What would you do differently.... *WP ref*

I'd make sure my tog stuck to my list and would ask the BMs and ushers to help him out

I'd also make sure OH's parents knew in advance that buggering off to have a little private party in their bedroom with a select few family members is really quite out of order!

Other than that, I wouldn't change a thing. It was an amazing day and we were sooooo lucky with the weather!

I wasn't particularly thrilled with our photos, but I had to choose the tog from half way across the world, so there wasn't much I could have done differently.

I think I'd also wait until a lot closer to the wedding to buy a lot of stuff as I got carried away at the start buying lots of pretties and didn't end up using half of them. Such a waste of money.

Interesting that best man's speech is top! I went to a wedding last year where the best man was the groom's brother (I didn't know the groom) and he was clearly very nervous and most of the speech was slightly homophobic jokes about why it had taken the groom so long to settle down with someone (he was only about 30!) Afterwards the bride was like "didn't he do well!" but I did wonder if she was secretly cursing him.

If I did it all again I would spend much less money.

I would worry less about the little things beforehand. I worried a lot about the weather (can't control it), making sure the buffet was perfect (forgot to even go in the buffet room on the night), and other daft things that I didn't even consider on the day.

We had a choreographed first dance which I would highly recommend, I felt a million dollars and all of our guests loved it!

I wanted this but OH doesn't so just going with it on the day. Really scared!

I'm not married yet obviously but would have budgetted properly if I had realised how expensive everything got in the end!!

Slightly different but things I learned from my first disaster of a wedding...

Marry the right man!

Do not have my sisters as bridesmaids, they were a complete nightmare

Don't worry about the small details - the venue messed up the centrepieces, no one noticed

Have the wedding that is right for you. Last time I had a more traditional package wedding which wasn't me at all, this time it is all black and red and in Pizza Express!

I wish I'd known about Lady V dresses for my BMs before the wedding!

I wish I'd allocated double the budget to everything. Luckily I have the money to pay for stuff, but it's like a punch to the gut each time I go to pay and it's more than double what I expect.

I think I'll regret my hairdresser.... must try and do something about that next week as it's playing on my mind. I don't want it to be my real regret.

Some days I'm happy, some days I wish I'd listened to MF and fecked off to a beach somewhere.

I really would hardly change a thing. I would say the only one thing I ever think about is that I wish I'd spent a bit more on my wedding ring, but it's no biggy. I will just get an eternity ring with lots of bling eventually!

I would strongly suggest an alternative best man for my H.

I would probably choose a different dress or try and get a bit more of an idea of what I actually wanted before trying to piece things together.

I'd have picked more of a theme.

Having said that, none of the above would have made any difference to the day, I bloody loved it and have been told by a few of our guests that it was the best wedding (for celebration and atmosphere) that they had ever been to. It was a great day and obviously that is the thing people will remember.

Not 100% sure about this as my wedging party hasn't happened yet! So far;

-Kept our elopement plans under our hat for longer.

-Only done stuff l wanted to do rather than stuff l thought l "should do" e.g. Inviting my SIL to my hen weekend

-My hen do would also be different without stress and lots of effort from me with people not paying, pulling out last minute etc. I was left to organise all of it with no help from anyone.

The only things I would have done differently is specified to the dj that we didn't want slow songs (we had a list of songs to play and not to play but didn't even consider he'd play slow ones). We had an up tempo first dance and he went straight in to two slow songs. It made things feel a bit awkward and wasn't quite the pumping start to the evening I expected. He soon started playing our requested songs though and all was forgotten by most guests!

I also forgot to ask my tog for a pic of me, my mum and sister. I didn't even think of it. We're all in a wider family pic but it would have been nice to have this as its not often we scrub up that well!

And enjoyed the planning a bit more. Especially the later stages. I was so petrified of the whole day I didn't enjoy the run up and that's a shame because it's such a big part of it and the day itself goes so quickly.

I don't think I'd change anything off that list, or generally really. We had a truly great day.

If I had to pick off the list I'd probably pick the photos. Although our photographer was great and I love the photos she got, but I wish we'd been a bit more aware of specific photos with people. It's just so busy on the day can't be helped!

I wish I'd eaten more! Didn't have any of the cakes or cheese or pate or anything, just didn't have an appetite on the day! Ah well I enjoyed the leftovers!

These are the changes I've made from wedding no1:

1. Much improved groom!!

2. Budget does not have to mean nasty - a proper wedding dress!

3. Have what I want, not what others think is a good idea

4. Enjoy the planning, don't sweat the small stuff

5. invite the people you like, not the ones you feel you should have or the ones your mother/mil feels you should have

6. However, if its going to cause more trouble than its worth - invite the long lost relatives and save yourself the grief.

7. Most importantly, if you have any serious doubts, any at all - cancel it. Don't hesitate. Don't go through with it. You can always rebook it, divorce is nasty.

Our photos were pretty crappy but for our budget, it was fair. Although I wish I'd said yes when a friend of a friend offered for free, her photos are ace! I liked our night ones taken by my friend though, although we forgot to take a huge group one!

Although we changed from a big wedding to a little wedding, a little part of me wished we'd gone to London or New York if we could have and just done it ourselves, but it wasn't feasible.

Apart from that we managed to change everything before the wedding which I'm quite grateful for, I wasn't too well at the time so we had a small ceremony, a meal and I got to have a sleep for a couple of hours and a shower then a party with lots of people. If it had been out original plan, we would have been getting married in a couple of weeks, instead we've been married almost two years!

The only thing I'd change is My tattoo.

i'd have liked it to have been finished.

In practical terms I woud have gone with a different caterer - we had a mare throughout with them all!

In not so practical terms, I would do what we wanted to - cancel everything, not give a damn about families and just get married under an amazing waterfall in Iceland in a sweet, simple ceremony. We visited there after all the big expensive things were booked and half paid for, saw that the hotel did weddings and both fell in love with the idea. Then we talked ourselves out of it. We did have a great wedding day in the end though!