what would you do? advice needed updated

If you can afford it and everyone else (all the main people!) can do it then I would say yes do it !

We orginally planed for a spring 2013 wedding, but after working out costs, budget etc, we decided on a July 2012 wedding, again due to family not going to be around forever, wanted to bring it forward so fingers crossed, everyone important will be there to enjoy our day with us.

I'd move it- like you say you have the money, the venue is free why wait!! If it was me I would want to ensure my mum could see my wedding day, she may still be able to in 2013 but just to make sure I would move it if I were you

If everything is feasible for you to do so, then I don't see it as a problem! Family is the most important thing. Go for it!

If you aren't going to incur any financial penalties for moving, and the main people are happy to move, and you can afford everything (or can adjust to compensate) for the 2012 date then I'd concur with the others - change the date.

Is there any reason that you wanted to wait until 2013?

If it's what you want to do, then go for it.

You'll need to go dress shopping quite soon though! Most dresses have a 6 months lead in time!

Good Luck!

If you can afford it I would say move it.

If you have the money do it!

Yeah, maybe you should change the date,you still have a plenty of time to arrange your wedding.

If you can afford to move it and feel that you can get everything sorted in time, why not?

To add: I am an eye/genetics person - if you need any info about what's happening to your Mum, give me a shout.

I would say if you can afford it then go for it, My wedding date changed a few times, originally we were going for october 2012 then in april we decided we didnt want to wait and booked everything for 24th november this year then in august we had a problem with our honeymoon and decided to bring the wedding forward to 30 sept so now im very happily married and going on honeymoon tomorrow. Fortunately my wedding was only a small one so changing was easy. If you can do it then go for it!!

Good Luck x

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From what you have said I would say move it forward!

I would bring your wedding forward. If your mums sight gets worse you will regret not moving it forward. Your wedding day should be the happiest day of your life not one filled with regret.

Enjoy your day what ever you decide x

Thanks for all your advice. I think we are going to contact the vicar and see if he has the date available and make a decision for there.

Nursebride the origional reason for 2013 was so we could save for a house deposit which we are a good way towards and would have enough by next year.

If you can afford to move it forward I would do it, knowing for sure your mum will have a better chance of seeing it will be worth the effort I would think. Id vote for move it, bring it forward and have an extra year of married life

If that's the only reason and that isn't an issue anymore then definitely do it!

Just in case people don't read the update in the first post:

We are really upset as the venue, photographer, and church (all the things we currenty have booked) have the same sate free in August next year, however we have just sat down and done some number crunching and it looks like we will have to stay with 2013. We still have rings, cake, transport, flowers, suits, wedding and bridesmaid dresss alterations (I've already bought my dress and my bridesmaid dresses), invitations, and order of service. We will need roughly £3000 more than we currently have (rough estimates). This seems unlikely to achieve in 10 months as we are saving towards our house deposit. It seems such a shame given that I wasnt expecting all 3 (church, venue, photographer) to be free on the same date.

Thanks to all of you who offered your opinion.

Isn't there a way you could make the cost of everything that little bit cheaper. Of course you want everything to be perfect but if its a choice between perfection and having your mum be able to really enjoy the day then is it really that important.

You've already got the most important bits - TOG etc sorted out so the rest is just window dressing. Get general shop bought invites (you could always bling them up or whatever), a cake/cakes from a supermarket and different flowers. Would it be really wrong to ask the men to pay for their own suits - or depending on the colour they may be able to wear something they already have.

Its the fact that we need an etra £1000 for the wedddin reception (partners parents paying for rest) still need to pay for church (£600) and need to pay tog (£200 as we've already paid a deposit) then its rings and alterations. I have been looking at fake flowers to keep the cost down.

I did suggest the men paying for suits my dad actually suggested they should wear something they alredy had but my other half would like tails. Its then the cost of wedding transport as there is roughly a 15 min journey between the church and reception.

I'm sure you can cut the cost down, my wedding in costing a total of £4k and thats including everything you have on the list.

Were are you in the country maybe some of us will be able to help?

As for fake flowers I got mine from https://www.silkblooms.co.uk/ it cost me £210 for a huge table display (which will be used on the alter and also at the reception) my bespoke bouquet, one bridesmaids bouquet, 9 button holes and a cake topper. It would have been cheaper if I'd not had loads of bespoke stuff.

Hey, we're in the stockport/manchester area.

I've seen some flowers I like on the bayof e from the same seller I bought my button holes and cake topper from. 1 bridal bouquet and 2 bridesmaides for £36 does that sound a reasonable price? For the flowers for the centrepieces I was thinking of just buying some lilly's from a supermarket and putting those in the vases.

Sounds like a good idea and a good price.

Have you thought about an antique wedding ring? I'd have loved one but I needed one making to fit my ring (I took it to a local independent jewellery maker and a white gold ring I already had and got them to make my dream ring using that gold and it only cost £175.) There are some beautiful antiques out there and loads of them are really cheap, especially for what you get, my back up e-ring was an antique, it's a yellow gold band with a square solitaire diamond set in a platinum setting and it cost £60.