My Dad is in his mid-fifties and suffers a myriad of health problems, due to being hugely fat (he's had lots of help from doctors but refuses to believe he eats too many calories. Then eats bread topped with butter and salt for tea). He also smokes and drinks terribly. We've not had the best relationship for many reasons but we have patched things up since my daughter was born two years ago.
We went to his house for the first time in years today and I was shocked. Kim and Aggie would have refused to clean it. The kitchen was vile; he appears to not wash up, just put things in piles and re-use them. His fridge isn't working but he's using it anyway - the stench was awful. The floor was covered in plaster that had come off the walls.
The whole house is just a dirty shade of yellow, from the years of chainsmoking. There was no fresh air; it was like breathing dust. We came home and all needed showers.
I am so angry at him for choosing to spend money on his record collection and booze, instead of a new fridge etc. I know he's depressed and lonely but these things are so basic.
We've known for a while that he struggles with certain things but after seeing the state of the place today, I feel so guilty and I worry that he's not able to take care of himself. I doubt very much he'd want to go into some sort of home/sheltered accomodation, but he's going to hurt himself with the state of that kitchen otherwise. I don't think he's registered as disabled but he does more or less own his house (or what's left of it). Can anyone point me in the direction of some sort of help for him, or information on care options? I'm not sure he fits in to the OAP/disabled bracket.
Much appreciated.
