What are you stressing about?!!

I feel far more calm today. Funny how you can get yourself so wound up about stuff (especially the small stuff) and then the day after you are over it.

My Bingo Wings ..... ! [:'(]

Am going for a swim !

feeling your pain - i will be at body pump tonight!

Today i am stressing about father frank coming for dinner this evening - i have no motivation to tidy the flat up and it looks like a bomb has hit it as i have been suffering with man flu and now have infected skin all round my nose oh and i hurt the tendon in my wrist when having a seizure 2 nights ago so having to do everything wronghanded!

I'm realtively calm about the planning type things.

But I stress about the possibility of lots of people not wanting to come because of the travel. We're only inviting about 60 people and don't have a 'backup list' so if people start to drop out, it's going to start feeling very lonely very quickly!!

I'm a little worried as our venue's fantastic wedding coordinator may not be at our wedding or working in the week running up to it. She was part of the reason we booked the place as she's really reassuring and knows her stuff.

However, this is because her Mum is having an operation and she got quite upset while telling us about this. I think this puts things into perspective. After all, operations - even routine ones - are performed on ill people with the risk of the anaesthesia etc. So fingers crossed for a speedy recovery for our wedding coordinator's Mum please lovely people of Hitched.

I'm not stressing about anything.

I think if we'd stuck to our original plans then i would be, about stupid things that didn't actually matter, but since we decided to do things alot smaller,i'm totally stress free.

I'm not even stressed about losing baby weight and fitting in my dress. If i'm a heffalump on my wedding day, then so be it.

Getting the right swagging for the top table grrrrrr ?

OK, here it goes:

- MONEY - or sudden lack thereof due to OH losing job in Jan and not having been able to find anything else yet and panicking about how are we now going to afford to pay off some of the balances????

- BRIDAL PARTY and some of the guests - with so many key players and friends and family that we REALLY wanted there on the day living abroad, and more and more sending us emails to the effect of "Thanks for the Save the Date but we're only 40% sure we can come" - mostly because of money (which is understandable nowadays) I am panicking that A) we are gonna end up with an empty room and B) that I am gonna have to have a plan B in case my best male friend who was suppossed to give me away can't come - he has promised me in an email when I first asked him that he definitely would but now I have not heard from him in ages although chatting to his mum nearly every other day. Now I know he is a TV reporter and in the field most of the time but at least he could give me a clear answer...

- LOSING WEIGHT - not losing much at the moment due to the operation I had on my shoulder on 24th Jan and until this week I have not been able to move much and been in pain... Getting better though, so started exercising again yesterday - DRESS arrives end of April!!! ?

- The boys - OH and BM have said they have plenty of time to sort out formal wear and to think about speech and stag do etc - erm yes, 10 months is plenty of time, but we've been warned that because the wedding is at Xmas suits tend to be booked for Xmas and New Year functions quite early- also my friend who-s giving me away lives in Romania - he won't be able to come and try the suit on so I'll have to get his measurements and hope for the best; my OH's Dad lives in Scotland so he won't be able to come all the way to yorkshire just to go with the boys to look at suits, maybe he'll be able to try it on as the shop requires, a week beforehand.

- Stressing about how wise we were to choose December - weather worries? What if it snows like this year and Mum gets stuck in the airport on her way here, same for other guests etc...

But I guess that my Mum is right - as always - "Don't worry for something that may never happen!"

WSS (well, very similar) - but we only have 3 months left to sort and pay for everything else..... argh!!!!

With three days to go....EVERYTHING!! ?

I had actually deluded myself into thinking I would be a relaxed bride....

Oh no that's not good - Were you OK when you woke up? I was in floods of tears. As I woke up OH (who now looked like my ex) was shouting he had emptied our joint account and my ISA and didn't want to see me ever again and I was swining between my head saying "your my ex anyway, I hate you" to being totally gutted. It wasn't good.

Told OH about it and feel much better and reassured it wasn't real ?.

No I was dead upset, it was just horrible cause I knew my H2B and me were still getting married in a few months and I knew I had to get married to my ex and then get divorced within a few months. I was crying in my dream and my ex said "it's quite clear you don't want to be with me anyway, we've not spoken for 18 months" LOL!!! Other things that happened were that there was another bride outside the venue, I couldn't find my dress, I was worrying about how my family would react when I got divorced, the room I had booked was taken by the other bride so I had a tiny library room. Dreams are so random.

I tend to agree with you there... My shoulder operation was suppossed to be a breeze, and from an orthopaedic point of view it did go ace, only my bad reaction to the anaesthetic made it a nervous time even for the surgeon who eventually told me he was "if you pardon my expression, Mrs VP, s****ing bricks" when he started having problems waking me up from the anaesthetic and ...it didn't work. Cue panic etc despite them using the lightest anaesthetic they had because of the tablets i take and which give a reaction to anaesthetics. I eventually woke up but was violently sick and dizzy for nearly 48 hours afterwards... so yes, even a simple op can turn into a dangerous thing!

@ AngieMace - whoa that was a random dream.

I am a big believer in that our dreams represent our current state of mind. I know I dreamt of OH turning into my ex as it is one of the things that secretly scares the hell out of me and that morning he had tried to get me to do something my ex always made me do and it made me almost jump to think of it.

I'm also worried about him taking my (our) money as I've had to transfer my ISA to his name as I was over my limit. I hate losing control.... haha

Money here :-( I'm not sure if my parents can help. Carmens parents are able to help out.

We've yet to create a speadsheet of costs etc, and whilst we're getting the bigger things in-hand, its gonna be tight. Do we really need chair covers ? lol!

Other than that- my parents don't really seem that interested, when I call my mother, she's more interested in other things, and that's a bit upsetting.

However, this is my 2nd time around, and I did marry too young back then and with a small baby I opted to look after the baby whilst my fiance did the organising.

This time, I'm a more attentive (baby daughter is now 14!), and we're both looking at TOGs and checked out venues etc.

Jason

OMG really? I think for me it's more about guilt, my ex was really a lovely man, we just weren't right together and I think I carry so much guilt because I ended it.