Why can't I get motivated??!

Deep breaths. how much do u have left to do? write a list then try to do 1 thing a week/month depending on whats left. also what jobs can u delegate?

once you know exactly what you have to do you can get an action plan going.

hope you feel better soon xx

I go through phases.....my wedding gets pushed to the bottom of things to do when I'm busy.

Just have a look at what you need to do, and don't worry!

List making tonight then (will try not to take work home)!

This week's tasks: Get the form back to ceremony venue and order my flowers from Sherrie before she shoots me ?

C xx

I think everybody goes through phases like this. I had a manic really excited phase when we booked the big things like the venue about 2 years in advance, then a long 'can't be arsed' phase until it hit 6 months to go. Now I'm only 2 months away and things are starting to happen again, like dresses coming into the shop and my motivation is back up again. If you can't be bothered then I say leave it, its no fun when you feel like that!

Esme, I think you've hit the nail on the head - it's just not fun at the moment!!

When we got engaged I wanted to go off and do it just us and the kids, but h2b didn't. So we compromised on a small ceremony and a party in the evening. Then that kind of grew and grew into something we didn't want, so we sat down and decided what we wanted and changed it. Now I feel as if I'm explaining , even making excuses, for what we want!!

There're a couple of other weddings in the family this year, and they're totally what I don't want - full on big weddings, which is great if that's what you want, but we don't! Also my h2b is a self employed roofer, so not the most secure of occupations lol. We don't want to spend all our savings on a wedding we don't want!

Hmmm sorry, I obviously still have some issues there........... ?

Why arent you motivated???

Well, it's February, grey, wet and we're at the beginning of the largest financial mess the country has ever seen.

As for what to do about it, well, list, lists, lists and set them all to time scales. Make an Excel spreadsheet if you're a gadgetty person, but personally, I like a handwritten list.

Write down alllllll the things that need to be done (It will be a long list) and prioritise them, depending on when they need to be completed. Start at the top and when you've done it, cross that baby at the top OUT!

Thre are two reasons why lists are great. 1.) It's on paper and written down, so the things don't keep swirling around in your brain, causing stress. 2.) There's nothing like crossing off an item on a large list of jobs for some instant karma

Pete

You just read my mind! The last thing i feel like doing in the evening is wedding plans i want to go to bed by 8.30!

We are swamped at work and i have two children 8 and 3 years old so generally feeling worn out and do agree its a pretty naff time of the year.

x x