What would you have thought?

Oh I am writing this on an iPhone and can't seem to post the link properly :-(

Ah if the bride was on here - she may have picked up the idea to make a profit from the bar at the wedding, so may have not been so concerned with receiving a low value non-money gift!

Anyone who did that would not be my friend any more. I might be tempted to make a counter demand that they pay for all my expenses of attending the wedding!

People like this are in a tiny minority.

It's appalling behaviour from the bride, obviously, but there's no way ungratefulness on this scale is common.

Jeeze, I as going to do a hamper for my friends upcoming wedding, they've asked for money though so maybe I should steer clear of that now!

What a bell-end. Most people spend enough money on just being at someone's wedding, she shouldn't be so bladdy ungrateful.

I have just read...OMG some people! There are people quoted as agreeing with brides and saying that they expect to give £100ish cash as a gift per person!

We have been to a few weddings in the past couple of years and we do give cash (only cos the people marrying have lived together and are saving for honeymoon) and depending how close we are to the bride and groom we have given £50. (Oh best friend we gave more) I thought that was ok?

My wedding would be about sharing a special day with all the people I love and having a massive party....if no one brought gifts, it wouldn't matter as long as they made the effort to attend!

I'm a little bit old fashioned, I don't like the thought of asking for money and I'm not entirely comfortable accepting money, at least not in vast quantities. Anything over £30 would embarrass me a little. Something like the hamper would be a perfect gift for us. I've had my own home for 16 years and although some things are starting to get a little tired and new cutlery and pots etc will be very gratefully received, I'd much rather have something a little personal but that isn't going to add any more clutter. It's a thoughtful yet practical gift.

I think that's really rude behaviour! You don't invite people to a wedding in the hope of them giving you money or buying you lavish gifts! I couldn't care less if none of our guests gave us anything in terms of presents, all I want is for them to be there on my special day and enjoy it.

Oops I think I'm probably classed as a cheap and embarrassing guest! ? I've only ever done gifts of about £30 though that was before I had any idea the kind of costs that can go into a wedding (before our engagement I was totally oblivious to wedding costs!), I'd probably do a little bit more these days. But to be honest, I really wouldn't expect my guests to spend much at all - the point is that they're there and that costs enough with hotels/taxis/outfits etc.

I have given vouchers for £30 before - although we were a bit hard up for cash at the time.

personally I would *love* a hamper - especially one containing yummy things I want to eat but can't always justify buying (sweets and diets don't mix well for me!) I'd also be mortified if I thought my guests felt they had to 'pay their way'. Agree it's in the minority though - which is why it's made the news.

hope I don't have any friends like those brides!

Goodness know where the Brides got the idea that the whole point of a wedding is to make money for your future?!

I have previously given homemade gifts to couples, including photo albums with their lives up to the wedding date, and as far as I am aware they have liked it!

Your wedding day should be about sharing the most important moment of your lives to date with people you love, not having a lavish day hoping that they will cough up a big old cash gift in return!

... thats food hamper looks yummy. I'd take it.

Wedding are for making a profit, pffft only if you're a supplier! For everyone else, including the married couple, its a big ass party. An excuse to get merry and stuff your face! 2 of my friends are on the dole, my mother and brother are on the bread line, my dad lives the the US with 3 sprogs and i know everyone is hard up for cash. I'd be just bloody thankful they turn up!

This. No drama, just a quiet removal of them from my lives. It's not even worth the argument over.

Although coming form a wide group of friends, none of whom who have ever asked for money for a wedding gift, perhaps I'm not naturally friends with such people in the first place?

...this is also from the Daily Fail. It wouldn't surprise me in the slightest if this was a story they just made up to drum up web traffic. Wouldn't be the first time they've been caught doing that.

The story's been on loads of different websites for a while before it made the mail so it is at least true! I haven't ready the Daily Fail version but on one site it listed the full contents of the hamper and there were loads of lovely goodies, not just sweets but things that could add a touch of luxury to lots of meals.

Having said that I have now put the word out that we will only be accepting brown envelopes stuffed with cash!!!

I think it's shameful of her tbh. I would appreciate any gift, large or small. I love the thought that's gone into the gift, rather than wondering how much it cost!

OMG! thats all I have to say!