What would you do?

Why not wear what you want to wear for the ceremony and reception dinner/drinks and then for the evening guests you could wear the necklace.

but if you are really against wearing it all then say something, honesty is the best policy.

Could you wrap it in your flowers? Either around the handle or actually in the arrangement?

Thats tricksie!

could you not explain it to you MIL2B that you already have a necklace or that it doesnt match?

is there any other way you could incorporate it? perhaps around your bouquet or ...... are you having a cushion for the rings?! interlinking the rings?!

not a great brain storm im afraid but i would see if there was another way of using it, perhaps your MIL2B would like to wear it?

Great minds bec84!

Ooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooh that really is a tricky one! Do you really, really, really, really hate it? Would it just about do for the ceremony and then take it off for night time? I know my Granny is 81 and if she'd given me a necklace I would really struggle not to wear it.

Eeeep!

I wouldn't wear it if I was in your position. And that's not to be horrible but it is YOUR day - you spend ages finding the perfect dress, how you're having your hair etc, and it just isn't right that you then feel you have to wear something that doesn't match / that you don't really like or feel comfy in.

My very good friend bought me a lovely necklace for my birthday and said 'Got you this because I didn't think you'd have anything to wear on your wedding day' which is so lovely but straight away made me panic as like you I didn't want to offend but I'm not really a jewellery girl and wasn't planning on wearing anything bar my wedding band and ER. So I said straight away that I wasn't sure any necklaces would go with my dress (nobody knows what it's like but it it a bit funny at the top so I just mentioned that.) I said I would try it though - I made a real point of that, and that I'd love to wear it if it matched. It did match luckily and I am going to wear it and I know it will mean a lot to her. BUT I wouldn't have worn it if it didn't go or I didn't really like it, so I know it will be a bit uncomfortable saying no but I think you'll feel more uncomfortable on YOUR wedding day if you do wear it.

It's a good idea to incorp it into your bouquet or something, if they would be happy with that, but if I were you I'd make a real point of saying you'd tried it but it really doesn't match and that no necklace will (heaven forbid she makes you another!) or that you have already got one that matches perfectly.

Good luck ?

Umm that's a hard one. If you really can't tell her the truth about it not going with your dress etc could you say that your OH is buying you jewellery as his wedding gift to you or say that you have already comissioned a piece from a jewellery designer? Is it gold or gold plated? You could magic up a nickel allergy and say that you need sterling silver? Umm I've run out of lies! I think wearing it only to the evening reception is a good compromise if you want to do that.

It's a lovely lovely thing to do but you need to be happy with everything you are wearing as you'll have those photos a lifetime. Who knows, in years to come you might look back on the photos with fond memories on your nan making you it etc.

Now that's a very good idea! WSS! xx

Im with Lamby on this one - i would just be honest and say whilst it is lovely it wasnt really what you had in mind to match your dress and will keep it for special nights on your honeymoon (to soften the blow a little!! lol)

Hm a very difficult one. I think if i were you, I would probably never mention it again and just wear the one that you have that matches. If they come after the wedding and say anything, just ecplain to them then that you didnt want to offend them, which is why you didnt bring it up, but thatyou had already bought a quite expensive necklace to wear on the day, and that it was the match of your dress.

Dunno if thats the best idea tho! But remember it is your day, and you had your jewelry planned for the day!

Oooh i'm loving the ideas on here - some lovely lies haha! I think the 'get your OH to buy an expensive necklace' from 'jules. 40' is a fab idea so i will use that and then incorp the other necklace into something else - probably my bouquet. ?

'Debmci' - i'm exactly the same and i just won't mention a thing until after the ceremony!

Thinking about it, my dress has a detachable halterneck, wearing this would actually solve the situation as the necklace is a choker style and wouldn't go. Dress looks better without straps tho! aaargh the stresses of a wedding!

Thanks for all the help. If i can get it to work i will flash my bouquet with the necklace lol...gotta be quick though..i'm getting married on Saturday! ?