why????

what are you talking about?

A certain person I know just looks and doesn’t post

How do you know?....

to answer your first question (if that wasn't intended specifically to someone) - don't you think its a matter of taste? I agree there's no need to say somethings beautiful when its not just for the sake of it - but then I wouldn't post any response at all. Sometimes I do think its a matter of taste though - if the person who posted dress/shoes whatever thinks its great- someone else may do too, not everyone likes/dislikes the same things.

does that make any sense? I'm rambling..

I imagine the people who have said they think they are lovely geniunely mean it and the ones who dont like them havn't commented??

I imagine the people who have said they are lovely genuinely mean it and the one who dont like them havn't commented.

I totally understand what you are saying but many times people ask opinions and I feel they don’t get answered truthfully – I’m not aiming it at anybody in particular either……just a passing comment

I don't post a reply if I think the dress/shoes/etc are hideous, because I don't feel the need to if that person loves whatever they are posting.

Hummm I see what you're saying - so you want less fluffiness and more brutal honesty? I don't know I think I found most hitchers to be quite honest about their opinions, but you never know, do you? My paper flowers thread got 'ripped' - probably for the best as it was a crappy idea anyway, looking back.

If someone asked for an opinion then they would usually get it followed by a few posts saying 'Don't you think that's a bit harsh' etc. If some sap wants to just post something lovely when they completely hate it then that's a bit weird.

WSS. i've seen many dresses on here i've not liked, so i've not commented. however, if the OP has ASKED for an opinion (on shoes/dress/flowers/whatever), i've posted it. i'm sure there are lots of people that didn't like my dress <shrug>

i know that you've said that it's not aimed at any person in particular, but you've mentioned the shoe thread in particular in your first post, so you've obviously seen something on there that has sparked this particular thread? why don't *you* just be honest and say what you really think, rather than intimate that you've seen something that might make someone look like, in your words, a munter?

I think there is a lot of honesty on this forum. I often read threads where folks disagree with the poster's ideas or choices....and there are nice ways of doing it too. An example is the thread about the father daughter dance....one poster has admitted they find it twee....another says she'll definitely have one. Thats pretty balanced IYSWIM.

I used the shoe as an example as thats what has been posted tonight

I think something that marks this forum out is the honesty. There are lots of things that aren't quite to my taste, but I wouldn't go out of my way to slam them. I also see that a lot of people praise looks that I mightn't go for myself. Doesn't mean that I think the OP has poor taste or that the other posters are not being genuine. Not every opinion concurs with mine.

I live by the principle 'if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all'. If I don't like something, I won't post.

I don't see the point in being unnecessarily mean (which you seem to want). Like someone else said, to each their own. Just because you think something is awful, doesn't mean everyone else will. That's the beauty of us all being different! ?

Yeah, I'm kinda with the others in the fact that if I don't have anything nice to say I just won't post a reply.

If somebody has asked for an opinion I'll give it but wouldn't be nasty to anybody in the name of honesty. If i really don't like it there is a nice way of putting that across

Likewise I think the Hitchers on here are pretty honest

I agree with the others. It's all down to individual taste - I might love something that someone else hates.

I must admit if someone posts and actually ASKS for an opinion then usually they will get truthful and honest answers from a balanced point of view, also if people post and dont ask for opinions there are a few hitchers who give their view anyway and i've been subjected to a couple of those.

I really dont think we are overly fluffy here on hitched, and im with pretty much EES if i dont like something i dont tend to post because its just my opinion and as we are all individual and my tastes are so so different to others.

Really good post topic though Starburst (and i mean that in a non fluffy way)

I think most people are pretty honest on here. I posted about a wishing well with a picture and most people were honest and told me it was tacky, and others even commented on the idea saying it was twee. Which is fine and honest.

If your referring to someone in particular, or a particular shoe, why not just come out and say who and what, rather than doing what your basically slamming others for doing!?

I agree what everyone else has said, but don't want to sit here and repeat it all as I'm sure you get the drift by now!

Just want to add though (I know it's not really what you're getting at) that if someone posts a sad topic ie: someone's relative has died, then I may never have spoken to that person before but wouldn't want to R&R and still post my condolences. hoping that isn't meant to sound fluffy.

Also same goes with the good luck threads! I may never have spoken to them before but still wish them luck on their big day, as I want every bride to have a fab time!

How can you ever possibly know that?! What an odd thing to say, When I first started out on hitched it was a lot more forthright than it is now, I'll give you that, however I don't think that people who are posting they like something are saying it to make the OP feel better. They probably genuinely do like the shoes. The ones that don't just don't post.

I am quite intrigued as to who you meant in the shoe post! I know you've said that was just an example, and that there are more....but you did use it as an example, so go on, 'fess up and say who you think isnt being honest.

We all have different opinions and like and dislike different things - that's what makes us individual! I believe that if people are saying they like something then they really do (why lie?) - if they don't then they don't post (or they try and tactfully put across their feelings!) x

Im new to this forum but I have to say I appreciate peoples different opinions and comments.

I dont think theres anything wrong with someone saying 'its not my taste' but theres no need to be nasty about it.

Im sure we would all be gutted to hear every other bride was wearing the same dress, having the same venue, going on the same honeymoon....

Variety is the spice of life indeed! ?

Sorry to sound rather daft but what does twee mean??? sorry still learning the lingo lol

I'm sorry but what a pathetic thread!

This forum is famed for it's honesty, and i like to think that i am honest on here. I think you will find that people are honest in a constructive manner, do you want people to be rude if they don't find something to their taste???

I don't feel like i need to justify my opinions on here!

Thats ok Lizzy. It depends a little what context its used in but basically something thats over cutesy, or sickeningly sweet, or something that makes something sound cute when its not really, does that make sence? Its actually a really hard word to explain! lol!

Starburst where have you been honest on a thread and said 'that is awful you will look like a munter on your day'??

You are slagging others stuff but can't actually post on the shoe thread your own opinion. If it bugs you that much practice what you are preaching and I think you will soon see it is easy to offend people unnecessarily.

Do you think everyone in life should have the same opinion?

I am honest on this forum most of the time but there is a time and a place to turn around and say no I don't like that.

What a strange post after 4 years of being a member.

As far as I can see the shoe post wasn't a what do you think of these? post just a flash post and criticising anyone taste on a flash post is just bad form. It's only fair to express comment if some one asks what do you think of these? and I think you will find from past evidence of questions on money poems people don't hold back on their opinions when asked. Having said that now anyone who posted on the shoe post may be thinking does she mean my shoes? I took a look at it out of curiosity and couldn't see anything that I actually disliked. Some that I wouldn't personally have worn for instance the trainers, as I am quite traditional, although they are a very popular choice now with brides wanting comfort , was it Julia Robrts that wore them in runaway bride? Not sure?. But then again ,although I would like to own them, no way could I walk in the high heels.

I don't really think you are in the position to judge wether a bride is a 'munter'. What is her taste may not be yours, but that's just life, it certainly wouldn't make her a munter. I think the more important issue is how the bride feels and that she has the things that SHE likes. it would be one hell of a boring world if everyone conformed to the 'norms'.

Just to add: the people I invite to my wedding are people that (I hope) are there because they care for me and wish to celebrate my day with me. Not, as is contrary to what you suggest, to specualte as to wether I look like a munter or not.

Hmmmm....I would have to say what Bluewater and Purrfect Gems said. If it's such a big deal to you, go on and post your opinions yourself - you are doing exactly what you are complaining about, it seems to me anyway.

I would also agree - if someone actually asks for opinions then I will give mine in a polite manner (hopefully!) even if it's a negative one. But if they don't, and I don't like what they've posted, I don't see why I should go and slag their pics off just because I personally don't like them. There is quite a big line between being brutally honest and being plain rude and unnecessary, imo.

I started the shoe thread, as i'm thinking about getting my shoes as i have my dress. But was just curious what shoes others are wearing (also i am very nosey and LOVE shoes)

I have no problem with people disliking what i like. (blimey if everyone liked what i liked, i would be having fights with them over my H2b lol)