What is the right age?

Ooh we spoke about this just today. We both agreed if we'd met in our early 20's we probably wouldn't have worked out as we still both had a lot of growing up and personal goals we wanted to achieve like travelling and establishing our careers. Our conclusion was: right person, right time! ? It really does depend on the couple and having shared life goals I think

Me and my partner got engaged when I was 21 and he was 22. We'll be getting married when we are 23 and 24. I never thought I'd be getting married at this age but we'll be together four years when we do. His Dad asked me if I was sure when we had a sit down talk but honestly I've never felt so sure.

As others have said, I don't think chronological age really matters. My mum and step-dad got married at 21 and 22 and already had 2 kids. I think they were very mature for their age and for them that was the right time. At 22 I was too busy partying and having a good time so was nowhere near ready for marriage! I'll be 31 when I get married and my OH will be 29.

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To me it’s completely up to the people involved in the relationship and how they feel and if they are ready.

OH and I got together when he was 20 and I was 22. After 6 months of us being together he moved 100 miles to come live with me and my family before we finally got our own place 3 years ago. We had plenty of talks when OH was drunk about marriage and him wanting to marry me but I always thought it was just drunken talk from him as he was still young. However we got engaged when he was 25 and I was 26. Our 6 year anniversary is 2 weeks before we get married.

I got married the 1st time at 22 and was way too young.

However on my best friends got married at 22 and it was spot on!

I think every situation is different and the reason you're getting married plays a big part. For example, I knew a couple who met their final year of university and got engaged after a year because they were heading straight into the military and didn't want to be separated after training. Did they get married too soon? Was it for the right reasons? Only time will tell. On the other hand I don't think length of the relationship is a good indicator either. I would say that someone meeting at 15 and dating for 6 years is very different from someone meeting at 30 and dating for the same length of time. Not because of age, but because of stability. You go through so many changes in your teens and twenties that you risk marrying someone who won't grow with you. You mature at different rates, become more self aware, suddenly have a desire to move or travel that the other doesn't share. If this is the case you either have to miss out on the self discovery many twenty somethings experience, or lose your marriage. It's a horrible position to be in. There are also couples who have been together for many years and get married because it's the next logical step, and then the marriage doesn't last very long. They moved the relationship forward because it was comfortable, not because it was love.

I think that's why there is trend, at least in my social circle, of people who stayed near their hometown marrying much earlier. If you've stayed in one place your whole life, have a job that you don't intend on leaving, have known the same people since you were 12 (and probably ruled many of them out as potential partners!) you are more likely to be ready to settle down earlier. If you are always moving, trying to advance your career, meeting new people every night, always looking for something bigger and better, then of course you won't get married young. You won't settle in any other areas of your life so why would you settle down with a partner? I'm so glad I met my partner before Tindr really took off. A handful of dates from it was more than enough. I don't know how anyone meets someone to have a relationship when there is always another person just a swipe away

Yaaa.. i think theres no golden age for married. when you mature in emotional and you can have responsible in yourself, thats okay. it's about when you commit for your life time to live with one people that you said you love. and love not last forever, the rest of that is respect ecah other and rsponsible for the commitment.

This subject really annoys me!

if you love someone, you have a strong relationship and it feels right, why should age matter?!

my mum and dad got married at 18, there still together 25 years later, my nan and grandad got married at 19 there still together 45 years later and my great nan and great grandad got married at 20 and we're together for 65 years before my grandad passed away!

Age is just a number, and anyone who thinks that under 25 is to young needs a reality check!!!

We will both be 26 when we get married, but I would happily have done it a lot sooner. We have been together since we were 18 and talked about marriage from an early age, but we went off to uni for 5 years, and then got jobs and bought a house first. We consciously made the decision we wanted to have our lives in order first.

We wanted to have a house first. several time I had to remind myself that as much as I wanted to get married a house cost more, and we should get that sorted first! Though i was kind of hoping he would propose the minute we walked through the door, but no such luck, I had to wait another 8 months!