Hello my fellow brides to be,
First things first, I have been brought up by my mum have lived with her all my life she has scrimped and scrapped to save money for the hole of my life to send me to dance classes, gymnastics, musical theatre lesson, competitions etc! My dad has never lived with me but I have always known him, he has always been there and I see him most days. When I was younger he didn't help out as much with paying for the above for me to do, but as I got older and into my teens he started to take me out shopping etc.
So when I got engaged the very first thing my mum said (even before congratulations) was "well I'm walking you down the isle!" followed with moaning about the way my OH asked my dad for permission to marry me but not my mum (now that's a whole other argument)
My mum has gone on to say that when I was born due to my dad not really wanting me at first (when she told him see was pregnant he run away, but when I was born my sister got him back and he hasn't left since). So when I was born mum says she told dad that when I get married she would walk me down the isle as she was the one bringing me up. (which I think Is a fair point) however my dad has been there for me more than she expected and is part of who I am and along with a lot of help from mum the other person who has helped shape the person I am today.
I said straight away to mum that I wanted both my mum and dad to walk me down the isle, she refused to do it. It has now been nearly a year I have not mentioned anything to my dad but he has said once about walking down the isle, I just change the subject as I can't rally talk about it till I sort out my mum.
When my OH tried to explain that both mum and dad are important to me and that it's our wedding day so I should be able to have who I want to to walk me down the isle. My mum said if my dad was involved in anyway then she would not come, this sent me in to tiers. She then said how about She mum) walk you down the isle and dad do the speech. But this was 6 months ago and I this has not been mentioned since.
When I asked my sister what to do she said if they can't get over it then she and my brother would walk me down the isle. This is my last resort as I love my sister and brother lts and my sister (how is 20 years older) also helped when I was little. But it's my mum and dad that I really want.
Also I am my dads only child, how can I take the experience was walking my den the isle away (when my OH asked his permission he cried all day and was over the moon to have been asked he went straight out, on Xmas eve and got a personalised clock made as an engagement present wrapped and gave it to us on Xmas morning only hours after I had been proposed to! Plus my mum has had 3 children, my brother was married years a go and my sister 10years ago, as my sister does not know her dad my mum walked her down the isle. We all thought that being able to do it once would mean that she would flip out with me, how wrong was I. I am now dreading about the how experience and don't know what to do.
Please help! Have any of you been through this? What should I do?
P.s sorry for the essay!
