Hi girls
Im having trouble deciding who should be my MOH. I have 5 bridesmaids - my best friend since we were 3, school friend I've known since we were 12, friend from college, work friend I've known for 6 years and my cousin. I always imagined bf would be my MOH we went to nursery primary and high school together. After high school we hardly saw each other for 5 years when she completely dropped all her mates for a boyfriend but when they broke up I forgave her, we became inseparable again, went on holidays etc. I was a single mum by then and she did loads to help me out, babysitting and even cleaning my flat while I was at work. She then had a baby herself (also as a single mum) and we couldn't see each other so often which was fine, I understood she wasn't free to come over all the time anymore. Then Christmas 2010 I go with my OH and she also found a boyfriend and since then it's like it was when she had the bf before. I make an effort to keep in touch as I don't wanna be the girl who drops her mates for OH but I get nothing back. She never wants to meet up, never answers her phone an instead of returning calls I get a text saying "sorry I misse your call, hope your ok" no what did u want or do u wanna meet up. Likewise when we do arrange to meet 9 times out of 10 she cancels. she's done it 3 times in the last week alone. Her bf is at college so I think cos he's not at work all day she revolves her life around him. Now I still love her and wen we do see each other it's like old times and i will always be her friend no matter what BUT it seems kind of silly to have her as MOH when I never see her and I cant imagine her doing much in the way of helping with the wedding planning. On the other hand my friend I've know since 12 has been very enthusiastic about the wedding, she's the only person who doesn't get bored of me talking about it and has already offered to help me out on anyway she can. I'm starting to think I'd like to thank her by having her up on the top table with me, having my other friend there would feel a bit fake to me I think. The only problem is I'll feel wet awkward telling my other friend as I think it's kind of assumed shell be MOH. Who do I choose and if it's the second friend, how do I tell the first?
