Where have you taken your inspiration for your wedding from?

Hiya,

I don't really know where my ideas came from really. I have always loved the colour I picked or should I say I love warm colours. Also h2b felt he suited a darker colour better. The rest is just looking, I have wanted 3 types of jewerally for bm's. Now I have something totally different, the favours has been changed a 1000 times. But things I never thought of or heard of has been through hitched and you girlies really. I had always known that I wanted my bm to be in a 2 piece dress so that they might be able to wear it again. Then I went for silver as its versitile (hope I spelt that right) I have liked lots of different things. But then when I have seen what I liked most or should I say when something stood out I knew it was right to have or use.

good example, h2b bought me a disc of tv to make wedding invite only cost £15. But when I received it. Did not like it really difficult to use, and also the ink and paper you would have to use was scary and then it would not print to normal size etc. Was not interested one bit in making invites, kept putting it off. Then h2b made a comment, I then basically decided to do it all my self. With the help of Paperchase and the bay of e. Within less than 48 hours I had the design and was making the invitations.

Don't worry everything will come together, and you will know when you like or want the item for the wedding. I have no theme, expect the colours Burgandy, silver and ivory.

HTH

x

Thanks Fiona,

I am interested to see what other brides are like in their planning phase, is it normal not to have any clue of what you want, or is normal to have the whole wedding planned since you were 5 years old?

S

I didn't have a clue. I'd previously not given any thought to what I wanted, no point if you are not even engaged. I kind of knew I wanted it to be quite traditional with no gimmicks or 'different' things (which are never actually that different anyway) so I was kind of led by that really.
I picked my bouquet from the florist's brochure, my dress was dictated by what suited me rather than what I liked and all I knew about the BMs dresses was that I preferred tea length rather than full. The actual style was dictated by them. I am quite laid back about it all ?

Hiya Misses,

You have plenty of time, I think girls do have an idea of their dream wedding. I always thought about a church and horse carriage. All princesy like. But we are having a rolls royce 1930's car which I love and a civil ceromany in a hotel.

Just say for example Ttoday I am going to look at wedding cars, make appointments sit in them you know what you will like. I loved the idea of a Beauford vintage car but it was to small for h2b to sit behind the driver (not suited for a 6ft ex rugby player). But also seeing the newer wedding cars against the old. I knew I wanted vintage.

x

HI

Nope I haven't know what I wanted since I was 5, (well apart from a brief flirtation with wanting to get married in a corn ield in a cotton dress with bare feet and flowers in my hair when i was about 6) personally I make it up as I go along, one day I want a chic glam 1920's/ 30's type wedding the nex country garden boho relaxed type affair. Right now I tend to google what ever flavour if the day is and then use those ideas (oly right now I have a millio ideas that aren't coherent).

If I don't get a better idea of what I want soon, I may well hand the whole lot over to my sister who is much artier and more creative than myself. (or I will win th elottery and hire a wedding planner which ever happens first.).

I think looking at pictures and then using what you like as your inspiration is a great way to plan your wedding

x

Hi Saracroft

It makes perfect sense! Good question.

I've never been one to really agree with the whole idea that all girls have a picture of their wedding day since the age of 10 or something - it certainly wasn't true for me! I honestly didn't even think about my future wedding day until I was actually proposed to - I thought about my future husband, and what he would be like, all the time, (before I met him obviously) but not my wedding day! If that makes sense?

I think most brides have to take inspiration from other weddings really, yes you can have some original ideas that come from you only but a lot of it is based on things you've seen in the past and have made an impact, etc - in my opinion. My personal wedding 'style,' or concept of what I want the day to be like, has changed constantly since we've got engaged and I still think bits of it will probably change within the next year or so. That doesn't really bother me. The only 1 thing that has stayed consistent is that I've never wanted a 'girly girly' wedding - instead I want a classy and sophisticated one, quite classic and traditional (except for the lack of church, obviously!). But interpretations of that are different in everyone's eyes and even my own opinions have changed, so that's not set in stone either.

I think this is why sites like Hitched are really valuable for wedding planning - I have already formed so many ideas on what I definitely do want as well as what I don't, and what I really like and really dislike - I really think I would be lost without it!!

Hope that makes sense and wasn't just waffle?!

Stazzle your reply is exactly how I feel! This is exactly what I used to do!! ?

It is really interesting to see all your replies - I love the fact that everyone is just so completely different.....i.e. there is no normal IYSWIM?

I roughly had ideas of what I wanted, and also being engaged before I had got some ideas together. However, all these ideas have changed from the last time, apart from wanting ivory flowers!

The church and reception were from driving past, and a friends wedding there. The photographer was at another wedding. Most other things are from ideas I have seen in magazines, searched for on the net etc.

Hi sarahcroft.

I can so totally sympathize!! I had a rant about this this morning re 'centerpiece ideas' thread which, BTW only got 4 responses, cumon ladies help us out!! ?

I had absolutely no idea about what I wanted and didn't have any ideas for the wedding at all, also H2B stated quite clearly up untill the 3rd year we were going out, that he didn't want to get married at all.

Chose the dress according to what suited me, and its really simple as I knew more about what I didn't want then what I wanted so that narrowed it down quite a bit! then I chose colour scheme according to colours I liked and that were 'me' so to speak. MY save the dates were done by an idea I liked online, slightly modified - but now I think the style of the invites (modern) is not going to work with the style of the dress (Empire line think Jane Austin style) and this is becoming V confusing, I don't really have a 'theme' and a bit lost for ideas to pull the whole thing together so it won't look like a mis-matched mess!! To add to all this I keep changing my mind!

enough ranting...

I had no idea. Was never the big-white-wedding type.

However, we booked a ceilidh and the little church up the road and it's turned into a village-fayre-folksy event ever since. Getting ideas from everywhere, as long as I can make them myself. Hitchers, blogs, wedding planner websites, picture mood boards. It's all coming together in my head, I just hope it works on the day.

Does everything have to match? (theme wise)

my dress is soo not gonna match ☹️ and to add to it H2B is sorting music out and wants 70's boogie !?

Matching, smatching.

I figured out early on that if everything has to match it'll cost a fortune. My colour scheme has just grown to accommodate this (see below - totally mis-matchy, or at least only matchy in places). Just have confidence and it'll be FINE!

Fancyfree, that is just FAB!!!

I see I need to Chill slightly....

I had absolutely no idea what I wanted....... the dresses I set out to have originally were bordering on the 18th century, lololol....

I cannot recall the moment when I said 'Hey about the 40s????' It just started to come about as I looked in magazines for invitation ideas......

Incidentally, the decider was he is an expert on WW2 and I love the music of the era and singing jazz. And the main comment of the whole wedding was 'This is sooooooooo Nona' lol.

Id love to do it all again tbh!

Teehee I think you hit the nail on the head there - the most important thing about the whole theme, colour combos, decor is that it suits your personality and is 'you'.

thinking back at my little sis's wedding, they had a really simple setup but it was really 'them' and that was the best thing about it.

I get a lot of inspiration from from wedding blogs (mostly US ones). Most of my friends are OMs now so I have more of an idea of what I want / don't want from the weddings I've attended.

I get so easily swayed by new ideas though! The loose theme is something between rustic and sparkley / glam which I know is quite a contrast!

I'm very keen for the end result to be something that accurately represents my OH & I and not to get carried away with traditions or things that others thing we should have IYSWIM.

What a good question.

I don't think i've necessarily always had an idea of what i wanted. I used to think about my future life, married life with babies and a country cottage and a dog.

When i started thinking about my wedding all i knew was that i wanted something that was more about me and mr delicious and reflected our personalities. We weren't sure if that was all the traditional wedding breakfast and evening do, but when we talked about it we decided that no it wasn't. So then we talked about what we wanted, something more informal, and so i just started googling 'non traditional weddings' or 'informal weddings' and thought a teaparty and bbq were us. I'd seen it in one or two of the magazines as well and thought it looked lovely. I've always quite liked shabby chic and vintage, and the garden party just seemed to fit that nicely.

I've not got many other ideas of what i really want. Stationary i think i'll just know it when i see it really. I have an idea of the types of dresses i love, but whether they will actually suit me i don't know. What i'll do if i can't find one i don't really know because i'm not always a huge fan of the A-line white dress with lots of sparkle. I have ideas for flowers, some of them are my favourite, which is gerberas, but i also really love the idea of seasonal meadow flowers in vases and tea pots, or even nice jam jars, for centre pieces which i saw in a wedding magazine.

So mostly my inspiration has just come from our personalities and what we love doing and have found bits and pieces and a theme which fit that.

xx

I didn't have an idea before we started planning either. Although I do have quite particular taste and I know what I like when I see it so I think that made things easier.

I found that I couldn't think about the whole thing for 'inspiration' as a whole to start with. We needed to get a venue first as that would dictate a lot about the style of the wedding.

I personally didn't want to get my dress before we had the venue, once we did I chose my dress. I just went with what I liked, not to fit with a theme as such - but then things went from there. I tried to find BM dresses that complimented my dress (both had pleats and ruching).

I found it easiest to do it piece by piece and tried to choose things that would compliment each other - probably easier as I tend to like quite plain and simple designs.

Are you still struggling for ideas?

I wouldn't say I really took inspiration from anywhere, I've just sort of made it up as I went along but the internet has been my friend through the whole thing ?

Pretty much every part of the wedding has been decided through lots and lots and lots of looking at websites once I had a few basic ideas.

I knew I wanted an ivory dress rather than white, and I knew I didn't want strapless so that narrowed it down quite a bit to start with. Then a friend told me about Maggie Sotterro and I fell in love with one of hers which was exactly what I was looking for.

The colour scheme was a process of elimination, my favourite colour is purple but my sister had that for her wedding and I didn't want to be a copycat so that left me with burgundy or dark green (I like deep rich colours) - H2B said "green's not a wedding colour" so that was that!

Flowers were easy, I like lillies so as long as they were in there I was happy, and I decided on silk flowers so I could keep them afterwards. My friend's sister is a florist and I really like her work so I was happy to leave the rest to her as long as I had my lillies!

The rest has all just come together from there, we did "steal" the idea of having an old fashioned bus as wedding party transport from a friend's wedding, and the cake made of cheese was from seeing an advert in a wedding fayre brochure.

Thanks everyone!

I think I know what I would like now - I was just curious to see how others have achieved thier "vision" if you know what I mean

I have certainly taken most of our ideas and themes from the internet - internet is my best friend !!!!

Inspiration? I was supposed to have inspiration?

I never really thought about getting married, so I wasn't one of those annoying girls who have an idea of their perfect wedding all mapped out from about age 5 apart from the groom. I often wonder what they do after the wedding? If they've been planning for something all their lives, what happens when it's over?

Anyway. Venue: It's a national trust property that we visited before we got engaged. We noticed they did weddings, and had a little what if moment though.

Colour scheme. Sherrie suggested it, and I liked it. Although I hate the idea of a colour scheme. Some things won't match, but who's really going to notice?

Leafy bits. We're getting married in Autumn, so it seemed the preditctable choice!

I don't know really. It just kind of fell into place.

Heya!

Maybe it's good you didn't have any ideas before you started planning, the only 'vision' I've ever had for my wedding day is that it'd be big and fancy / in the summer, with lots of greenery.....in actual face it couldn't be more opposite - we're getting married February and due to the size of his family it's gonna be big, but not really fancy...quite an informal do! My experience of weddings is very limited too...only a few as a child! I only have 2 married friends - one sodded off to Cuba and didnt tell ANYONE, not even her parents! and the other had to bring her wedding forward, ended up having on 8days to plan it - so just went to the registry office and pub after (tho that actually turned out quite nice and certainly took away all this stress and hassle planning).
so in a very long way to answer your question - i've relied on hitched to plan this wedding completly!! lol and glad I'm not the only one! it's been interesting reading peoples replies! xx