. ?

xxxx

Awww, that's very nice of ur dad... we've nothing to fall back on ?

Just gotta make cuts or sell what I can on ebay! xx

I had a similar dream a few weeks ago, that my OH dropped me off at the venue to marry my ex!!!! It was horrible, I woke up crying.

My Bridesmaids are doing my head in - they're both OH's sisters so I can't say anything as OH thinks the sun sets when they park their bums.

Both have whinged endlessly about the room costs - last night if OH hadn't been sat next to me I'd have turned around and said not to bother coming. One of the reasons why we're marrying out of the area is that some of OH's family will not come to my hometown. I think they were dropping hints and think that by whinging we'll pay for them - that's a total non starter.

They're huffy over the dress I'm looking at for them (one of the Birmingham Chinese lady's dresses). Neither seems keen on telling me their dress size so I had to order a sample as a 14 (which is what I am) to see if it's a 'big' 14 or a 'small' 14.

OH's mum (who lives aboard) isn't terribly interested in our wedding, but bent over backwards for OH's sister's wedding and when OH asked her if we'd offended her she responded "well it's different for a daughter than it is for a son".

All in all, I'm sick of OH's family. Remove them from the planning and I'm chipper.

Hear hear! My OH sisters are being complete b****s too hun so I know how you feel. They've moaned about the cost of my hen do, rooms etc....list goes on. xx

My dad who doesn't give a s*it about our wedding. He won't even come to see the venue and doesn't like me talking about the wedding. My brother and one of my sisters are the same. H2b's family are more helpful and more interested in out wedding then my family are.

It's really grinding me down at the moment. ☹️