What is the right age?

I think this topic is fine here! It's wedding related so why not!

I'm the same age as you and will be 26 for the wedding. OH will be 26 2 months later.

It's the right age for me because OH and I are on the same page about when we want to start our family and the possibility of emigrating. It fits into our timeline and we're happy.

I think the "right age" varies depending on circumstances and maturity on going into the marriage.

You could be 39 with the attitude of a 15 year old or 19 with your head totally screwed on. I know people who have been married at 18 and stayed together, then people who are in their 40's who get divorced after a year.

I would have been 19 if my first wedding had gone ahead. Felt right at the time, but looking back, I was far too young.

I was 26 when I got married (H was 36)

I would say that the right age to get married, really doesn't depend on chronological age, but on maturity level. Going from my own experiences, getting married at 17 as I did was a bad idea. Neither I, nor my ex-husband were mature enough or sensible enough to commit to a long-term relationship and even before things went badly wrong I had a good idea that divorce was on the cards at some point.

I don't believe that we had the emotional maturity to really see how much of a commitment marriage is and what it really means but there are 17 and 18 year olds out there with a much more mature outlook.

Also, I think the main thing is that you should both be on the same page as regards marriage. If one of you feels ready, it doesn't follow that the other does and it should be a decision that you both come to mutually. If one partner is pushing for marriage, it can be hard for the other to resist. Typically, in a young relationship (not young as in age, but young as in newish) the aim of each partner is to please the other.

I think the 'right age' is different for each person. My H2B will be 32 and I will be 26 when we get married - I'm sure H2B would agree that he was definitely not ready to get married at 26!

I think under 25 is very young. I would never have been ready then. I think I felt emotionally ready when I turned 35 - I just didn't meet anyone to marry til I was 37!

We will both be 32 years old. I think it really depends on how mature you are. I do think that you may be able to say, the younger the more likely that you end up divorcing but it doesn't mean you're doomed. My OH and I met when we were both 29, I do think if we had met earlier we would have also gotten married earlier, but that's just how it is.

Me & my H2B have been together since second year University, aged 19 - engaged when we were 22 and we'll be 24 by the time we get married.

We've both agreed that we'd like to try and get a house around the time we're 25 after the wedding, and start planning a family - so for us it all just clicks into place.

I feel like it's less about age and more about how long you've been with somebody. By the time we get married, we'll have been together 4 and a half years - which I think will have given us plenty of time to realise if we're made for each other - which we are

Although, some people get married after a year and are together for 50...

Just depends on the couple

I dunno, my H and I were together 6 months when we got engaged, and it was just over 2 years when we got married. But cos we're both older, I feel like we had the life experience to know real love from infatuation, and to be sure we were doing the right thing.

In contrast, we have friends who have been together since they were 12 years old. They didn't get married until their youngest children were 3 years old - by which time they were both 37.

Different strokes for different folks.

I was 29 and my husband was 33.

I'm liking the way this seems to be going. It looks to me like there is no golden age and that it's down to the individual which I would strongly agree with! :-)

It's sad then that so many companies have to post these articles of scare stories as if they are trying to plant doubts. I do wonder where they get their statistics from.

I was 27 and my husband was 30. I got engaged to someone (not H) when I was 18, and he was 25. I thought we were ready, but in reality we both had a lot more growing to do, which ended up in us growing apart. I have to be honest and say that I agree that in the majority of cases, people under 25 aren't in the best place to get married. Nowadays a lot of people haven't even finished studying until they're at least 21, they aren't settled in a job etc, they have more growing up to do, whether they realise it or not. This doesn't mean I believe it across the board though, I have a friend the same age as me who is coming up to 8yrs of marriage and about to have their 5th baby, you can beat the statistics

My parents were also together for 6 months before they got married, my dad was 33 and my mum was 30. They've been married 33 years now.

I'll be 30 and my oh is 26, we've been together for nearly 5 years and had lots thrown at us in the time, neither of us are particularly mature in some respects and I certainly don't feel my age. I do think some people get married too soon in a relationship before they really know each other (obviously doesn't apply in all cases!).

As people have said I believe its down to maturity, I met my fiancé when I was 15 and he first asked me to marry him when I was 16. After a few weeks we both agreed we were far too young and called it off.

The second time he proposed was on my 20th birthday and it felt right! Plus I got a better proposal and ring! Even though I will be 23 when we marry and he will be 24 we will have been together just under 9 years.

Completely agree that it depends on the person. We'll have been together for 9 years when we get married. I'll be 30 and would have happily done it a few years ago, OH will be 34 and wouldn't have considered it before now.

I'm 30 and getting married this year. The Mr is 31, and we've been together about 8 years. We lived long distance for quite a while, so getting married while we lived in different houses seemed a little odd to us. I would have happily got married a few years ago, but now is the right time for us, and I have no regrets.

My friend got married when she was 22. I think her OH is a little bit older than her.

I didn't think she was too young to get married. It was what she wanted and now she has 2 beautiful children, and is very happy.

I wouldn't have got married at that age - mainly because I'd only been with the H2B for a few months at that point.

As they say, age is a number, but that doesn't mean you need to rush into things just because you can. At the end of the day, if you're marrying for the right reasons, then the question of age should never come up. If you feel too young, you probably are.

I agree it is very much down to the individual. I know I was no where near ready for marriage under 25 even though I met my OH at 18. Some days I still don't feel mature enough at 31 :-p

I will throw some 'anecdata' out there and say that of the 6 couples I know who got married under 25 only one couple is now still married.

I have heard a lot of this 'under 25' nonesense as well and even some saying under 27, but I really believe it is completely up to the individual couple. We are both 24 and we are getting married in 3 weeks, after a 2 year engagement, 6 years together and have lived together for 5 years. A lot of people have asked me if we are sure, and are we too young, but I don't think we are at all, we know what we want and we want it together, so why wait for some random age?

I'm 24 and will be 24 when I marry.

Partner is 34 and will be 34 when we marry.

It definitely feels right. I've never agreed to be engaged before or even wanted to marry, we've lived together for 2 years and supported each other through awful situations - so I think it's definitely right and my age has nothing to do with it.

As many have said I think it is down to maturity level.

I will be 24 when we get married OH will be 31 and we will have been together 8 years by the time we get married. - I asked my OH if he would have been ready to get married at 24 and he said not a chance.

However I know someone who is only a few months younger than me who has the maturity level of a 18 year old and I wouldn't recommend they got married for at least another 10 years, I think as others have said it all depends on the person and the couple.

I was engaged at 16 and married at 18 for nearly 9 years. It was the biggest mistake of my life. I wanted the big fairy tale wedding and the whole thing was an absolute joke. It was done purely out of the novelty of having a wedding and not the marriage itself. Needless to say it ended badly. I look back now and realise that i was far too young and immature. In my opinion it's just too young to be marrying at that age. But I am 27 now and will be 28 and my OH 24 when we marry and I can say now that I am older and wiser, it is done for love and I am excited about our future together and this time round I will have the wedding I have always dreamed of to the man of my dreams

I agree with this. I also agree with ID - at the age of 25 I didn't feel ready to settle down and I do think that individuals benefit from getting to know themselves before making such a huge committment to an other and you do change ( or I did) so much in your late teens/20's.

I was 25 when we got engaged and will be 27 when we get married. I would have been ready at 25 but oh wouldn't have been! He was 27 and will be 29 when we get hitched. I agree down to the individual.

There's not a golden age or a right or wrong I think your ready to get married when you are able to deal with lives difficulties and can work together planning a wedding is hard work but making a marriage is even harder so if your not old enough to confront life together your not old enough to Marry 18 or 78

I think it's up to the individual rather then setting an age on it - I will be 29 and the OH 28 we got engaged when I was 27 and OH 26.

We are some of the first of our friends to get get engaged and married although it's almost like we set a trend for this year given we have 5 weddings this year of our other friends all confirmed after us!

I would have been too young at 22 I was having too much fun and I also wanted to be set on a career and own a house before getting married but that's just me.

I know most people at my age also have kids but we currently feel too young for that as well - part of me thinks its about your social surroundings - we only have 2 friends who have children therefore its still not considered to norm with my friends.

I have friends who were together from around being 17 and got married when they were 21. At the time it seemed like they'd been together forever and through everything, and they are still really happy together as far as I can tell. Perhaps because they went through a lot of the milestones together like finishing school, went to the same uni, graduated at the same time, both got 'good' jobs quickly afterwards then got married a year later. At that age I would never have been ready and think I was only ready when I met my OH - if I'd met him any sooner I might have bolted because I had a lot of maturing to do in my early to mid 20s.

My mum was 19 when she married my dad. He was 28. 25 married years later there still really happy and planning a blessing while most of my friends parents are divorced etc and they married a lot later.

It does depend of maturity I think and you have to go into it knowing it won't be easy and you will have to work hard at times to make it work but always remember why you got married in the first place.

Me and my fiance are both 23, I can't wait to grow up and old with him haha. A few people have said we're too young but I know a lot of people my age and younger popping babies out and nobody bats an eyelid whereas we are working hard to build a stable life and get our own home before we even think of having kids so I definitely think we are making the better decision.

I tend not to go by statistics, I'd probably be miserable if I did x

I think that if this is based on statistics it's not really something to take to heart. However, if we're basing it on statistics it's possible that this is based around psychological development etc, as it's been recently (ish) concluded that psychological development goes on into the early 20's and therefore you are not 'you' until around the 25 years mark.

I definitely wouldn't say that everyone under the age of 25 is 'too young', but that there is often a lot that they might end up realising about themselves and the world around them by that age that could affect the relationship. I'm 28 and I feel that I'm only just learning stuff about myself that never really made sense before. This is in large part due to my OH being amazing and supportive and making me feel like I can be 'me', but also I think because I am aware enough of the world to reflect inwards.

In this world of 'throw away' culture people are more likely to turn to divorce to fix their problems, rather than working on it, and I think this is why this kind of conclusion comes around... people used to get married way before the age of 25 and it worked out, so why not now? As long as they're ready to work when things get rough and they change their ideas and opinions and vews but are willing to share and compromise, then it'll be ok

We got engaged when i was 26 (he was 25 but im 11month older) so i'll be 28 when i get married.

i couldnt imagine getting married any younger (for me personally) as i wasnt mature enough, not sure i am now tbh haha but i think it depends on the person not so much the age.

Im going to be 23, oh 22 when we marry. I don't believe we are the wrong age, if you truly want to commit to that person for the rest of your life, whats the issue. You can't put an age limit on that. we have 2 children together too! Im classed in the too young category to be a parent too. If I'm happy, he's happy, thats all that matters

I agree that it is totally down to the individuals.

I was 23 nearly 24 when I got married and my H was 26. We both knew we were the ones for each other. We'd been together nearly 4 years by the time we got married.

I would absolutely refute any 'claim' that said I wasn't ready or didn't have enough life experience or know myself well enough to make such a big commitment because I was under 25. I knew with no doubt that he was (and still is) the man for me.

We've been married 4 years next month and are happier than ever.

TBH I find these studies/stats a bit patronising.