When it's all over...

I said exactly the same thing yesterday! This time next year, it will be the morning after... Ok, we will still have the honeymon to go on.. but the day will be done.

After a year of planning, it will be over....

I then had a large glass of wine, and snapped myself out of it... no point in being sad about it being over before it has even happened!!

Lets just look forward to the day xx

Then you have the marriage to look forward to

I have over two years of planning so will be odd when no more planning is needed but that's when married life begins and is what I look forward to the most

I don't really feel like this. I am really looking forward to just being 'married'.

Plus, a large chunk of our disposable cash is going into the wedding fund so I'm looking forward to other things we need to purchase / sort out, like new cars, bathroom, etc!

I might feel differently afterwards though! Say the day after, when its 'done' and there is no going back to re-do it over and over!

It's an official term called post nuptial depression.

I know I'm going to have a real down day the next day (I always do after things I've looked forward to, like christmas parties when everyone has gone home)

I don't have a honeymoon to look forward to, but the money we get will go towards doing up our kitchen. That should keep my mind busy

You do feel a little that its over but the being married part is lovely, like being in a little bubble. It's nice to have your money back and it's nice not to have the stress of making appointments, chasing suppliers etc, and you have your memories to talk about, just make sure you enjoy the day!

This! ?

I'm actually most looking forward to our honeymoon as that will just be ultimate chillout with my new husband! Not having to worry about a thing!

After the wedding, we'll be "planning" to buy our first house so we'll still have plenty to do!

For me, in 3 weeks time it will have all been done and dusted . I'm looking forward to it, because I've had so much going on simultaneously it's been quite stressful for me for the past few months and I'm mainly looking forward to the honeymoon bit so I can get some sun and chill out !

We're going for a mini honeymoon straight after but I know when I get back from that and back to normal life I'll feel a little blah for a day or two. I'm sure the novelty of being Mrs and us actually being married will take a while to wear off but I'm another one that always feels a bit down after anything exciting or that I've been looking forward to!

But then there's always the next thing to start planning/ look forward to/ get excited about. For me after the wedding that will be our 'proper' honeymoon and after that we'll have a bit more spare cash for doing things to the house and of course there's always a birthday/anniversary/Christmas/bank holiday or something coming up. Maybe think about organising people to come round and look at wedding photos a few weeks after the wedding or something to keep your spirits up.

Don't think we are having a honeymoon, so I will be enjoying being married...and planning for baby number 2! X

This too really looking forward to being married and the next steps, my problem is I always have a plan..I need to go with the flow a little..anyway back to planning

? I am the same, what's worse is OH is the same too!

No way! First there will be honeymoon (!!), then we'll have the official photographs back, then the video, then writing the report, then LIFE! We're planning to sell our flat in the year after the wedding and get a new place, so that will be a big thing to focus on, and there's the potential for relocating overseas, but in the meantime I think I'm going to be happy to finally have my life back ?

I always have to have a plan too! I wish I could just go with the flow! I have already planned 6-9months saving, then try for a baby! I always need to plan what I'm doing in years to come!! It's annoying!

The wedding is a day, just a day, the start of marriage, of a lifetime of wonderful days together....look forward to those days...

Planning is great (i do it, and do it to death!) but dont forget to relax and enjoy it all, and to really enjoy that you are planning just the start of something, not a one-day and its over thing....

Me, I'm planning too, and want it all to be right, but the "right" will be just us finally being mr and mrs G, and relaxing into our lovely new married life ....i cant wait for the day after The Day, to coming down - to breakfast, as Mrs G

^^ Exactly this.

Make sure that you are focusing on the marriage as well as the wedding, that would be my advice. Our wedding day was absolutely amazing but we're now glad to have returned to normality. Things haven't changed as such - I still go to language school, P went straight back to work ... but we feel more united as a team, as horrendously corny as that sounds. We've been talking about our future plans and it's all really exciting - the wedding day will be an amazing day that will go by in a flash but remember that it's only the beginning.