What's most important?

Honestly I can get very caught up in it all but most important is the actual ceremony- song choice, vow choice etc as that is really what the day is about for me,the promise we are making to each other.

None of the little things.

Apart from the husband and the actual ceremony, next on our 'important list' were photography, the band and making sure our guests had enough to eat and drink.

Funnily enough i started my planning with my life priority - cake!

but with 3 months to go finding our priority is the honeymoon, they day itself has turned into frankenstein's monster - a big fat (half) greek wedding. So we are just focusing on the bit where we are married and together and alone!

Our biggest priorities,after the actual ceremony, are the things that will last after the day, so photography & rings. Then the little things.

Just getting married.

I am looking forward to all the other things, but getting married is the only important thing to me

Most definitely the choice of life partner.

The guests.

Then the food.

Then booze.

Then how to make it the best party since Adam and Eve.

Sounds very fluffy but the most important thing to me was that my H and I enjoyed our day.

The most important thing on our day is the fact that we are getting married, all the little things are nice but i dont want it to take away from the thing that is is 'our day'.

the things i stress about... my hubby to be says its our day f*** what everyone else wants!!

the reason being, we are being quite non traditional on what we want ie getting married in a pub and having a chocolate wedding cake. we arent religious or remotely like fruit cake, therefore why should we be pretentious on the day that we are making the strongest and most honest declaration of love and commitment to each other in front of the ones that we love (and that matter)???

do whatever you feel is what you want on the day, is you get carried away, people will just say 'ooooooo thats so -whatever your name is-' and they will love it xx

I think you'll find these are pretty normal.

1. The ceremony. So, saying the vows in the way YOU want, that means the most. For us, this meant a C of E ceremony. For us it also meant a private, intimate wedding with no guests!

2. The rings and the photos.

After all is said and done, after the flowers have died, the cake is eaten, the favours have been mused over and binned, and the guests have gone home, all you'll have is your husband, the vows you've made, the ring on your finger, and some photos to remind you of the day. Everything else is trimmings. We spent £££££ on having the right ceremony in the right place, our rings and the photographer. Reception stuff was on a budget - any cake would do as long as it was a cake, etc, etc. I am very, very happy with how we prioritised, and no regrets.

I think you'll find i didnt say that, i said they were non traditional.

I think you'll find i didnt say that, i said they were non traditional.

I wasn't being arsey - I was trying to make you feel better about justifying it to your family.

Welcome to Hitched.

1. Venue

2. The dress

3. Scenery

4. Photography style

5. Food

6. Choice of husband ?

I'd already picked the right husband!

The ceremony (ceremonies in our case) was the most important thing to me. After that, it was making sure we had a nice day and that our guests enjoyed themselves. Some of the little details were involved in ensuring that, but I don't think there was one overall thing that was most important.

Thanks everyone lots of common themes - just getting carried away with detail I think! x

For me it is the actual ceremony, the rings, photos that are most important. That said I am all about the detail for everything else too!

We are having a small, intimate castle wedding with only 12 guests besides us. Our three daughters, both sets parents, my brother and sister and their partners.

That sounds gorgeous! Do you have any links on another thread of flashes of your venue and plans?

It depends on each person, I did fuss over all the little details, but when it came to the day, the only thing I cared about and got emotional over was the ceremony. That was us actually getting married. Next was photos. The rest is window dressing, its important, but essentially, if it goes wrong it won't matter.

Getting married to OH! The rest we have what we wanted but didn't go mad with costs. We have compramised with things but I would say that is more on cost of stuff not what we actually have, just had a good look at things, espically dresses and cars!. Can't wait now for the big day!

Definetly the getting married bit! Then the people who we choose to attend and then the photos to capture the memories. My OH has asked for it to be as unweddingy as possible (so, no seating plan, no speeches, no cake, no first dance etc). I don't mind, I just want him to be my husband!

This. I really wouldn't worry these are hardly ground breaking these days.

For me,

1) Getting married itself

2) The Honeymoon

3) Having a fun celebration with our nearest & dearest

4) everything else !