Who to have as Bridesmaids

I'm having four adult bridesmaids (3 of which are my sisters and my best friend) i'm also having 2 flowergirls (my neices). It sounds like its going to be quite difficult seen as though you have so many it would cost a fortune to have them all. I'm having the same problem choosing ushers, my partners having two best men as he only has two brothers and wouldn't choose just one, then theres my dad obviously because he is walking me down the isle we didn't want my partners dad to feel left out so he's being one. I have 4 brothers but have decided to just have the two older ones you've got to draw the line somewhere. All in all - 4 adult bridesmaids-2 flower girls-4 ushers and 2 pageboys!! Good Luck Hun!

Well we are having the grooms father and brother as best men my brother as an usher and the grooms best friend too and my son as a page boy so all the grooms men are sorted it's just my ladies that need sorting!

I'm having my twin sis and my sis in law and my two neices as flower girls. My Inlaws2B want one of my OH's sisters but I only want two bridesmaids, so we've already hit a big hiccup as we're not talking. However it is your choice, go with who your closer too or if all else fails ask your bridesmaids to buy their own dresses if they want to be a part of your big day. That way everyone has a choice whether or not to be one of your bridesmaids. x

Hi and welcome.

We had same dilemma as yourelf. Too many nieces and nephews also sisters. We are having quite a small do (50 guests) and personally I thought it would look stupid having half the guests in the wedding party. ALso I really really couldnt justify spending all the money on them! So, even though it has caused a bit of upset I have opted for our two daughters and thats it! No adult bridesmaids (although I would like them), all they do is walk down with you and wear the same dresses they will never wear again, so point really see the point, but thats my view. Also since I put my foot down about it no-one has bothered to try and interfere with anything else involving the wedding.

Lucky you Charlie, We've decided not to let anyone chip in money wise so we dont have to agree to anything. But the bridesmaid thing I can see being thr topic of conversation everytime we go to my inlaws. x

Hi Bailey Wailey, I am also having my twin sister and my brother's little girl, we had the same problem too many nieces friends kids etc, so kept it simple, my other half's best friend is best man and my sister's two boys ( aged 10 and 11 when we get married ). please don't let others tell you different as it is your day ( that applys to anyone by the way)

bridetobehaha

I know and when having OH's sis as a bridesmaid became an issue i spoke to him about it, He also said he didn't want her as a bridesmaid and was happy for me to just have my sis and sis in law. None of his familly are in the wedding party as his best friend is the best man, and I can see why they're upset but as i told them it's our day and we will have who we want., we don't want to be badgered into something that will not make us happy x

It probably will be but stand firm - like bridetobe said its your day, make a decision then be strong. since I havent asked my sisters kids ive noticed a distinct lack of interest from her but Im not going to let it ruin my day or my planning time leading up to it.

Neither me or my OH have sisters or neices or nephews so that was easy!

I'm having my 2 best mates - one of which is up-duffed and due 2 weeks before the wedding! Should be interesting! ?

OH is not have one particular Best Man, the duties will be shared - Our Bothers are the witnesses, plus my best mates OH (the up-duffed one!) and 2 other really good friends of ours.

As of now I've not got any bridesmaids. I don't want little kids but I am kind of thinking a friend would be good to just be there for me and help with practical things on the day. Having said that my best friend has sort of got planned the dress she wants to buy so I don't know if she'd want to do it really?

I had just one bridesmaid - my sister. If I'd had a bigger wedding, I'd have had 2 of my best friends and my 2 SIL's as well. It would have been mayhem getting everything organised though as they live so far apart and have such different shapes and styles! It would have gotten very messy!

As for helping me out, my sister was there on the day with me, one SIl and one friend did readings, my other SIL organised my hen do (my sister just had a baby, so didn't have a lot of time or brain power to do this!). My other friend was my back up person in case my sister didn't make it to the wedding (again, baby stuff).

There were loads of times in the lead up to the wedding that I felt it would be great to have everyone officially part of the wedding party, but it just wouldn't have worked!

Wow, sounds tough! So many relations!

We're getting enough gried from H2B's mother who is upset he doesn't want his brother to be best man - but that is because he doesn't want 1 best man, he's just going to have loads of mates/relations chip in and do little jobs. So I can imagine your in a pickle, at the end of the day if you are closer to some family rather than others be honest with yourself. I have a big family but some I only see at xmas, so I'd rather closer relatives were involved.

We have to remember we're not made of money ? it is YOUR day.

Im not having any! My friends and my sister will help me get ready and on the day whether they have a fancy 'title' or not!

My easy option would be your friend as adult BM and one each of your nieces also, easier said than done though as i suppose as you then have to decide which two nieces to have! you could still ask your sisters etc to play a part in the day such as helping out getting the bms ready any decs or such like that need sorting on the day x

Thank you to everyone for your help and advice I managed to find my bridesmaids I have my h2b's 2 nieces my son for a ring bearer/page boy and my aunty as my Maid of honour so thank you all for your help and advice it really helped and was most appreciative. XxX