When and how did you choose you BM's

Mine were obvious, people I've always planned on having (my two closest, oldest friends and OH's sister) so it wasn't too difficult for me. I wasn't in any rush to do the asking cos I was more focussed on sorting the issue of date and venue to start with but MIL started dropping hints about how OH's sister kept asking whether she thought she'd be one so I ended up telling them all sooner rather than later just to put her out her misery! Don't think there's any need to rush if you haven't made your mind up yet though - nice to get them involved further down the line but all the big initial decisions (venue, photographers etc) don't really need BM input I don't think. If they're good friends they can share in the excitement of the planning with you whether they're BMs or not.

I kind of knew who would be my bridesmaids before we even properly got engaged; in fact FSIL and I had had a couple of sneaky conversations about it before we were actually engaged!! It was kind of obvious because he's got one sister and I've got one particularly close friend who's a given really. There were other people that I could have asked but two adults is enough and their two daughters are my young BM. The 2 sons and my 2 nephews are best boys/ushers/groomsboys whatever you want to call them except page boys because even the 4 year old thinks he's too old for that!!

Yep 2 of mine were obvious, best buds I known for years, 2 were I got a bit drunk and over excited about the wedding and asked on a whim, lol.

The 5th was my oh sister who I was told I should ask out of politeness.

Looking back on it I wish I had just stuck to my original 2 as it would have saved me a whole lot of money and hassle,

as one of them is not being very helpful at all and makes excuses when I mention anything about it.

I asked everyone as soon as we got engaged, if you fall out of friendship before the wedding I dont think its a problem, just scrap them. You probably won't be buying dresses etc until the year if the wedding so I wouldn't worry.

I just knew I would always only want my sisters to be my BM's. So I went over to my Mums and asked them nicely if they would be my bridesmaids and my 5 year old sister said 'Only if I can wear a crown' (meaning a tiara) so I just had to agree to that Haha

My bridesmaids were an easy choice too, sorry.

My 2 sisters and my cousin. Then my two nieces and my OH’s niece as i felt i couldn’t leave her out.

I wanted to wait and ask them all in a really cute way but the day after we got engaged my sister asked “who are you having as bridesmaids?”

I said “oh not sure” to try and throw her off.

OH then said “but last night you told me you were having both your sisters?” ha.

It’s a tough one, it’s great to be able to share the excitement with someone but also you don’t want to regret asking someone like many on here have.

If i was you and there was no certain ones i think i would maybe wait, if i could.

I got lucky - I have two younger sisters, so they're automatically bridesmaids and I don't have to worry about having friends and so on

I can sort of see how waiting until the year before might be a good idea - I know a guy who asked his best man straight away, then found the guy was completely uninterested. He now wants someone else to do it, this guy who has been really involved and helpful, but it's a bit difficult to tell someone you've demoted them.