what to do about an 11 and 15 year old.....?

I have a 12 year old and a 15year old going (both girls) my favours are wine charms, so i've altered it a bit and done them keyrings. Same kind of principle and style but a keyring version.

Yes might be able to get some cheap keyrings somewhere....

I am just concerned they are going to be sulky teenagers in the corner glowering at people, and if i catch them drinking alcohol i might just dunk them in the brook!

If you and H2B don't want them there, point out that they were not invited and that no other children have been invited due to space constraints or venue policy or whatever other reason you had for not inviting them in the first place. Did you put anything about children on the invitations? I'd say they'd probably be very bored as well if they will be the only children there.

It's very rude to offer your invitation to somebody else!

If they do come though, for favours, what about mobile phone charms?

The problem is there is no venue or space constraints as we are having the reception at my local village hall. The reason they were not invited was because we only wanted nearest and dearest invited to share our special day not just a bunch of stranger that you just happen to be related to! I have said to MIL2b that i think they will be very bored and they should try and go on a sleepover at friends..... but she just says they will be fine...... urgh

mobile phone charms should be easy enough to come by - thanks for the idea

Regardless of their ages, it is just rude to invite other people whom the Bride and Groom had not invited! Think you would be within your rights to put your foot down and say sorry, but they just cannot come.

Hmm it seems to be because said aunt and uncle are bringing granny they should get special favours.... hmm i think i am going to have to have another conversation with H2b about it as we said no one that either of us had not met would not be invited. Partly because i have a seizure disorder so i don't want strangers there just on the off chance i have a "funny 5 minutes"

Definitely put your foot down then.

I remember being 11 and 15 and I would NOT have wanted to attend the wedding of some random older relative I hadn't seen in years, with only my sibling there to keep me company... boring, boring, boring.

I have just spoken with MIL2b and said she needs to orchestrate some sort of meeting as I reminded her that our one criteria was that NO strangers were invited - so hopefully she will do something to arrange a meet - if they turn out to be sulky gits then I might just say sorry some sort of oversight la di da da

You know, I'm in a funny mood right now and was going to post an image of a mincer. But any image I found that looked any good had mince coming out.

Then I realised it wasn't a funny joke and that I should really be doing something less amusing.

I think i am completely missing the point please spell it out for me pretty please?

I have non epileptic attack disorder and have a mixture of absences which people rarely notice they think i am day dreaming - I am more concerned about what i call my drop attacks where I drop, have a seizure shakes and then very confused afterwards which i can either be relatively calm or i can freak out and be very scared and i generally have the more scared ones in places i am not familiar with or if there are lots of people and these generally strike in the evening when i am tired, my H2B is a dream as was epileptic as a child so is very understanding and looks after me well but I don't want to be embarrassed and i don't want to have to be removed as though what has happened is "shameful" all our friends know to just leave me alone but know that chris will not just take me away unless "dizzy lovelygirl" asks to go.... I also react to people intonation so how other people react can really impact how i feel when i "come back to" after a wee nap and just don't want any negative aspects on my day even if I do have a funny!

See, nobody understands me!

I'll get my coat ?

but we want to!?

lynnie - i have sent you an email

Yes that is what i tried to do..... please say it worked i am not very good at this hidden stuff?

Tell them you have a reserve list for the off chance that people can't come so sorry but you can't have them there as much as you would like to ! Cheeky gits !