Will you be changing your name?

Im changing my name! OH's surname isnt particularly exciting but I cannot wait to be Mrs x!

What about having a double barreled name?

Ive always wanted to change my name upon marrying, but more recently ive been thinking that actually, my sirname which was always the bane of my life as a child, is now quite a talking point and i like it!! But, although i will be sad to stop using it, i do want to have the same sirname as my 2 kids, so i will take their name. I cant possibly have double barreled either, because of the names!

hmm...i have thought about this too. As my surname is unusual and i really really like it!! and people comment on it and i shall miss that :-( (yes i am an attention whore). Mr Boo's surname is nice too and is fairly unusual but its just that i will definately miss mine. Initially i suggested a double barreled name, which h2b was happy for me to do (ish) but wouldnt do it himself and i dont want to be the odd one out from any subsequent children we may have. So i think im just going to suck it up and take his name- part of me quite likes the idea and really wants to have his last name so we are like our own little gang, but there is a small part of me that wants to hold on to my name!!

p.s Milna- your my date twin :-)..

And will anyone else end up sharing a surname with an ex wife if they change? I half feel I don't want to let that put me off doing what I might otherwise do ... but then at the same time I dont much like the idea of having the same name (We have not met, but she has plenty of unfounded nasty things to say about me!)

Despite a 'girl power' lecture from my aunt I'm changing!! My family name is widely recognised at home as we are a very large farming family but where I live now its not so common. H2B is scottish and we live in scotland so I quite fancy having a scottish surname!! The aformentioned aunt was also going on about 'keeping the family name going'... she seems to have forgotten about the 8 or so male cousins I have with the same surname whereas H2B is the last of the males in his family!! I shall be keeping the forenames from my side of the family going instead! Will be changing it for work too - I haven't published anything yet (and don't intend to stay in science long enough to!) so its not like I'm 'known'!

There are no ex-wives or MILs or SILs to share my surname with either - this is his first marriage, him mum has gone back to her maiden name and his only sister is married so doesn't have the same surname - I'LL BE THE ONLY ONE!!! YAY!!!

Oh god I hadn't thought of MILs and SILs as well - already one of each with same name! And a few cousins and aunts as well as they are a masisve family! ?

Too right I am! I can't wait, have already sent off for my new passport?

Worse... my H2b's previous fiance took on his surname by deed poll so she would share the same surname as their children and refuses to change it back and is unlikely to get married.

This and the fact that my H2B's surname is not very erm.... flattering I suppose is the word(!) is one of the reasons why I didn't want to change my name.

I am the first person to marry my H2B so I should be the first to take his name!

I also don't like the idea of losing my maiden name which is unusual and distinctive. It is also my nickname among friends!

I did consider double-barrelling my name but when I was spelling out my email address at work the other day I thought it is going to be even more of a pain-in-the-butt to add a hyphen ^&*()_ to it.

So i am keeping my maiden name for work as I do have lots published in this name and don't want to become unrecognisable again. Also H2b's surname is the same surname as my boss!

I am reluctantly going to take H2b's name for everything else - banks, socially etc.

I told H2B i didn't want to change my name as it would feel like I was losing my identity and he said there was no point in getting married then!

Edited to say sorry for rambling!

She sounds slightly, erm, odd! Would it not have made more sense to change the kids name to hers?! I think she might have issues!!

Presumably they were together when she changed her name ... and intending to get married. So it probably made sense at the time?

My partner's ex has given her new baby (Not my OH's!) the same surname as well. It struck me as a little strange at first - but I guess she wanted it to have the same surname as her other kids and herself - and the baby's father is not on the scene. It is her name after all (and one she shares with her exisiting children), and I don't think anybody can ask/expect her to change it!

I've got the opposite problem. I don't like my surname but am marrying someone with the same surname (no relation whatsoever - just a common name).

So, there'll be three Mrs Hunts (mum, MIL, me), plus we both have brothers, so potentially two more in the future!

I love my surname (despite having to spell it every day of my life), not hugely keen on h2b's surname, but am taking it on. am tempted to keep it professionally, but am going to be moving jobs around the same time as wedding, so think i will just change my name.

feel cheated that i am marrying a scottish man, and will not have a surname beginning with mc/mac!!!

I'm keepimg my surname at work and using H2B's for home. Work in the world of science though and it's quite normal for people to do this. I like the idea of two names adds an air of mystery.

Although not keen on Mrs and I'm known as Dr at work (the PhD variety not a medic) but I've never used it away from work as it seems a bit poncy, however wondering whether to change to Dr at home after MIL2B said how nice it will be for there to be another Mrs R. I'm an individual don't want to be the same as anyone else!!!!!!!

Edited to add and now I've just realised we'd both be Mrs K R as her name begins with K too!!!!!

Mine is a very old English surname and I will be changing to H2B's which is an Indian surname - quite like the idea of being cross-nationality!

I wasn't overly keen on changing my name either; partly because he's been married before and I didn't want to be linked in any way to that old witch, and partly because his name always gets mispronounced and when it is he sounds like the head of a Columbian drug smuggling cartel.

I have never considered not changing my name, cant wait to be Mrs S and have my passport ready to go and be changed for my honeymoon. For me I think its because we want children and I want us all to have the same name.

I am looking forward to becoming a Mrs but not sure how I feel about taking his surname.

I have an Italian surname that is always mispronounced/spelt wrong and always had the mickey taken out of me at school for it. So really it has always been a pain in the arse but now there is a chance of it going I'm really going to miss it!!

But on the other hand I would like to have the same name as the rest of my household!!

(my son told me the other day (jokingly) that I wasn't allowed to be in the summers gang ☹️)

I will be taking my h2b's name which is the same as his ex wife and would I hell not take it! There is no way I want to be married to him but not have his name whilst his ex does! ?

I would never consider changing my surname

I think its an outdated tradition that no one seems to question?!?!?!

Obviously - this is just my opinion ;-)

I've already said this but I'm not changing my name because I'm a teacher and H2Bs surname is Pratt.

Also our son has got my surname too.

I'll be changing my name. I would love to double-barrel if our names went together at all but they just don't. I am a bit sad about changing my name because it's a big part of my identity (especially since I'm a teacher and called by it all day every day) but I want the same surname as H2B - mainly for when we have children, I'd like us all to have the same surname. Plus I'll be moving all the way up the alphabet from R to A! At the moment I'm getting more concerned about becoming a Mrs...I'll quite happily change my name but I'd like to stay a Miss...Mrs is too old!

I will be changing my name , we already have a son together , who has o/h's name.

Plus it's nicer than my current name , although i'll have to spell out my first & surname now.?

After much discussion, I have decided to change my name both personally and professionally. I am the last in the line, which is where my hesitation came from, although when I was at school I couldn't wait to change it as I got teased mercilessly about it! My surname can also be a forename for a boy or a girl, so it will be a middle name for our first born.

I agreed to change personally way before I agreed to change professionally. I'm also a teacher and always said I would only change at work if I was changing schools, as it would be too confusing for the kids otherwise. But h2b really wanted me to change, which made me think about it. And when I thought about it I realised that my Y13 class would be gone, both my Y11 classes would be gone, one of my Y10 classes isn't going to be mine next year... there's only two classes who will have to get used to it, and they're the two who haven't even realised I've got engaged! I'm now really looking forward to seeing their faces in September when they walk in thinking they've got a new English teacher and it's still me! ?

I'm a stickler for tradition and everything old-fashioned so will definitely be changing my name. Luckily no ex-wives to be concerned about - although someone did send us a congratulations on our engagement addressed to OH and his ex-girlfriend... Luckily I can smile about it!

Lol i'm liking this thread,

am also marrying a scot who doesn't have a Mc/Mac name its not fair is it!

i also have to spell my name every time people have to write it down, not hugely keen on his name like mine better and have two children eldest has my surname and youngest has H2B's surname now eldest wants to change his name but i think this will cause problems with H2B's other child who lives with his mother and has her surname but is always going on about having the same name as his dad,

when my eldest was born i changed my name to his dads name as i didn't want to get married but expected us to be together for ever ( i was young and naive!)plus after growing up with a different surname to my mother and always feeling uncomfortable about it i didn't want him to feel the same, then when we split up i changed it back to my original name it all gets very confusing when filling in any documents with previous surname required,

i did think about a hyphenated name but i think my name is too long and his too short for it to work