Will you change your surname?

I can't decide on this either. I love my name and my dads side of my family and will feel sad to lose their name, especially as my Dad had 2 daughters and so the name will disappear in time.

I don't mind my OH's name but when I asked whether he would take my name he said no way and so I am tempted to say I wont take his either then!

I have thought about double-barreled but as a teacher I am known by my surname at work and so I think it will be too much. Mrs Jarvis-Burrows is a mouthful for kids to say!

I kept my married name after my divorce so will definately be changing it when I re-marry. I am just sorry my son won't have the same surname as me any more. It is too long to double barrel and I want to leave my ex in my past.

I'm taking his surname. I'm a bit gutted, my dad only has daughter so it's a shame the name is at risk of dying out, especially since it's a very unusual name. I won't miss having to spell it for people every single time though!

I am taking my "hunk of a sex god with fabulous thighs" name. I want to be the same as my sons. My two daughters have my surname though and i have asked a couple of times what they think about changing it but they are not sure and i don't want to make a big deal as it is up to them.

Yep, and I'll be sad to see it go. I'm the only one left to carry on the family name, although my uncle's OH is expecting so they may have a boy and then I'll feel better about it. I'm happy to take H2Bs name, but sad that our family name will die out IYSWIM?

I am definately having his name - I can't wait for us to share our surname! I may miss my maiden name a little but his is much nicer and unusual and I want to have the same name as my children when we have them.

Those not changing your surname, what do you do? Are you Mr A and Miss B, and become Mrs B instead of Mrs A? Or do you go for that dreadful option of "Ms B"?

Re: use of the term "boy". What do the rest of you call your manservants?

Re: title changes. I am currently Miss H and will remain so, except where use of Dr H is indicated.

I took his name. I HATED my maiden name with a passion and am much happier being Mrs J. I only have an undergraduate degree in my maiden name... I'm in the middle of a Masters but I've changed name at uni so I can graduate in my married name. If I was much further along in a professional career I might think differently, but as it is I'm too young and inexperienced to have made any kind of name for myself anyway.

RE: "the boy"... I used to call him this when talking on forums before we got engaged. Then he was H2B, and now Mr J or just H (for husband). I'm not particularly fond of "other half" either, same as Gurzle, I am a complete person on my own... but don't care if other people use it and I'll use it in reference to them if that's what they use (e.g. I'll ask "what does your OH think?").

He calls me "the wife" sometimes to his friends, is that better or worse? I don't mind, I am secure in my knowledge that he thinks I am a person not a possession!

Curious question. If there is need for a title, surely you can just use Dr, making any use of "Miss" redundant?

FTLOMB - I think 'boy' is as appropriate as 'wench' - acceptable to some, not to others. I can think of others that are far worse (I hate 'her indoors' - ugh!).

I sometimes refer to my H2B as my partner and you'd be suprised how many people think 'my partner' is a girl! (maybe it's the buzzcut...)

Seeing as Mrs and Miss are both contractions of the word Mistress does it really matter? I will use Miss C at work, but Mrs D at home.

I will be. I still use my married name and will be glad to see the back of it! It will be a bit strange my children having a different surname. However, I do not see it as a real issue. It is not difficult to explain to anyone whom may not already be aware, that I have re-married.

I have no problem with someone choosing the salutation Ms! "Ms." is for cases in which the marital status is either unknown to the writer or is irrelevant. I had a period in my life where quite frankly my ex was irrelevant.

similar here, il change it, for our future kids sake and also because mr F wants me to but its sad losing my family name, il have had it for 30years almost!! My sister changed hers years ago so im the only girl left with it.....

Mr F wont consider double barrelling as he thinks it sounds stupid with our names...boooooooooo hiss to him

Yep, if the option is there, I'll use Dr. But sometimes it's not accepted or available (internet drop boxes, passports etc, vaguely recall that this might have something to do with the title Dr not indicating a gender, therefore fraud easier?) so I will still use Miss in those cases.

Not that I particularly care what people call each other (as long as it's meant affectionately), I think I see "wench" as more pejorative than "boy", not sure if that stands up to examination though. "Boy" is not a name I use to boy directly - he is only "boy" because I dislike OH or H2B (slightly texty? more complicated to type? I am not an OH?).

I also hate "her indoors", as the implication is that I am too socially inept to join boy in the pub

I don't write "my boy" as I wouldn't try to indicate possession (as pointed out by Caweena). If someone wrote "my boy", I'd think they were referring to their son.

I'll be taking my OH's surname, and making my maiden name my middle name as i currently don't have a middle name.

I don't understand how 'Boy' is any worse than describing your Fiancé as your OH? He's 'My OH' and yet that's not seen as posessive. using the word 'my' before you refer to your OH should be perfectly acceptable here.

He sure as hell aint anyone elses or we wouldn't be getting married. I'm his woman, and he's my man! and we are totally in love!

I have changed mine insofar that I now answer to Mrs M. I've not got round to changing my bank account, passport, driving licence etc. I have changed our water bill and our tv licence though (they were easy to do and I didn't need a new signature!).

I either call Mr M 'the husband' (when talking about him), 'husband' (when talking to him) or the nickname that derives from his actual name. He's not the sort of chap to refer to someone as 'er indoors although we do take the p!ss about things like that when ordering a takeaway (we use a website where you can say who each dish is for - he likes to order different dishes using different 'names' for a wife eg 'er indoors, ball and chain etc. I don't consider this belittling, just silly).

I will be changing mine and can't wait - although my initials will be PG!! Quite apt really considering I am a tea monster. OH is also the only male left in his family so needs to pass it on ?

I am actually looking forward to people spelling and pronouncing my surname correctly for the first time in my whole life!!

I took Mr Spangles' name as I wanted to have the same surname as our future children (if we're able to have them). One of my friends has double-barreled her name as her business is in her maiden name so she is Mrs Maidenname-Surname.

As for the side issue, I refer to Mr S as "The Husband" or "The boy". If he's been naughty, I lock him under the stairs with all of my other possessions and refer to him by mostly rood words.

Yep I'm changing mine, I can't wait to have my new surname plus when we have mini fizzypops, we'll all share a surname x

You should start calling him Harry then

I'm taking Mr Kooks' surname - can't wait! I'm not particularly fond of my maiden name and his is much nicer. It's already double-barrelled so no triple-barrelled option for us!

I don't see it as an ownership issue me taking his name, more that we'll be a team.

I hate 'the missus' - Mr Kooks knows not to call me that! The wife though is acceptable!

haha he should be your 'homie' T-Dogg?

If he's under the stairs, it's just rood words until he behaves himself. No names.

That sounds a bit nightmareish but you are the new and improved Mrs ***** ? I cannot wait to get rid of my name. Its my ex husband's name too. My kids will be something different but they are too old to be adopted by my blokey (they will be 20 in August). Plus the fact I won't have to spell it everytime i'm on the phone - can't come soon enough! I've just renewed my passport and its still in my old name and now gonna have to suffer with that for 10 years unless I cough up £72 to change it - again!

I have had a double barrelled name since birth, deriving from my great grandparents and it's a pain in the a55! I am very close to my family and the last one with my name (sister got married and changed her name earlier this year) but I don't feel that by changing my name, I'll be losing any ties with my family in the slightest. Professionally, I will have been working under my maiden name for 5 years when I get married, but our town is small enough that it's not going to make any difference if I change it.

In terms of using "OH", I only use it on here because everyone else does! To his face, I just call him his name, or "babe" and to others I call him his name, or "my fiance" or even "my boyfriend" cos I don't really like using the word fiance for some reason. I detest the word "partner".

After much deliberating on OH's side, I will be taking his name. OH doesn't get on with his dad and wanted to take my name instead - his mum didn't help by wittering on about "no Mrs G***** has ever been happy".

I wasn't bothered either way, except my maiden name starts with an "A" and my first name ends with an "A" which sounds odd when spoken - I don't like the clash of vowels it makes.

Yes definately, aside from the fact that I have to spell mine to everyone, I can't wait to have the same name as my daughter and hubby 2 be.

Yep I will be changing to OH surname. I will be going from my current surname that I have to spell to another one that I will have to spell! grrrr. Also, same as some others, this will most probably kill off my family surname, as all the siblings of my Dad had daughters, and there is only one more left unmarried!

With 12 days to go I still havnt decided, deep down I would love to keep my own name, it is very unusual very long but I love it and its me, also my grandad passed away 6 weeks ago and I just feel like I owe it to him to keep it that with the fact that I live 200 miles away from all my family I feel by loosing it I loose a big part of my identity anyway knowing me I will take on OH's name and just suck it up I dont want a double baralled name and Im sure Ill get used to it.

Yes I will (and I did in my first marriage too). For me it helps symbolise you as a family, especially important (IMHO) when you've got children. Both our boys have OH's surname and I hate being different from them.

Double-barrelling never crossed my mind. Just my opinion, but I really don't like double-barrelled names. They take up too much space on forms for one thing! ?

Unofficially, yes. But I don't think I will change over officially. I think OH wants to take on my name anyway, as well as his own (which makes more sense as neither of us want to lose our surnames but my name is already very long, whereas his name is very short). I'm still undecided as to whether I should stay as a ms or change to mrs.