What to wear to a funeral

The last funeral i went to was in the winter and i wore black trousers and a black pin striped shirt.

I tend to wear either a black suit, or black skirt/trousers with a dark coloured top (not necessarily black). I have a smart suit/work dress that I've worn also.

I would wear a dark skirt or trousers dependant on the weather, with a light coloured blouse and a dark cardigan.

I tend to wear my black trouser suit with a white blouse and my black shoes.

Last funeral i went to was in winter but i wore a black dress with black tights and a blazar.

I would wear something black and smart, that way you can't go wrong.

I have a black knee length shift dress that works well for funerals and then depending who it is and what they would want, I can wear coloured accessories. My mum has already said she doesn't want any black at hers!

Something that you're comfotable in is a good idea though and pockets are usually sensible.

I try to look smart but not glamourous. It really bugs me when people go OTT glam for a funeral.

I usually wear a black knee length skirt, black tights and black/dark top, unless requested otherwise.

Hope it goes ok ?

We've have had more than our fair share of funerals in the last few years, both family and friends normally I tend to wear black or dark grey with a coloured top, but my OH has turned up in his work gear due to being unable to get anymore time off work and he's not the only person I've seeing doing this infact a friend of ours is a motorbike police officer and he turned up for one in his break on his bike in full uniform ( hi vis jacket and all) . People appreciate that not everyone can get time way from work to attend a funeral but still wish to pay their respects and that's what its about at the end of the day.

I would normally wear black skirt or trousers with a dark coloured top (purple or something).

I have seen a black wrap dress i might get? Then i can wearit with just black heels if its warm ang tights and blazer if its cold?

K it is for my H's nan, she passed away last week

The last one I went to was my dear Grandad's and it's uncanny because it's a year ago today I wore black trouser and a cream top.

Yes this sounds good ?

I had one to go to a few weeks ago. I got a knee length dress in the clearance bit of the next webite, only £16. May be worth a look on there?

Hmm, the last few funerals I have been to, I have worn black trousers/skirt and a light, occasionally bright, shirt/blouse (yellow and white stripes, cream, pale pink etc). For my Nanny a few years ago, I wore a long light pink coat.

Without sounding insensitive, I sometimes think that funerals for old people can be less sombre than expected, on occasion focussed as a celebration of life. I've never been to younger person's funeral so not sure if I'd feel differently then.

Having been to a fair few funerals (large Catholic family) I actually agree with this. I have a fairly standard black dress for funerals but at my gran's funeral last year my mum suggested I wear a bright scarf with it so my grandad didn't feel so sad seeing us all head to toe in black. I picked a red scarf that she'd complimented a few weeks before so I know she would have approved. Most of my family wore something nice without being OTT.

I've been to a funeral for a young person but to be honest I don't remember what anyone wore as I was just too sad to notice anything around me.

Hope your OH and all the family are doing ok Rod.

My Brother passed away very suddenly 2 years ago, he was 36 and was a bit of a peter pan, never really grow up or any responsibilities with the exception of his beloved motorbikes, He hated wearing a suit for any occasion, the closed we ever got to getting him in one was to have him wear black trousers and his leather waistcoat so when he died we knew he'd want people to dress as they were comfortable, but we didn't want to put people off wearing suits as some including males in our family see it as a mark of respect when attending a funeral ...in the end we said " dress code optional". It turned out really well as all his biker friends turned up in their leather and denims etc, but there was 2 people who had been his scout leaders when he was young that turned up in their scout uniform and someone else who was his army cadet leader in his teens wore their uniform. As it turned out it was quite nice to see different eras of my brother's life represented.

Sorry just kind of reminiscing.... I know it doesn't help with what you should wear.

Same here - I have rarely worn all black to a funeral. Usually black trousers/skirt and a sombre/muted colour top/shirt. Something smart and respectful, but not necessarily black. But then I know all of my relatives wouldn't have wanted us all in black, so I felt ok about this - it would depend on the person.

For my granddads funeral I wore black trousers and top and then a pink cardigan, I do then to think the older the person the more sombre the dresscode. My 19 year old friend died in the floods in 2007 and we all had to wear bright colours or football shirts to his funeral- I dont think it distracted from the occasion.

I went to a funeral last week it was our friends baby who was still born, I wore a black pencil shift dress and black heels, and a small pearl necklace, I wore the exact same to my brothers funeral 2 years ago. Black Sunglasses to both, they were both in summer and hides the tears!

Its such a moral down question that what to wear on funeral but most of the peoples wear black.

I would go for a grey, personally. I would agree that an older person's funeral can be less painful than a younger person's and so can sometimes be less sombre. ETA - not sure if I mean less painful, maybe less tragic? I'm basing this on a funeral I attended for a very close school friend who died at 22 while he was off travelling the world. To see his parents and brothers grieve for such a young man who had been on such an exciting adventure (and had been due to return in just two weeks) was one of the most hopeless things I've seen, and I would have struggled to celebrate much on that day, although of course celebrate in the face of this terrible sadness is, I suppose, what you must endeavour to do.

Thanks, people. the funeral will definitly be a celebration of her life, so i thought i could wear a black dress and possible some colourful jewellery.

I just want to look respectful.

I did this at my gran's funeral. She always used to say how her favourite colour was green, so I wore a green scarf and bracelet and my sister wore a green necklace.