Who is giving you away ?

My dad may not be able to walk me down the isle as he's not good on his feet so i'm thinking of having my Cousin who is like a brother.

However i am considering walking myself down the isle x

Im in a very similar situation so i have asked a close family member as well as my son who will be 3 to do it. everyone's instant reaction is awwww when i say my sons giving me away to his daddy!

P.s i can't spell Aisle lmao

I'm having my 15 year old son give me away. My dad died 21 years ago and I would rather my mother didn't even attend the wedding let alone have any role!

My cousin had her mum give her away and it was a really lovely moment for both of them (her dad had died about 4 years before). Its also not unheard of to walk down on your own - you can also ask for the "who gives this woman . . ." bit to be omitted as well if you wanted

Good luck with your choice

When people ask me and i say prob myself... they are like oh can you do that...

Do you have to have someone give you away in church , im not sure and i hate asking the woman who sorts out the weddings at my church , i think she already thinks im stupid ! x

Dads normally do this as it symbolises them ( the man responsible for his daughter) passing the role to the next man .

As you say many mums do it now, but there is no reason why you can't walk down the aisle on your own if you are happy to do it, other than that, who has been the main man in your life when you were growing up ? Grandad? Uncle? brother ? they'd be my next thoughts if i were in your position.

Regards

L x

I decided when I was 15 that my brother would give me away, my dad is coming to the wedding but we have a distant relationship although I have asked him to be my witness.

I still have something in my head saying it should be my dad but it would be like walking down the aisle with a stranger. So a hard decision but my brother it is.

I think thats what makes it so hard, ive never had the male role in my life, my grandad died and 56 of a heart attack and cant remember him. By the time i was born my uncles already had their own children. My cousins now have their own wives and i live 100 miles away from my family now so dont keep regular contact with any one really any more.

My partner is the first man i have 100% trusted and main man in my life but obviously he cant do it. I woould love to walk up with my son , but he is a typical boy so dont know if its too much responsibility for him.

I think i will just have to either walk up with my mother :? or myself x

My mum is giving me away. I don't think you have to have anyone if you don't want. How old is your son? That could be really nice.

Went to a wedding last year, OH's friend was the bride. Another friend of his walked her down the aisle. There had been a close-ish group of them growing up, and her parents had both passed away, so she asked a close male friend.

My Mum gave me away last time, she was the only one who had the right to do this in my eyes. She passed away last year so I've asked the person who I am closest to now, other than my OH, my sister will be walking me down the aisle.

Only you can decide who you want to give you away, I don't think it is compulsory to have someone do this, and you can always walk down the aisle with your OH if you want to!

My 2 sons, age 13 and 8 are walking me down the aisle. My Dad passed away so they seemed the natural choice for me x

I always said from a yound age that My Grandad would, and he is going to! Hes so happy to do it, hes 86! x

In your situation, your son is the main man in your life, so why not let him walk down the aisle with you ? plus at 5 yo its would soooooo have the cute factor ! ?

My step dad is walking me down the aisle x

My dad should have been walking me down the aisle as my step dad did it last time, however my dad has not spoken to me for the last two months because i hadnt invited everyone he wanted and the fact that he had got to pay £70 quid for a room for the night, so now my gorgeous 14 yr old son is doing it, and when i asked him he looked so happy !!

Hi Tinkytayls

My mum had me when she was young and I have never met my father either therefore my mum is walking me down the aisle and tbh I couldnt think of anyone I would want more than her. She brought me up all on her own and did a brilliant job and I never had a real male figure in my life apart from my grandad who is sadly no longer with us.

I did think about my cousin but I have two male cousins and didnt want to upset the other, I think its rather common now for mums to walk there daughters down the aisle. Do you have any brothers or sisters?

Charlotte x

My dad was never around when I was growing up so I always thought my grandad would do it but we've been back in touch for the last few years and have a relationship now so my dad will do it. I think I want to travel to the ceremony with my mum though and have her next to me at the top table though my dad will be doing a speech. I think having your son do it would be so sweet, if not that do u have a grandad? I don't think u should go with someone your not close to just for the sake of having a man do it far better to have your mum!

My brother is walking me down the aisle as this is what my dad asked to happen before he passed away 1 1/2 years ago

I have a half sister but she is my bridesmaid and she wouldnt walk with me any way .

I have a large family but i am one of the young / middle grandchildren so most already have sisters and wives now plus in not close with them.

My son is 5 and it would look cute but he is a bit of a live wire, and can see him skidding down on his knees ....

Tinkytayls, I think you should have your Mum give you away. If she's been there for you then she's the right choice. It would probably mean the world to her also.

No one is giving me away and I've asked for the "who gives this lady..." bit to be removed. However my sister will be walking with myself and flower girl from changing area near beach to beach so they may as well walk down the little 'aisle' bit too.

Why would you not want her to?

At 5 yo , it would only be expected that he be excited, but he will be holding your hand and you can tell him what an important job he has, so he might surprise you and take it very seriously, plus lets face it if he goes skidding down the aisle on his knees it will only only show your guest how excited he is that his mummy is getting married anyway and what a great photo it would make !

Good Luck

L x

My dad is giving me away, if for any reason he couldn't do it then I would want my Grandad.

I'm not being 'given away' but my son will be walking down the aisle with me (he's 8).

My Mum's giving me away, but if she hadn't agreed (finally!) then my brother or her brother would have done it

I think people should have who they want, not who they think they should have!

there are a few reasons why i am unsure to having my mum. I love her dearly but we dont always see eye to eye. SHe and my sister are much closer than i am with her.... Things are always black and white , and yes it prob would mean the world to her, but not me and for 1 day i think itsfair to say it should be me that things should mean the world to : ).

My son is giving me away, i don't have anything to do with my dad and although i am very close to my step dad but i felt it was something i wanted my son to do (he's 18)

I think its a lovely idea to get you mum to walk you down the aisle.

I reckon your son could walk with you down the aisle.

My lovely mum is giving me away.

I am not inviting step dad to the wedding, plus we don't get on anyway. My Dad hasn't decided if he is coming yet, plus i don't know him well enough for him to give me away, we only recently met!

My dad is giving me away, I couldn't imagine anyone else but that's because I've always been close to both my parents. I think it's a lovely idea for your son to talk you down the aisle if that's what you want. x

I'm having 2 people give me away: My brother and my step dad. Not sure how it's going to work but, we'll figure it out