Hi all , Hope wedding planning is going well!
I will cut this as short as possible! I got engaged 2 years ago and marry this july .My partner grew up with a girl who her mum and his mum were best friends ( they now aren't ) but she has other links to his family . When I met my partner me and her became good friends and I considered her a best friend and when we got engaged I asked her to be moh. Since this ( approx 2 years ago) a lot has happened to make me question the relationship . She has lied constantly to me for years . Mostly silly white lies , she's one of these where if your going to Spain , she's going around the world ! I brushed it off and thought " if you need to lie about your life then that's your issue " but it became serious last year when she got involved in something that was not her place too . She hurt me in ways no " best friend " would ever even contemplate and when confronted just lied her way out of it ! With no proof as such I couldn't say much more and had to " let it go" although i have tried and can't forgive her . So , since then I just can't trust her , she isn't a friend to me at all in my eyes . I don't want people like her in my life . So, my issue is . It's not as simple as just cutting her off . She has ties to the family which would make things VERY awkward. But, I have no desire to see her and I'm considering not having a hen party just so I can spend as little time with her as I have to. Would you stick it out until after the wedding and just let the relationship drift away or would you act now ? She's not the kind of person that wouldn't go quietly so to speak ! I don't particularly want the up evil before the wedding but I don't want it to dampen our day . We haven't seen her since last october and we barely speak now .Her partner is also an usher just to make the situation even more complicated! I have wrote this out to maybe send/ask her?? There are also childish " quotes" on facebook weekly since we became distant last year which i know are aimed at me .
"Hey , Hope you are ok . Im not sure why, but I think we both feel we aren’t very close anymore. I can’t help but feel like something has changed between us.
