Who are you having at your hen do?

All the ladies!! Er I think not! Ive not ever heard of that tradition, and if it is one its certainly one ill be breaking!

Im just having my family, close friends, and OH's sister. I had invited someone who was only coming to the evening do but then decided to invite her to the whole thing rather than take her off my hen do as she will be travelling down from wales, to brighton for my wedding!

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I'm having 2 - a small one with my closer friends but not all of these people will be coming to the whole day cos of a restriction with our numbers.

The 2nd one will be a dinner most of the females that are coming to the wedding, wether it be full or evening, will be invited to. I'm not inviting girls that I don't know like from OHs work etc.

I think its your hen do and should invite exactly who you want - don't feel talked into some huge hen party when you don't really know half of the people there.

I'm having two, the first one is 8 of us going to Benidorm for 3 days aagghhh can't wait, girls going to this are my bridesmaids and really close friends. The second one is, for my friends that couldn't come away and will be coming to either the day or evening reception.

I agree, it's your hen do and only have who you really want there xx

Hen Do?? how organised are you?

Personally I am not likely to have a hen do but in my experience you just invite the people you want, and deafinately don't feel obliged to invite all the ladies invited to the wedding.

One of my firends had her Hen do with just the people sh wanted but then the evening before the wedding they went out to dinner and invited any guests who wanted o to join them for dinner or a drink after that way everyone felt included in the pre wedding fuss with out

A) trying to come up with a hen do to cater for all tastes

and

B) Making guests feel obliged to attended a hen do that they may not really want to go to just because they had been asked

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Hi,

I'm a bit worried about who to invite, it's difficult isn't it because you don't want to offend, but you need to feel relaxed and be able to spend time with the people you want, not look after those you don't know that well, or aren't close to. Hmm, a bit like the wedding!

That's def not a tradition, and I would also say don't worry about inviting evening people, it's totally up to you, and i've been to a few hen do's when i'm only going to the eve do - I wasn't offended in the slightest, it didn't even occur to me to be honest

I think I'm inviting just friends, but am having a bit of a Mum dilemma! As much as I love her and she'll be up for a drink, etc, I don't want my friends to feel like they have to be on best behaviour, and I don't really want to have to look after her all night, or her not to enjoy! I'm thinking of suggesting a do just for us and taking her to a show in London or something...it's tricky!

Good luck x

I'm having 2 aswell.

The 1st one is in Magaluf & it's close friends a family (including my mum) the 2nd one will be a night out for all the original hen do girlies plus anyone who couldn't make or didn't want to do the Magaluf hen do.

Just having my bridesmaids and some close friends. would never invite all the women - too many old boring relatives etc! i dont think u need to invite anyone apart from the people you really want to celebrate your so-called 'last night of freedom' with?

i think one of my bridesmaids is meant to be organising it but i know she hasn't even started and i am kinda annoyed cos i want it sorted! going to be a long weekend away somewhere in the UK or Europe... xx

Ooooo aliaisp I've just noticed your another one of my date twins!!!! ?

I am not doing that! No way! I am having 2 - a weekend away for 11 close friends then a night out in London for a larger group of people including cousins, maybe an auntie, OH's female friends etc.

I had one with all my girly friends which was organised by my Chief BM and then I had one the night before the wedding in Portugal with a few of the ladies who had come along including my mum, MIL, aunts and friends...although we were joined by the men later and it was brilliant!

I've invited the people I want there. Only having 1 organised by my bridesmaids.

LMAO you are soooooooooooo funny, im having pretty much who i want to my hen do ther are a couple of people coming who im not actualy even inviting to my wedding but they are lovely all the same and although are a couple of nutters i did used to go to school with them, the others are my mum, two of my sisters (one is my CBM) my sisters friend (she is also becoming a pretty good friend of mine now and has babysat my boys a few times) My bestest friend in the whole wide world and another friend who i met at a mother and baby group when i had my youngest - who is now 6!!!! OMG again i feel soooooooooo old - is 31 old??? i dont know x x x

hahahah its true! ha!

having 2 is a great idea, maybe ill have something a bit more wild for all my fun, younger friends and then a tame meal or something for all the boring oldies!

ha

heyyyy! yea there are loads for 17th july - know at least 3 others. saturday in the middle of summer was bound to be a popular day! xx

Same here, well I 've only invited them to the evening reception.

I know, we actually wanted to get married the 1st week in September but the venue we wanted only had 17th of July available or dates in October so we went with the 17th.