Who to have as witnesses?

I don't know if there is an actual tradition but I think we might get moh and best man to do it who are friends (not with each other but with us...separately). Like you, the parents have their roles so I thought it would be nice to get others to do it. I don't want my oh's step parents to do it though as they are relatively new to the family and although I like them they don't really mean anything to me...or oh.

We're having our mothers do it as we felt they didn't have an actual role other than to be there. My dad gets to make a speech, OHs dad is doing a reading so we wanted to involve the mothers. I think it's nice if you have a witness from your side and the OH has one too in my opinion.

We are having moh and bestman, i chose 1 and oh chose the other )

Chief bridesmaid & Best man x

We're having a similar dilemma too but if your OH doesn't mind then who cares that they're both on your side?

I want my brother and his GF to be ours as OH and i re close to them both but my OH IS concerned about them both being from my side. However he doesn't like his brother (and he wasn't asked to be his brother's witness either) and he doesn't have one close friend who stands out over any others so he's stuck.

Good luck, I'm sure you'll make the best decision.

We are having my sis (CBM) and OH best friend (BM)

We are having OHs mum and my Nan who brought me up .. as i also feel the mums dont have a role as such ?

This is what we are doing too, for basically the same reason

We were going to have OH's dad as he is not giving any speeches or anything, then we were going to have my uncle, as he is my father's twin and I wanted to have part of my dad involved in the day (he passed away 7 years ago). Given that he has been cheating on his wife of over 30 years I very much doubt I will want him anymore as it will be awkward enough without making a fuss over his prescence. Not sure who our second witness will be, I may ask my mother's brother instead.

OH is happy with the step-parents. And my mum is absolutely delighted we thought to ask my step-dad. My step-mum cried when we phoned her earlier. So I am sure we made the right decision. If PILs can't see our reasoning for choosing my step-parents, then they can raise their eyebrows as high as they please!

We have having both mums as Jen_84 said we felt that didn't have a specific role as my dad (gives away and speech) and FIL (best man) both have main roles in the day

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Having just seen this tried to discuss with OH.

Logically in my head both of bridesmaids are also lawyers and as marriage is a contract I want them.

OH wants my dad and best man. If I have my dad this will offend my mother big time, she gets easily offended!

Now have a new wedding "issue" to discuss lol

Best man and one bridesmaid then LeaLeigh?

I am stuck on this one as well. My dad signed at my first wedding so dads are out really. OH's mum passed away so mums are out really... no adult BMs or groomsmen...

umm maybe my sis and his bro...? No-one we're really close to, but these are people who we know will always be around for us.

I quite like the idea of having our mums ?

If OH isn't happy with that then we'll probably go with the traditional BM or brother, and bridesmaid/sister.