What to do?

Oh bless you.....it sounds as though it;s all gone a little bit wrong for you.

You;ll hear it lots...but first thing is first, go take a walk or something, just get some fresh air and take some deep breaths.

When you get back, stick the kettle on, or pour a glass of your preferred and write down a list of everything you have left to do, then try and figure out which ones are more important or will take the longest to organise.

If you have your mum or best mate who can sit down with you and hep, maybe even do some of the jobs for you then let them, because it always seems better when there's help at hand.

If you like, post the list when you've done it and I am sure we can all advise.

As for the dress....is the first dress in a shop or had you bought it somewhere else. Can you sell it on? or will the shop let you get away with cancelling your order or similar.....once we know, we might be able to come u with a solution.

First of all sit down and breathe. I would then write a list (my answer to everything) see what you need to do and when each thing needs to be done. If your second dress is 'the one' then your first one needs to be sold - think about how you are going to do it, as then your budget wont be as blown. Your shoes that you made sound amazing but again if they dont go would you sell them? To sort out your earings put your hair up - doesnt have to be the way it will be on yoru weddign day - then hit the shops and see what you like.

Dont panic take time to calm yourself and then start tickign teh items off one by one

Id say go spend the weekend doing nice non wedding stuff with your H2B. IT will help you relax and then youll probably end up with more excitement about the wedding as youll remember why you are marrying him

I had two dresses, first one arrived and I hated it. I even told H2B it was awful and bless him he said sod the cost were only doing this once, buy one that makes you feel great. Were so over budget now because of it, but I couldnt have walked down the aisle in the first one.

Like you it meant the shoes I had planned didnt go, luckily i hadnt bought them... so I went on a search and found the perfect pair. Except I had a accident about 5 weeks ago, tore my ankle ligament and so now Ive had to buy some more shoes!!!!! Flat sandals... hey ho. It's kind of funny, how silly it all is.

All that matters is Im marrying ian in two weeks, if I hobble so be it!

Lots of little things go wrong in everyday life but we forget them, but weddings are so important that we remember every little detail. Youll find some lovely earrings, tell your mum its important that she comes. Go shopping for hair stuff... I tried on loads of mega expensive hair bits then found the best ones in Claires and Dorothy perkins!

It will be fine... but go have a fun weekend, you have plenty of time xxx

Thanks everyone - i have done my list and its more like a shopping list - as most of the things that i have left to do are just a case of buying stuff. And as i cant do that due to the budget i am going to have to wait...which i think is adding to my stressas i am leaving it to the last minute.

But i do feel better for getting it off my chest and trying to get back into it xx