What do you call your OH's parents?

OH and I have been together 4 years and we realized recently we didn't know the names of each others parents which I thought was funny as apparently this is one of the questions you can get asked when giving your wedding Notice!

Like others have said neither of us have addressed each others parents by name or mum and dad.

I'm the only one?!

I must steal this thread for BT ...

Marie and John. I did used to call his Grandad Pa though as everyone did, thats just the way he was known by all and sundry, he has passed away now sadly.

I call OH's grandparents Granny, Grandad (did, he died this Jan ) and Nana. OH calls all my family by their first names.

My parents both called their parents in law "Mum and Dad" and maybe the trend is changing now. I know with my first marriage I never even thought of calling the inlaws M&D because they were never that to me. However, my new inlaws are lovely. In fact, I get on with them as well as, or even better than my own parents. I know they see me as a daughter now. I've called them Bill and Mary for a few years, but it really would be natural to call them Mum and Dad now, if I didn't think it would freak them out. I know OH was going to ask them, but I don't think he has yet.

I/We address cards to them as Mum & Dad H and to mine as Mum & Dad B. My parents sign theirs the same, OH's just sign Mum & Dad. We're working on that. I also refer to them as Mum & Dad since to me, they are secondary parents. Actually FIL stayed with us for 2 nights this week since he was working in the area, and I had to stop myself saying "hi Dad" when he turned up, since OH hasn't had that conversation yet.

I've just realised I dont actually say their names, or call them anything to their faces ? I see them pretty much daily (they dog sit when we're working) and I dont know what I call them. I just talk to them, if that makes sense. If I'm talking about them to OH they're 'your mum/your dad', on card/presents, OH rights their names on it. If talking about them to other people, its 'OHs mum' or then I use their first names. I dont think I've ever said their names to them ?

I find it weird when my OH calls my family, like my grandparents by their real names when I call them Gran, Nanny, Grandad etc. but everyone else calls them by their first names (apart from like if its dad to his mum, then he'll call her mum, but my mum would call her by her first name). Only exception to this is my Great Gran, who is Great Gran to every family member ?

I call my ILs their first name, always have done and always will do despite been told when I married H that I could call them Mum and Dad, I politely declined and told them that I will only ever have one Mam and Dad and would never call them Mum and Dad.

From what I remember I think you get asked about the father's name and occupation.

I know the "check" 5 mins before the wedding you will get asked about your own father's name and occupation, for the wedding certificate. This is when i had a mental block!!

Thanks... I've never met OH dad (he passed away last year but OH had not seen him in about 5 years anyway) I don't think even OH knows what his job was ha.

Would never call them mum&dad, too weird. I call them by their first names! OH also has the same first name as his dad & my brother! Therefore its Dave for OH, David for his dad and Brother David!

I wouldn't call them Mum and Dad, I would find that really strange. I call them by their names, though I can't recall ever using their names when talking to them.

If I remember correctly, when we gave notice we were only asked about our own Dad's and OH's jobs, not their Dad's, though I'm guessing everywhere will be different.

You'll still get asked, both our dad's had passed away but they still what their occupation had been. Hmmm, maybe 'unemployed'?!

I called them by their names.

I do sometimes refer to MIL as Mam when speaking to H but mostly its ' your mam '.

MIL always refers to her own in laws as mum and dad xyz as they had got on so well and i like to think me and her get on well and are quite close so it makes me feel tempted to try it out. FIL passed away before the wedding so he will always be Jim.

Just read this post and found it interesting.

I just call PIL by their first names. I don't like writing their birthday cards, etc as we'll put "to Mum and Dad", and I always feel that OH should write that.

Grandma always signs H's birthday cards "Grandma", and I think she'd be offended if she was called anything else.

Incidentally, I do sometimes refer to my SIL (brother's wife) as "Big Sis" (and she calls me "Little Sis"/"Little L...") as I said I always wanted a sister and now I have one. Well two now I'm married too.

My Gran does this too! And H always calls her 'grandma' too.

I call PIL by their first names. Can't recall that I was asked about it when giving notice. Just the usual questions about our DOBs, jobs, addresses. I think I might have got asked how long H had lived in this country and whether we had got approval in his home country to marry, thats about as interrogative as they got.

I call them by thier names, It gets a bit confusing when one of them gets a new partner though- must keep tabs on not slipping up!