Who is sitting/sat at your top table?

Probably just me, groom, our parents, maid of honour and best man.

If we included all bridal party it would be 8 more people including 2 children. Which is fine but There is also a newborn and both parents would be on the top table.

Think it might easier for them to be on a round table etc but may be wrong.

My groom, me, the best man and my sister - the maid of honour. Kept family members at tables either side in front of us. Kept it nice and simple.

We had an oval top table, with (anti-clockwise) Boy, me, my Dad, my Mum, my brother, a family friend, best man, CBM, Boy's BIL, Boy's sister. We had planned to have Boy's Dad and Boy's Mum but they couldn't make it.

All the usher boys happened to be at the top table but two BMs were elsewhere in the room.

We had the two best men, my parents and his parents and us.

Bridesmaids had their own table with their partners in front of the top table and ushers were scattered around.

Not sure I want a traditional top table set up - but will be me, him, both our mums (neither dad around any more), and our 4 kids on a round table

That's if we do the full wedding breakfast option....

Both of my parents have remarried so that leaves me with a dilemma - do I have both sets, OH parents plus the BM & MOH? I wouldn't want both my sets of parents sitting together so who do I sit where?

I'm toying with the idea another poster mentioned, perhaps just me, OH, BM and MOH then have the parents 'hosting' tables of their own. I think our folks will hate that though...

My OH is having 2 best men which has made my top table a lil awkward due to my love of symmetry!!

Think we will have me, OH, my parents, his parent,s 2 best men, MOH and one of the BMs.

Was just going to have us and parents but want the Best men up there for the speeches

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We had a round table with me, groom, grooms mum, my mum, my dad, grooms step-bro (and BM), BM's son (in high chair) BM's wife, my sister (MOH)

We had a long table, left to right would have been BM, H's Dad, my Mum, H, me, my Dad, H's Mum, Chief Bridesmaid. It worked out quite well for us as BM was single (so no girlfriend to worry about where to sit) and my CBM was my 14 year old sister. I would have liked my mum and dad to be sat together but my H's parents aren't together any more and wouldn;t have been able to even tolerate each other for that short time!

This is something I will struggle with. Over here, its bride & groom and bridal party. I feel weird doing parents, especially as I would only have my mom on my side. My only other family attending is my brother and his family. Im considering just doing three round tables near the front. One for me and OH, then a table to each side of us for immediate family

Im having a right nightmare with this one...

My mum and dad split a few years back, my dad pretty much met someone straight away and when the wedding comes round (july 2014) they will have been together roughly 7 years. He seems to think his new partner has a right to be on the top table. I mentioned this to my mum and she got all upset saying she doesnt want to be over shadowed with people whispering 'whos that random woman on the top table' I had/have no intention of putting my dads gf on the top table, it never even occured to me that he might expect this. But i WAS going to have my sister (MOH)'s partner on as he really doesnt know anyone else. So because of this my dad thinks everyones partners should be on. Which would mean there would be:

Me, boy, My mum, My dad, dads gf, Moh, MOHBF, OH's mum, her new husband, OH'S dad, best man, best mans bf.

But i CANT put my dads gf on the table as it will ruin the day for my mum, but i really want my sisters bf and out best mans gf on as shes a close friend.

Confuddled

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We're just having the two of us and our parents. Brothers, best man, bridesmaid etc will be sitting at a round table in front .

I have this issue. They haven't remarried, but they both have new partners and there is more than a little animosity between them (which they vehemently deny).

So, we're going to have Me, hubby, his parents and my mum and dad, plus the best man and maid of honour (my sister) at the top table. This does mean some people sitting away from their partners but- in all fairness- our venue is so tiny they can probably still have a conversation on different tables!

We had round tables and on the 'top table' was me & H, my 2 adult b.maids, best man and his wife and an usher and his wife.

either side each of our mum's 'hosted' a table with close family/god parents.

Oh no, sorry i didnt make my self very clear did i lol. My OH's mums new hubby wasnt going to be on the top table, but if i had to have my dads gf on there then he would have to be. I think my dad see it as well if your sisters bf is on there then why cant my gf be.

But i mean my sister and her bf have been together longer and my dads gf is nothing to me, shes not part of the bridal party and theres not a chance in hell im goin to upset my mum and have everyone whispering ( her side of the family can be quite childish and horrible at times).

Im just gettin tired of trying to keep everyone happy. Weve already had a lot of 'well if so and so's going, then we wont be coming' and it starting to wear us down

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Ah ok - sorry! How about you suggest to your dad that he (and his gf) host their own table? Would he have family members/friends their that would make this possible? Try not to stress about it, make your desicion and they will get over it - or if you had a long top table you could put your dad as far away as possible from your mum and they'd not have to see each other?!

This is what we're doing too

Well we are having just both sets of parents as we have 5 brothers and sisters between us and i dont think its fair to sit them away from their partners and we have far too many people in the bridal party to pick and chose so thought this was the easiest and fairest way !

Us and our best mates! 2 bridesmaids, 2 best men (1 best man was married to 1 bridesmaid), one of our readers (boyfriend of the other bridesmaid) and an usher

It was fab!

His parents are divorced and re-married and adding them all would be too much. The family were all on one table instead.

We're having a round top table in the middle of the room.

I imagine it wil go;

Bride, groom, MOG, FOG, best man (OH's bro), OH's bro's wife (she's not a bridesmaid though), MOB, FOB.

I have no fricking idea ?

For the exact reason of messy families...

were having a top table that consists of me and OH :-)

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I don't think we'll have a top table. It's a bit too formal. Not quite sure how it's going to work yet but think everyone will just be sat with their friends so it's all quite relaxed. That's the plan at the moment anyway!

I had friends who were married and their top table was just them : dinner a deux. It was their alone time, which everyone has recommended to me that you try and find for yourself in the day.

Mine will be OH's daughter (who is also a bridesmaid), OH's son, My Mum, My Dad, Me, OH, OH'S mum, OH's Dad, BMan 1, BMan 2

Me, H, both sets of parents, Best man and Man of honour.

We had just the 2 of us, so much easier with all the family dramas!

Ours is a round table (not really a top table but we're at the top of the room).

It'll be OH and me, with our parents, + 2 best men, MOH and bridesmaid

Me, him, my parents and his parents.

The bridesmaids (my sister and sil2b) will be with friends and the nest men will be with a group of friends.