What are your OH's organising?...

I read straight across this post and (as no-one had replied) it said "What are your OH's organising? 0"

That kinda sums up my blokes feelings... he says "Its up to you!" Mind you, he did find the venue...x

Not much!

He's included in desision making but tbf he's not bothered so long as we end the day hitched, and there's good grub. He is organising a lot of the music for both the ceremony and reception though with his dad whose playing the organ for us.

That's the one things he is doing tbh RisqueM, he's deciding what music he'd like in the church (the non hymn ones!) and deciding the first dance which I'm not going to know about til the thing itself, but I'm running around researching bands... He tells me he wants to do stuff (I don't decide anything without putting a variety of opinions to him anyway) so I give him things to do and 6wks later, nothing! Grr!

Carte blanche on the first dance? ooo thats exciting! although my OH is currently trying to persuade me that Kiss 'I was made for loving you' is appropriate first dance material ? er no.
Currently for the church service our 'before bride entrance' and 'signing register music' is all our favorite rock anthems played on the organ and OH is researching into a jazz/blues grou/band to play at the reception during drinks and a dj for later; I'm keeping well out of that though

Awww BuffyBoo that's really sweet, I know my OH is excited (in his own way) I think he'll get more involved when we start planning in earnest, havn't done much dealing with suppliers and stuff yet as its early days

It's lovely to hear that some of your OHs are taking an active roll. Mine comes up with wonderful ideas but just the organising/researching doesn't seem to be in his fortay.

Yep he has full carte blanche on the first dance!! I think I know what song it is going to be and if it is that one it's going to be wonderful because I know just what it means to him and the moment it all happened. Equally if it's one of the other potentials that I envinsage are on his list,it's just going to be lovely! Just wish we could have 10 first dances. I'm looking forward to it more than the food and I love my food, haha!!! I'm just so excited to discover what he's picked!

Awww that's going to be such a special moment on your day!

Hmm, mine organised:

The overseas wedding

The honeymoon

Hall hire for UK reception

The catering and entertainment

The hire of plates/glassware etc

I was very very busy on a uni course and doing essays and exams, plus working, and when I'm at work I can't email or phone suppliers, so each day I'd say what needed doing and he'd do it. If there were options he needed to run past me he would do so in the evenings. Other than the dress and choosing the type of ceremony, I'd have been perfectly happy to be on DTTB tbh!

He's included in desision making but tbf he's not bothered so long as we end the day hitched, and there's good grub.

Mine booked the venue, has helped find loads of stuff and has been at every meeting we have had with people, he has sorted the accommodation for the guest and he has also organised the whole honeymoon and booked a few surprises, he chased up the RSVP's also and any money. Basically he has been a total super star.

Nothing, lol. All he's done is take over a month to go to suit shop to ask for priced because he wanted to check with a specific shop before ordering the cheaper ones I found. he chose his best man and usher buthasn't got round to asking his usher yet. Also insisted on inviting someone while I was writing the invites, then as soon as they went out kept saying 'why have we invited him'. Actually I gave him the table plan to do after I'd given it a go and ended up with something in between which worked well.

Mine is sorting the boys out, suits etc, he's arranging the chair covers and card box (although his mum seems to have taken this task over ~ slight grump about this). Basically he's included in all decision like invites, first dance, music, decor, flowers, etc. Trying to be diplomatic and incorporate a lot of his suggestions as well. It was his idea to call the tables sweets names and he helped pick which sweets. ?

This is pretty much how my OH was! I handled it by giving him something to research and a timeframe, when it came to the end and he had looked at everything around the idea and realised he didn't care then I made the decision anyway

My OH used to work in the hotel industry and has run a lot of weddings, so he'll be working out timing etc with the venue as I don't have a clue. He's also organising DJ and suits. He's pretty decisive so I know he'll do a good job!

I think that's a good first dance song! If OH picked by himself he would choose Dream On because he used to sit and listen to it when he was wallowing in depression that I didn't love him before we got together. That really doesn't work, lol

Actually I suppose he is doing ok. He is organising the mini-moon and the honeymoon, although hasn't looked at a thing yet (we're not organising our honeymoon til after the wedding anyway) and he will be doing suits when the time comes - forgot about these things! A crafty job, I like the sound of something like that. Perhaps I'll ask him what he'd like to make all by himself. He just isn't fussed with the details, he just wants to get hitched and party

My immediate thought was nothing! Then when I think about it he did do quite a bit.

Had a definate idea about venue, and did all the arranging after our initial visit.

Sorted the band and made all the arrangements with them.

Sorted all the music and the band for the church.

Had the meetings and made the arrangements with the videographer.

Sorted out his and the ushers suits.

Arranged a surprise bentley for me, as we werent having cars!

I used to get annoyed with him for not giving a stuff about favours, table decorations and invitations etc but I think that's just how men and women differ. The items above were pretty darned important, more so than table sprinkles!!

Nothing all by himself....

He's spent the last year doing a PGCE and is now in his NQT year so literally has not had time to p1ss, let alone do wedding stuff. He sorted his suit, and after I had found it became the main contact for the honeymoon, and drew a picture to go on our homemade invitations and helped to make them. He's been involved with every decision we have made, but hasn't had the time to do the background work.

I think it is totally normal for the bride to do most things, so don't worry.

OH is sorting out suits, gifts for ushers and best man, booked some appointments and is hand-making some personalised signs to show where the wedding venue is (as it is quite concealed down a country lane).

I have done most things, but I'm cool with that because it means I have been able to have lots of the things I want (although always run everything by him first).

Although he's on a course for 5wks at the moment which means he's let off a little at the mo, on top of wedding planning, decorating the house, and working full time, I'm trying to finish my phd, which is why I just wish he'd make some decisions when I give him options at least so it can get done and crossed off the list

Mine did pretty much... nothing! We chose the venue together and that's really it. He went and sorted the suits out but we'd already gone through it together anyway! That's the one thing he did and he even managed to mess that up bless him, somehow managed to pay £35 too much so I ended up going back down there to sort it out!

The only other thing he had to organise was his speech and he left that until the day before the wedding! You can see why I did everything can't you? ?

However he was in the army during our planning and based in Germany, so we only saw each other every 2-3 weeks for a weekend at a time, but even if he had been here I probably would have done everything anyway! xx

Mine's 'too busy' at work to look at anything, so I will search stuff online & fire it at him. Then he feels he's having a say in it. He wants to do the names place cards & will organise his kilt. (He hasnt done either of these things & we only have 9 weeks to go) I'm sure it will all be done in time though.

He had to print some spare invites out for me, but mailed one accidentally to someone at work, who then assumed she was coming to the whole day, even though her name wasn't on it. He then had to rectify his error, by saying she wasn't invited & now she doesn't speak to him.

So he does have input into things, but I've done the ground work first. Otherwise, we wouldn't even have a venue yet if i'd left it to him. Bless. ?

lol dream on might not be entirely appropriote?
I do love the song, its probably my fave Kiss song, I'm currently leaning towards led Zeppelin all of my love or something motown-y, a little less 'full on'

I have a very indecisive OH also. I always get the same answers, it's either "I don't mind" or "It's upto you." I always get the feeling that if it backfires in any way it'll be my fault because he didn't want to make a decision!

Now I know this I make sure he's involved in every decision regardless of how long it takes. It took me three weeks to sit him down and look through the photographers with me. I've come to the conclusion if it's on the calender he'll oblige (not happily, but we do get there eventually!!) I don't think he quite understands that some things need to be researched and booked earlier than others. Men are quite happy to do what they love at all hours of the day or night, but never actually help you with what needs doing. I could strangle him sometimes.. I adore him really

I will get him to research some things after we've got the big things sorted!