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Sparkles82
Beginner April 2013

What do I say to my GP....

Sparkles82, 24 September, 2012 at 21:11 Posted on Off Topic Posts 0 14

So, its hit me.... Stu is an amputee. He is coming home. I am the only one bringing in a wage in a job I hate. I have a wedding to plan. I am not eating, not sleeping and cant think straight. I dont know if I am coming or going.

Everyone keeps saying "you'll cope,.. you will find a way" ... yes I know I will, but right now, I want to run away.

My sister says I should go to my GP, but I am not ill...... so what do I say to them??

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Latest activity by ForTheLoveOfMrsBrown, 25 September, 2012 at 10:24
  • Mrs C
    Beginner March 2011
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    Is there a local support group you can speak to?

    The Dr may be able to help you cope with the stress of adjusting, it's a big deal for the both of you and will take some time.

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  • LoveSka
    Beginner October 2011
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    I have worked in a GP surgery. We often got people taking time off for 'stress'. All the factors that you have mentioned sound like stress to me.

    Just explain what has happened to stu, tell Dr about the no sleep and not eating and just say that you aren't coping well.

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  • *Funky*
    Beginner January 2001
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    This.

    Please don't get anti d's or medication without exploring other routes first.

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  • kharv
    Beginner March 2012
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    Would your company offer you any compassionate leave? Maybe for the first week that stu is home?

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  • *Funky*
    Beginner January 2001
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    These might be able to help https://limbless-association.org/

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  • ~Peanut~
    Beginner December 2012
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    Think others have given some good advice but didn't want to read and run so here's a weirdy internet hug ?

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  • jojo2
    Beginner June 2012
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    I know it isn't a lot of money but you should be able to claim DLA. Your GP or health professional can help you fill in the forms, if you get Higher rate you may get mobility allowance for a car and blue badge which helps with things like going to the shops. I get DLA for my son and it really helps.

    edited to add apologies i hadn't read your post properly. I thought you were advised to go to GP for advice for what help you can get to assist you. I agree you should speak to them for support for yourself too and hopefully get to speak to someone who understands exactly what you are feeling and going through.

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  • tortoise
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    I can't add anything to what's already been said, but just wanted to give you *hugs* and say that it sounds like you're doing an amazing job now and you both seem to be so strong. Once he's home I'm sure you'll feel much better and be able to relax. Good luck xxx

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  • sal.san
    Beginner December 2011
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    Hi Sparkles. So sorry to see that you are feeling a little low. Nothing much to add to what advice has already been offered. But we are hear for you too and no doubt you have wonderful friends to help you too. Please, if any help is offered, grab it with both hands. Weirdy internet hugs to you x

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  • Sparkles82
    Beginner April 2013
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    Thanks everyone! Went to sleep soon after I posted last night and woke up feeling much better.

    Stu says the OT and physio are both under the impression he is still coming home today. The nurse seems to think he is still coming home today... so only his consultant can spoil it now!!! Keep everything crossed please. :-)

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  • sal.san
    Beginner December 2011
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    Everything crossed for you and Stu. x

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  • ForTheLoveOfMrsBrown
    Beginner January 2012
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    Find a local support group, for both of you. You might be able to find help specifically for amputees and their families but also think about general carer support groups (even if you don't feel like you area full-time carer). Diabetes charities will also help. Look at local community centre programmes to see if anything fits. Think about stress management exercise - maybe yoga or swimming - just to have some calm time. Contact your local CAB to find out about allowances/tax breaks/etc that you might be able to access.

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