Who in RL knows your Hitched User Name?

H does know my username but I doubt he ever comes on hitched to "check up on me". Hitched is my place and he knows that.

No one else in RL, apart from Hitchers that have become real life friends, knows my username.

My H knows as i have shown him funny threads before. i doubt he comes on to see what i am saying, not that i have anything to hide.

I think my ex-h knew who I was on here but I'm pretty sure he didn't check up on me either.

OH has had a wibble recently with trust as we live 100 miles apart and he knows I work opp. ex-H.

I have nothing to hide but just like to be able to come on here and not look over my shoulder IYSWIM

Mr delicious knows and i think one of my housemates might know. but its my place and neither of them check up on me.

Mmm i suppose I have nothing to lose by showing him, esp. since I seem to have just lost all my account detaisl LOL I guess I just feel a bit protective of 'my space'.

He's just walked through to get the polish out of the shed and is clearly sulking despite denying it - gah!

MrSC and my best friend know my username I reckon, it's my username for most stuff and they've both seen me posting (in fact MrSC often asks me to 'ask the internet' about stuff ?). I don't really think either of them would look and I don't really say anything they don't already know (about me or them).

Ex Mr Dief knows it, and I know he used to search for my posts. No idea if he still does, and frankly no longer care. No one else knows, apart from people who know me in RL who also post on Hitched.

Yes my H, my sister and my cousin know my username but my H posts on a gaming forum and I'de never check up on him so know he wouldn't do the same. Don't think the others are active anymore as were only on WP.

I suppose on his part its just curiosity. He doesn't 'get' the whole Hitched thing and tbf why would he? How the hell do explain it to someone?! I've told him I posted when I needed some shopping help and told about some bits on BT which I found particulary sad so I can understand how he wouldn't get the seemingly 'randomness' that is Hitched LOL

My best friend knew my username but there isn't anything I don't tell her, we had a bit of a DTC journey together so we've done all the ins and outs of a whatsits bum and I know she doesn't come on here anyway

There are times when I suspect that my OH may be on to me, but I think I've got away with it so far.

I was going to say 'hitched couples need not reply' in the OP LOL ?

Seeing my hitched username is my real first name technically anyone that knows my name lol.

My H knows all about hitched but he only comes on in there is something I said he should read.

I suppose it depends if you would come here to ask for advice about something you dont want him to see, but if you wanted to do that you could come on on an anon ID.

mmm now what makes you say that?

My H knows my username, has done for ages. Two of my friends also know my username, but one doesn't come on here anymore and the other is a long term lurker. When we were TTC I changed to an anon login so I could frequent BT without being found out, as it was the second friend figured out who I was after only a month but didn't say anything until after we'd had our BFP ?

Mr FtG knows who I am on here. As does my sister, who posts occasionally, usually on BT. I think Mr ftG knows hers username too, and I know her husband knows her username.

My parents know about Hitched, mainly because my sister got so much support here when she had her first daughter. They don't know my username, and I don't know of they know my sister's.

Mr Orly knows I come on here; I don't know if he knows my user name. I've only told one RL friend about this forum, but not told her my user name.

Exactly what jelly baby said.

WTS, wouldn't bother me though, we have no secrets, and I don't post sensitive stuff.

MrH knows. Let's face it, it doesn't take a massive leap of imagination to work it out ? I don't think he reads the boards - he knows it's my place - but I can completely understand wanting to have somewhere that's 'yours'.

I know this isn't really what you're asking but I did start wondering once how he woudl feel if he did read my posts and it did make me think carefully about what I said on here. I don't think I've ever said anything I wouldn't want him to read, but I realised I wanted it to stay that way. If it would hurt him to read it, then it would be disloyal to post it, whether or not I thought he was lurking. Does that make sense?

Perfect sense Hazel - I feel exactly the same.

Mr L. knows my hitched name - as does my Mum, but I don't think she would ever check the site and Mr L. never would, he thinks it very odd. With Mum, it came out in a conversation we were having about internet forums and usernames, she asked what mine was and I couldn't lie to her ?

I use that as my moral barometer for pretty much everything. I ask myself "would Mr FtG mind/be hurt/would i be ashamed to tell him" and if the answer is yes i figure I probably shouldn't do/say/write it.

(I should add, I don't tend to need to ask myself this question often - i don't regularly do things which i think may be morally debatable ?)

Mr J does. That's it. I wouldn't tell anyone I know IRL that I post here because it wouldn't exactly be hard to figure out who was me. It is one of the reasons that I have never joined the Hitched FB group.

My sister does, and I know hers (angel delight)

I didn't tell her mine for ages though she knew I posted on here. I worked hers out on an introduction thread i think!

I sometimes think twice about what i post on here, but she knows everything anyway so normally just post away

Mr G knows mine, well, more or less anyway, but he knows Hitched is my thing so he doesn't snoop afaik ?. Since I use my 1st name as part of my ID I'm probably easy to identify...but I'm also very paranoid that I might be found via a random google from a friend or family member, so if I felt the need to post something sensitive, private or moany about myself or them, I would go anon. I've managed to stop myself so far - the only people/thing I've moaned about to my knowledge are/is my son's school, and they deserved it ?

I just wanted to pop back on and say thanks to those who replied.

I think what Hazel & FTG said sum it up really, I just think the thing was that my ex-H knew my username but never checked up on me and knows I used it mainly for support on the DTC thread, it saved me chowing on to him about it all the time! I found it really helpful to have a place to come where people going through a similar experience could come and be open about their feelings, lean on each other and get support. Ex-H and I been though so much together in our 6 yrs together that I had nothing to hide and yes, if i thought it was something I wouldn't want him to read or may upset/offend I wouldn't put it.

With my new bf we haven't been together all that long and while we have been through an enormous amount of things in a very short space of time it is still very early days for us and I guess I felt I needed to protect my 'space'.

Thanks again to those who replied x