Where have all the regulars gone??

I've not been asked for either but to be honest, it's been a manic few months. I'm working 6 or 7 days a week and H is working away a lot so any spare time is spent together. I come on here to check every so often but I never felt like I properly fitted in so wouldn't really be missed as such (woe is me or what?!) ha! I had a suspicion that someone I know had been having a look on here due to certain little things being mentioned or brought up in conversations so I am much more careful what I post.

Sorry I've been having an absolute shitter of a time and hitched has been the last thing on my mind tbh. I can't really face interacting with anyone if I can help it currently.

Though I agree with the loss of BT the natural progression of many ex brides to mumdrum now as opposed to sticking on here has meant not many of my friends still post here-they are nearly all mumdrumers now.

Mini I hope you're ok x

Hope you're ok mini!

Sorry to hear that that mini - sending good vibes for a drastic improvement.

Not sure if i count as a regular but I have definitely decided OT is the place to be, I've found WP to be a bit dull of late.

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I was a regular (of sorts) but just don't get the time these days (and my son was always on my iPad, although he has his own now).

i just assumed the proper regulars were on the Facebook group now? Or all just busy and moved on a bit in their lives?

not sure what will ramp it up? My mobile is newer but have tried hitching on there yet. It used to be a pain to do it. Has this improved?

I was a regular and thought I would be for a very long time but I just don't find the time to come on here like I used to.

Wow Hoddy, just saw the ticker. Can't believe you've been an OM 4 months already!

Neither can I! It has truly flown by. They say time flies when you're having fun....

Where was my god damned name check?

I pop in occasionally realise I dont know anyone anymore and leave again.

Can I just say, it's lovely to see all the old regulars reposting here - be nice to see you a little more often in OT generally! To those having tough times, I hope you know we are all here for you and are happy to listen and help if we can.

To those having families and jobs and lives - I suppose it's allowed, but.... humph! ? Take it as a compliment that you are all (even those not named) missed and that we all see how much quieter OT is without you all. We'd love to see you, even if it's not regularly ?

Nice to see the old names, sorry some are having bad times. Hope things turn to good really quick. Xx

Same here. Not many posts I feel like I can get involved with I am afraid and I don't have much time on a laptop. The mobile site does my head in

Been in hiding trying to get lots of coursework done and generally get life under control

I used to come on here a fair bit but with a combination of being busy with married life, work and getting into calligraphy big style and it being quiet here I haven't posted much. Hope everyone's good?

I noticed earlier today that Kochanski deleted her account, which made me sad.

I doubt any of you will remember me (I certainly don't recognise a lot of the names on this thread) but I don't come on here because it's just not the same. It used to be so much fun and we had such a laugh. I was suspended and after that I had to watch everything I said and it just became boring. So many over sensitive posters.

I remember you The Real Tricks!.... You might not recognise my name though!

There really are fewer and fewer of the originals, and fewer posts from those that are still on here. I don't know most the people on here anymore other than the odd one here and there whereas on the Facebook group I feel like I know most of that lot so I prefer it.

I actually think there might be a few on to go. Seen them come and go over time.

Ahh this is sad. But I know she's very busy.

I loved it when people could really speak their minds and not have to worry about what was being said. A few over sensitive people have ruined it really. I miss the days of scary bluntness!

I think in WP especially people are very sensitive. Woe betide you if you say anything less than complimentary about someone's wedding. I was worried the other day about saying that I'm not a fan of the French manicure! I think maybe a lot of the users haven't used forums before and so they're not used to people being a bit blunt or cutting online. If all they've ever known is facebook where their friends will just say "u ok hun?" whenever they complain, rather than suggest that they might be being a brat/bridezilla, they're gonna struggle here.

I've only been on here a year or so & even then it was quite blunt but it has changed ,even in that time. So much so I'm struggling with my HITCHED AWARDS (shameless promotion) because rarely does a hitcher or a thread stand out.

I have no issues with people speaking their minds.

I've only been on here a year or so & even then it was quite blunt but it has changed ,even in that time. So much so I'm struggling with my HITCHED AWARDS (shameless promotion) because rarely does a hitcher or a thread stand out.

I have no issues with people speaking their minds.

I must say I don't appreciate it when someone jumps down my throat for saying something! I was surprised the other day when that happened, like it was ok for them to have an opinion on something I'd said (that was based on very little info and wrong) but not for me to have an opinion? That said though, sometimes I read comments and want to ask if they'd say that to their face, I'm sure some people are deliberately nasty! I've read a couple like that recently.

I got engaged and married in 8 months, so I haven't been here long!

Yep, it got no fun when lots of little brides decided that whatever regulars said it was nasty, so we left. If your not allowed to be honest then this isn't somewhere I want to be.

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Yeah it seems some people come on here asking for honest opinions but actually wanting us to be all fluffy and just agree with whatever they say.

The fact is that we are all here posting on a public forum and often asking for others opinion on whatever we've posted. Posters can't then get mad when someone doesn't agree/calls them out bad behaviour/takes the p*ss etc or whatever. At the end of the day comments are made usually based on the info the OP provides anyway. So I do think Many hitchers need to Man-up.

It does make me wonder how many people in general surround themselves with others who only tell them what they want to hear.

As an aside - Don't forget as well that when writing tone and expression can be lost anyway & some comments aren't always meant as they might be read.

I took Mrs Shep's comment to mean that she commented on someone's thread and they jumped down her throat with very little info to go on... Might be wrong though... Mrs Shep?

I think a lot gets lost in translation especially when you don't know whom you're talking to. On the other hand some ladies are very sensitive and just want everyone to agree.

Do you guys know why you've stopped being blunt? I appreciate that lots of people moan about getting a blunt response, but what's stopping you from carrying on as before? I noticed someone said they got suspended. Has that got something to do with it?

Basically mini said she might get back into things or she'd lose her hitched award, and I suggested the recent post about the 40k budget as a good starting point. I immediately got people saying I was jealous, when actually it was that the OP sounded like a spoilt brat! Having read subsequent posts she doesn't sound as bad as the first post made out, but even if I was jealous, what's wrong with that? She was whining as if it wasn't going to be enough, when most people on here could only dream of that kind of money for their wedding day. So it was actually people getting snooty on someone else's behalf!

People don't need to be rude to get their point across, but people do need to accept that they're on a public forum, and that people have differing opinions. Accept them or don't ask for them!