Why can't I make this decision.

I am like a couple of others here - I wouldn't necessarily expect / want / need my OH with me for an appointment at hospital. However, your circumstances are a bit different, and particularly as you've specifically asked him to be there for you (I presume he knows you're scared / worried) I cannot understand why he's even contemplating a flippin' football match or two! It's a no brainer - he supports YOU not his team.

Good for you, not changing the appointment, I'm angry for you that he even asked you to do this!

He could come to the hospital with you., stay with you as long as he is allowed, and then, and only then, if things go smoothly he could, perhaps, if you were comfortable, leave in the afternoon to see the Coventry game. But frankly, that's peripheral and he should be putting you first. I know that's what Mr GMT would do.

Have you told him that you are worried about the appointment? I don't think it is fair to ask you to change it because

1. you need it asap if it for pain reduction

2. what if the next appointment clasges again?

I think you should tell him that you want him to come. Say you're not going to make a drama out of it, but you want the support.

L
xx

Thanks all, sorry I've not replied sooner I had an appointent to attend. I really can't change the appointment, I've been waiting for this since christmas eve, and I know the waiting time is quite long. It's actually being done in the private hospital on their theatre list, so I guess they have a few waiting, and I really don't want to go back to the back of the queue. It falls really well so that I don't have to have time off sick or annual leave as my days off have fallen so that I'm not in for a week afterwards.

I've asked my sister to come with me instead, as I figure that if he does give up his football match for me, he's going to be in a foul mood and no good to me anyway.

Thanks for the support and advice, I will be having words with him when I get home.

Glad you've managed to sort it out Ruth. I think you're right that if he doesn't want to miss the footie, then he'll probably be like a bear with a sore head if he went with you anyway.

Hope it all goes well.

I've had these done too and they aren't pleasant. Honestly, my OH would have cancelled anything to be there with me and its mean of him asking you to make the decision.

If this was my hubby id be furious - I'd tell him to strap on a pair and get his priorities right!!! ?

? that'll work then ?