Who is paying for what...?

Hi,

I think I just answered your post on another forum?

Hi,

Just come back from Rhodes having got married there. All our guests paid for their own holiday & stayed where they wanted to. We had guests spread all in 3 different resorts, which did not matter to us as it was their holiday. We all met up a few nights before the wedding for a drink & a meal & then obviously everyone came together for the wedding day but other than that everyone did their own thing. This is what we wanted as the 2 weeks we were there was our honeymoon as well so we didn't want to have people with us all the time as it was our holiday to. On the wedding day after the services, we had drinks in a beach bar with pitta & dips, olives etc for an hour, then we had a champagne boat cruise, there were welcome drinks at the reception, then champagne & a bottle of wine between too, along with 3 course & coffee for those that wanted it, so we made sure they were well looked after. Everyone was happy as they could choose where they wanted to stay & do their own thing & it worked well for us.

Fawny x

Our guests are paying for themselves and choosing where they want to stay. They are just treating it as their yearly holidays then joining us on our day

xx

Fawny, it sounds amazing

Do you fancy planning mine for me lol

x

That's my thoughts but a couple of people have said that it is selfish to go away to get married. I'd do the same for them and would view it as my hoiday with a day or two spent with them "happy couple"

We thought getting married abroad would be a stress free option but I'm worrying about anything and everything people say :-(

Hey ho, off to google totally random wedding things yippee x

We thought stress free too, havent had anyone say we are selfish but my aunty was a bit gutted she wouldnt see me marry because she wont fly! Mum was a bit reluctant at first but talked her round. Dont worry about other people the whole point in the day is for the two of you,

2 weeks in the sun and a wedding, im not complaining ? Where are you planning to go anyway?

Good luck xx

Ooh Auntie - I haven't invited mine (which I think has cause a bit of friction - but I never see my aunties, we send each other Christmas cards and they send me a birthday card).

I saw my grandma at the weekend and she said "your auntie said that people who get married abroad have an evening party when they get back" to which I replied "good grief, organising a wedding is stressful enough without having to deal with additional party shenanigans" phew.

I feel awful restricting numbers but we want to keep costs down. If I invite that auntie (plus uncle) then I'd have to invite the other auntie (plus uncle and daughter).

Glad your mum has talked your auntie round, it must be upsetting to invite someone who declines - I'm in the same boat with my grandma, she can't travel :-(

We still don't have a definitive destination - at this rate if will be wherever we can get in.

My H2B wants his brother there (his parents have both passed away) so we can't arrange anything until the british army see fit to tell him when he will be posted and when he will return.

I will have a nosey at your postings to get a build up of your wedding xxx

Oops, i didnt mean my mum talked my aunty round, i meant my mum was reluctant to go abroad for it but i talked her round. My aunty just wont fly, never has and never will.

Ah ok..bet you cant wait to start making plans.

We have set our date and picked our venue out there, not sure we are having a proper reception, we are going to be out there 6 days before the wedding so maybe find out a nice restaurant for a meal after. Just waiting to book our flights/hotel which my dad is paying for, and we are having a party when we get home with everyone who couldnt come.

How many guests roughly are you taking? We will prob have about 15 including us xxx

That's a shame about your auntie :-(

I tried viewing your thread but can't find details of your wedding etc, do tell...

Guest wise, it was 12 people but my H2B is inviting people (grr) so we are now at 21, maybe 24 if they bring their kids (both single parents so the other parent could take them).

I want to know numbers before I start looking for somewhere - I know some evening venues can only cater for a maximum of X and others cater for a minumum of Y. Plus, once we know how many are coming we can then start budgetting around that. If there are twelve people attending then we would probably go for £100 per head, if there are twenty four people coming it would have to be reduced.

I'm looking at favours, table decorations, balloons, etc, anything that isn't specific to the venue as I don't want to set my heart on somewhere and then find it is fully booked, which may just happen if we don't get a wriggle on.

We'll be the same as you in the evening - a meal somewhere rather than a proper reception.

Are you using a wedding planner? They may be able to suggest places that will give you a section of the restaurant.

xx

Are you hoping for next year? I know our planner said places in Zante was pretty much fully booked for some months next year and June 2014 was booking up too.

Well we are getting married at Alexandra Beach, Zante in May next year.

Want teal/turquoise colour sashes around the chairs, and my little bridesmaid will be in the same colour.

The planner sent a load of reception options but for the price of them im quite happy to have a meal somewhere. xx

Wow - it looks absolutely beautiful

Yes we are looking at next year - sadly my dad is ill and I want him to give me away, so we are looking at sooner rather than later. We're just waiting for his brother to confirm when he will be away and I will soldier on getting a date and venue sorted.

I have found that the reception options are pretty high - I think it's when you mention the word "wedding" lol

I will just have to see what is available when we finally get our date sorted, perhaps I could rustle up a few egg sandwiches on the morning lol x

I think if you are under budget constraints your guests should understand and I'm sure will be grateful for whatever you pay for on their behalf

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I'm shocked at how quickly things mount up. We naively thought a couple of grand would do it but that's not the case - partly because I'm trying to personalise every single item and prtly because we don't want to cheapskate on the guests who are paying money to see us get hitched.

I'm going to make a dress out of our bedsheet so that'll save us a few quid ;-)

We were told last night that his brother may not be going away until September next year which means we can go for August which we had initailly said yippee. I am hoping he will get confirmation before we see him at the weekend and then it is all systems go *panic*

We've paid for our guests accommodation as part of the wedding package, they just have to pay for flights. My Mum & Dad were very much of the opinion that if you're asking people to travel it should not have to cost them too much money. Everyone we've mentioned the wedding to has been a bit shocked though and had expected to pay.

Wow that's incredibly generous of you - I shall pm you my address for the invite lol

It seems the concensus is that guests pay for themselves - H2B is more than happy with that

xx

Hi, are you paying for alcohol for your guests too?

We have been quoted £23 pp for a 4 hour period and we will have 70-80 guests, about 20 of whom dont drink alcohol and are children so Im not sure whether to do this.

I think it will depend on all other costs. It would be nice to pay for everything but I am getting slightly carried away with my ideas lol.

I've never been to a wedding abroad but I imagine I would drink cocktails as that is what I do when I'm in the sun, so the price you have been quoted seems good. I could certainly glue one an hour!

It doesn't seem a good deal for the non booze drinkers.

Are they limiting what alcohol you can have? If it is just local wine and beer then it doesn't seem like a good deal.

It's tough to know what do, the cynic in me feels that the word "wedding" causes costs to rocket.

X

We have paid for our best man's flight and accomodation and my maid of honours accomodation. Everyone else has paid their own flights and accomodation.

Thanks ladies

We're getting to the point of picking the country now so the budget will be the next discussion - wish me luck!!!