Why our wedding is not the most important thing in our lives anymore

Not anything I can say of any use, but I just wanted to wish you both all the best. It seems like you have a phenomenal relationship. I hope all goes as well as can be expected on Friday and that your OH receives the all clear soon. If there's any advice or googling you need for wedding bits (even though I'm sure it doesn't feel top or anything like it priority anymore) then please ask.

My thoughts are with you both and i hope you both keep smiling through this tough time - in sickness and in health as you say!

Fingers are crossed for you both and heres hoping Friday comes and goes as pain free as possible and that you can both look forward to your wedding day..xxx

There are no words to help but you are one brave lady & I am sending you all the prayers & love in the world. xx

My heart sank when i read your post. im not going to pretend i know what you will both be going through in the next few months, and dont know really what to say. its good that you intend to carry on as planned as it may offer some distraction, and that the initial prognosis seems good. big hugs to both of you and i hope he makes a complete recovery. my OH knows the effects this can have on the family as both of his parent were diagnosed with colon caner and breasat cancer just after eachother, but have just had their 5 year all clears. all the best, be there for eachother ?

Christ fancyfree, it never rains but it pours eh?

For what it's worth, have an internet weirdy ?. I just wish there was more I could do. Whereabouts in the country are you? Maybe there is a hitcher nearby who could lend you more physical support if and when it is needed?

You know where we all are if you need us. I wish him (and you) all the best for Friday. It sounds like you caught it early enough for the op to have full effect. My OH's brother has had testicular cancer, had the testicle removed and made a full recovery. I have every faith your OH will do too, even if the emotional side takes longer to recover from.

Think of us as a sounding board for all your tears of sadness, joy and blatent rants. It's what we are here for.

One day you shall make your commitment to one another and it will be the happiest day of your lives, until then lots of positive vibes for your OH and to you.

Stay strong...we're here to help

x

? I'm so sorry for you both. As Raef said, if you need us we're here for you.

On a more practical note, do you have good wedding insurance? I know this is not what you want to think about now.

OMG! ?

You really haven't had the best of luck this year ☹️, thankfully they have caught things early enough, have you talked to the consultant about freezing sperm? (not sue if you have decided to have kids or you already have a family but it would be an option at this point.

Your h2b is the 2nd person I have heard in 3 weeks to have testicular cancer and unfortunately the other guy had to have both testicles removed but thankfully he didn't want to have anymore children.

Just take each day as it comes, it will all work out and we ae all here for you x

Crikey!

Fancyfree I dont know what to say! Good luck to your Oh for the forthcoming surgery and possible treatment. I hope that your wedding day will still be a lovely day for you both to look back on.

xxx

Good luck with everything, lot's of good vibes coming your way x

Hello lovely,

I was wondering if you'd say anything on here about it. I was scared what to tell people if anyone asks where you are.

We're all here for you. xxx

Fancyfree, I'm so very sorry to hear this. As another one who knows only too well what a horrible thing cancer is the fact that the two of you have a strong relationship will help your OH. Will be thinking of you, stay strong x

Big hugs to you and your H2b xx

Fancyfree, I can't imagine how much of a shock this was and I'm really sorry to hear this news.

You and your OH are in my thoughts - it sounds like you are both pulling together the strength you need to face and overcome this.

As Tahdah rightly says, we are always here to lend an ear if you need one. ?

Fancyfree, big hugs to you and your H2B. I'm not posting much at the moment, but felt the need to reply to this. A very close relative of mine was diagnosed with this 18 months ago, so have an idea of what you might be feeling. They caught it early and he is in remission. He also started a facebook group called 'spot the ball', if your H2B wanted someone to contact he could try my relative there (as I know he thinks it a really important issue, and I'm sure he wouldn't mind sharing his experiences).

You're in my thoughts x

I am so sorry to hear this and about the difficult battle you have a head of you. You sound like a truely strong couple and you will find away through this (((((( ))))) xx

Like everyone's said, we're all here for you both xx

My heart sank when i read this, i just wanted to say that you are both in my thoughts and we are all here for you if you need us x

Aw FF what awful news. My thoughts are with you and your OH. Try to keep the positives in mind like that the cancer hasn't spread and that they've caught it now and can start treatment straight away.

Best wishes to you both and stay strong ❤️

Wow, I'm overwhelmed. Thank you for all your thoughts and thank you for everyone sharing their stories - we have a lot of people 'coming out' to us about all sorts at the moment.

Our immediate concern is of course the surgery, then finding somewhere to live and after that the whole question of fertility is brought up too but seeing as we only found out at all about the cancer yesterday that is something we can tackle (ha ha) after the operation.

I also can't stop myself from thinking - will H2B be well enough for the wedding? He's a very determined type and has already said it will be happening. Then I wonder about chemotherapy - would he be bald?? What about a wig or a hat?!

We don't deserve any more bad news, we've had enough. Please, please let it all be alright.

Hi Fancyfree,

What can one say... I lost my step Dad to cancer so I know what you and your family are going through. Really makes you realise how short life is... I hope that you get good news and it hasn't spread and I wish your wedding day to be perfect... infact if you need any help please feel free to contact me x

All the best wishes

Kim x

I was so sorry to read this, however my best friend and her husband went through exactly the same thing, just before they got married.

He too had surgery and further radiotheraphy, this was back in 2002 and I am pleased to say they are still happily married and he is just fine.

I am a firm believer in as long as you know what you are dealing with, then you can. Remember to take of you in all of this too, sending you lots of love.

Sara x

Sending you both best wishes and hoping for some good news for you both. You seem a strong and determine person.

My thoughts are with you both x

There arent words to describe how you are possibly feeling or which will help very much until you know for sure that your OH is going to be ok but as the others have said wanted to know you are in my thoughts.

I thought I would also share my happy every after story. A friend went through the same thing he is now 10 yrs on married to his then girlfriend with 2 gorgeous little boys, frozen sperm not required!! ?

We will all be keeping our fingers crossed for you and hope for good news. I know its a cliche but these things are sent to test us and with such a strong relationship you will overcome this to enjoy your wonderful wedding day.

Like many of the others on here I don't know what to say except im thinking of you both (& saying a little prayer)

Oh Fancy Free, Your post made me cry, I'm so sorry to hear your news but have my fingers crossed that your H2B gets the all clear soon.

Hope all goes well on Friday!! Remember where we all are if you need us!!?

LxXx

Oh Fancyfree,I am so, so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you both. xxxx

I'm so sorry to read this. I know there is nothing i can say to help but i wish your OH all the best in the world with his recovery.

I don't have much much practical advice but just wanted to send some wishes to you and your H2B... xxx

Your post certainly stopped me in my tracks. What dreadful news for you both, my thoughts are with you and pray that all goes well for you xx

I know I can't say anything to make this easier for you to deal with...but I just want to tell you that are both are very brave and strong for deciding to keep to your original wedding date. I hope all goes well and you both come out of this experience a stronger and closer couple.

My thoughts are with you both xxxx

I dont know what to say but my thoughts are with you and OH. Ill keep everything crossed for you and OH.

xx