When should men buy the ring and pop the question?

Depends on what is holiding you back and how she (and you) feels about it. Do you have the same expectations?

If you're not planning on proposing any time soon then why have you joined a wedding planning forum? I'm not being rude - you're more then welcome here - but was just curious.

To answer the OP - no, its not bad. I've known people who held off getting engaged for 10 years before it felt 'right'! But I think it should be a decision you make as a couple.

I had been with my girlfriend for just over 3 years when I proposed and i'd wanted to for a while but it was more important for me to wait until I had a decent job and had sufficient income to start planning the wedding straight away. It's hard for me to consider a situation where I would have waited 5+ years because it was always important to me to show that commitment but really whatever works for you as a couple is fine I think, there's no universal right time.

I proposed on the first anniversary of our first date, and we'll be getting married 2 years 1 month, 3 weeks and 3½ hours after the time we met on that day.

Not that I'm counting, of course...

WSS!

In principle, it's not bad to wait. Boy and I were 10 years before we made any wedding moves. However, query use of the word "defo" as that implies defiance, which would be more worrying.*

*If I didn't harbour a suspicion that this answer is bunk....trip trap.

If you are not planning on proposing why are you on a wedding planning website?

It took mine 7 years and I was ready about a year beforehand but i'm glad he wait and at least i knew he was well and truely committed to me.. So take as long as you need!

And AJ that is the sweetist thing i've heard on here!! ?

It took mine 7 years and I was ready about a year beforehand but i'm glad he wait and at least i knew he was well and truely committed to me.. So take as long as you need!

And AJ that is the sweetist thing i've heard on here!! ?

Weird that you aren't planning on proposing but you've come on here.

My OH never proposed to me, but we got engaged after 11 months. We just knew it was right. Whereas I was with my ex for 5 years and we discussed it and everything, but I think it was never right. It depends on the couple. But I know I would be expecting it. My best friend has been with her bf for a year and they both want to get married but she's waiting for a proposal, though he says he hasn't thought about it yet.

Hmmmmm, well, we always knew that we wanted to marry each other. We just weren't ready financially until last year. We've been together for 10 years now.

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WSS - most bizarre!

Isn't "defo" meant as "definitely (not)" in this case?

Perhaps I'm unusual but I've never, ever gone into a relationship thinking "this is just a bit of fun" but thinking long term, and if I had no intention of ever marrying someone what actually is the point of the relationship.

It's scared a few off, it's weeded out a few timewasters and hurt me a bit but I think the pain is worth it as it's meant I've ended up with the right one for me.

Come on then dbaron (one post). Come back and tell us what you think!

Has anyone actually watched the video? I can't as I am at work...

Just wondering if this was anything to do with number of hits/views...?

Or am I getting cynical in my OM way of life... ?

Mrs C - I thought that too. I can't imagine why else he would be posting here. Unless he was hoping to start another argument on here..

I can't stop giggling after she says "most couples pop the cork"... I'm sure she means "pop the question" but her statement just brings all sorts of inappropriate thoughts to mind that I really shouldn't be thinking about at work.

I can sort of see the resemblance after the slow motion shot of the champagne spilling out of the bottle ... both leave you with sticky hands.

Rumbled... The video is on the Shout Communications Youtube channel, and a little digging brings up a Linkedin profile of a Daniele Baron, who is Broadcast and Online Media Relations Consultant at Shout! Communications.

Epic fail.

Who wants to ring her and ask her how forum spanning is good PR? Or do I have to do it?

I am glad that I didn't click... I knew it would be something dodgy.

AJ- I am SHOCKED at this from you ?

Good detective work AJ....yes, you ring her. And report back please!

Just called... it's definitely a "he" though.

He seemed a little shocked and taken aback by the fact I 'rumbled' him and managed to trace him down but we had a nice chat, I educated him briefly on how Hitched works, and the basics of online security, and had a nice chat about my wedding plans.

He may be back to post further as I said most of us don't bite - but did warn him about that one time at band camp.

Aj - I'm really impressed you did that!

I hope he does come back. Silly thing.

I don't think any real harm or malice was intended, just something that seemed a good idea at the time.

No damage done really.

AJ, so wish that you had recorded that! Sounds priceless.