What cheek!

Oh my god! Why would anyone say that to someone?! I admire your restraint to be honest

Love your response - can just picture her face.

Very rude. Hope she chokes on her woggle.

For someone who doesn't know the circumstances, it's very rude. People shouldn't assume all marriages can be "fixed".

How rude! I bet she feels silly now.

It sounds like she didn't think was an offensive thing to ask? Maybe was meant as a (very poorly taste) joke which flopped?

Or her convictions (religiously or from a different generation) made her think was a genuine question looking for a genuine asnwer.

I know people a bit like that, she will say things and regret the next second because she doesn't realize they weren't appropriate until is too late. But is because she has other points of view (which can be very wrong in the 21st Century) and simply can't understand the things we put up with these days - divorce being one of them.

I would hope she meant no harm!

And your answer propably thaught her ther lesson to never ask it again to anyone else!

Not to defend the person, because she seems like an idiot, relationships can be an all-consuming experience to some leading them to believe that their experience is the norm for all. The amount of mates I've lost contact with after they entered a committed relationship is testament to that. Moreover, when I meet up with them they end up sounding like self absorbed wankers as they either talk about their relationship all nigh or condescend about mine.

Definitely not ok to ask this, bit rude and it's just none of her business.
Agree with the others that she probably didn't think anything of it, but hopefully she won't be asking anyone again!

That is a really odd and rude thing to say - maybe she couldn't think of anything to say and then said the first random thing that came into her head. Either way, it's none of her business!

You were very dignified with your response though so hopefully she was suitably embarrassed.

How rude!!! You were very restrained in my opinion!

Hmmm, I suspect she may be the kind of person who assumes that because your then-husband 'went elsewhere', that this was a sign you hadn't been working on your marriage.

I would also have been blunt/sarcastic, but think the right approach would have been 'Sorry, but it's none of your business'.

What if he'd have beaten you senseless or something?

tea. everywhere!

Actually just snorted.

If she had asked what had gone wrong, i would hvae been quite open about it, I know that my only mistake was marrying a man-child who couldnt keep it zipped. It was the assuming that I hadn't fought for it the peed me off.

However I can see the funny side of things, Her face was a picture! I dont think i could have shoked her more if i had sworn.