I have really really tried to get on with BIL's girlfriend but she continues to be rude to me and upsets me on a regular basis, so much so that I#ve been in tears frequently which upsets OH. What do I do?? We dont want her at the wedding now, we were originally planning on letting her come to the evening do (after initially not allowing her lol). The problem being that BIL is OH's best man and if we tell her she's not invited then it is quite likely he wont be best man. What do I do?? I dont want to spend my day in tears because of her upsetting me but I dont want to cause OH problems with his brother. Grrrr families hey?!