What do you think when you see a really fat person?

This!

Im not silly overweight but for my height im classes as obese. When i see people who are morbidly obese part of me feels the same as panj and part of me feels sorry for them as i know, for some, its medical.

Mummy F is large, a size 20 so i totally understand how you think, as i hear it from her alot.

Beez you silly narna you should have gave her your number ? I would have been flattered if someone thought that much of me. And do you know what, she maybe felt the same?

In all honesty it doesnt bother me what size my friends are. When you click you click because of personality, not what they look like. The stereotype of a big fat slob doesnt register with me. You see plenty of thin unkempt and dirty people, and all those in between.

I wouldnt jump to judge someone, as others have said, sometimes there are underlying medical problems that cause people to be overweight. And fat doesnt mean unhealthy. As long as you are healthy, your size shoudlnt matter.

I am classed as overweight! I am a size 10 - 12 (edging more towards 10's now i have lost a stone woo) but I weight 11st 1 and am 5ft4in. I am overwieght according to my BMI. In fact, I am the biggest out of most of my friends, and i would hate to htink they wouldnt be friends with me if i put on half a stone!

I would never not be friends with someone who was overweight, if you're a nice person, you're a nice person, 8 stone or 28 stone.

The only time i would think anything is if a person who overeats a lot, pushes that attitude onto their children. My H's ex is a perfect example. she is a big girl, size 24 at 5ft 1, all her weight is on her hips and legs. The thing is, she is a junk food fiend, she is always eating..which in turn has rubbed off onto my step son. He is nearly 12 and he weighs 11 stone 7lb. He is obese for his age and height (4ft 11) and his attitude to food, comes from hers. That bothers me. he is greedy and will constantly eat, he has learned this 'if you want it, have it' attitude from his mum.

I suppose i can be a bit judgemental but as others have said, i think its because i just dont understand. I worked in a restaurant and went up a dress size and realised that it could get worse so I got myself to the gym and got back to my normal size. I like to see people (of all sizes) carry themsleves with confidence and i would certainly not be put off socialising with someone because of their weight.

What i really cannot stand, is when people allow their young children to be fat. There is absolutely no need for little children to be waddling around. Obviously I dont mean puppy fat, I mean when people feed their children nothing but junk and let them play computer games all day. Children have little controll over what they eat and their parents decision to let them be fat will affect them for the rest of their life and i just think it is so wrong. An example, my friends parents had another daughter and fed her burger and chips or similar everyday, no veg, and gave her coke in her baby bottle. To me, that is child abuse.

I don't really notice to be honest.

The only time I do is when I see someone so very overweight they're struggling to walk and are out of breath, then I feel so sad for them, because I know nobody would chose to be that way if they could help it.

I do get very angry though when I see someone like the above with an overweight child. When they're suffering themselves, why would they set their son/daughter up for the same fate? (note: I acknowledge that sometimes it may be a genetic medical issue)

Trickers- thanks ?
GB - I'm concerned you're looking at pictures of my friend, are you sure you're looking at me ?

Thanks again for your replies, so many things to want to say. regarding children being overweight well, I wasn't but I wasn't skinny so I was banned from a lot of family eating while my skinny brothers filled their boots... I know my parents did it for what they thought were the right reasons, but this time was also coupled with a short period of abuse (please don't quote) which I never spoke to them about. Much counselling and therapy later, I'm 'ok' about all that stuff - I recognise that I'm probably trying to fill a hole. But I know why, sometimes the compulsion does overtake my rational mind.
I think I've always had a huge appetite too though, I can be very greedy. I heard a very big person say 'Cheesecake was my crack cocaine' and that resonated so strongly. Not cheesecake though, maybe kettle chip and guacamole ... My foods of choice are very refined, while I'm not a junk food addict, I like a LOT of the good stuff.
I've really appreciated your replies, I've found it interesting, thank you ?

Also meant to say, I will do everything I can to ensure my children aren't overweight, and I recognise the best way is to lead by example ?

One of my closest friends says that^^ She's a size 10, has always been thin, eats what she likes and rarely exercises. If she feels like she has gained some weight (eg when she first got together with her OH and was going out for loads of meals and takeaways etc) she says all she does is "lay off the crisps and biscuits for a couple of weeks"! I so wish it was that easy for us all, but it isn't!

I am overweight and as such I try not to judge anybody on their size or appearance. I do feel pity for people who are so large that they can hardly walk and it makes me wonder why they didn't do something about their weight sooner before it got out of control. I don't look down on them or judge though, I just wonder because I was 3 stone overweight when I decided enough was enough and I had to do something about it.

I would never feel embarrased to be seen with someone who is morbidly obese though Beez, I'd just be happy to have met a lovely person and made a new friend.

wave! totally agree with Missus S.

All my friends are tiny, my best friend complains about being a size 10 and tbh has serious issues with her weight. When I lost weight after I had R it thought it would make me happy, but tbh i was no happier with my body than before. I didnt have more confidence at all, so began to realise that although i had more energy ect i still wasnt 100% happy.

Try not to worry about what others think of you and get to a place where you can be happy with your weight, thats all that matters. ?

Pj xx

P.s I'd love to go for coffee if we were closer!