Wishing Tree Dilemma

I would probably just leave them as they are if you really don't feel you can suggest some changes without causing major offence. Can you show a pic so some crafty people could suggest alterations?

I would prob leave it as am not really sentimental and would probably end up chucking them all away anyway. I don't even remember where all our wedding cards and postcards are.

I would feel differently to PB. If you've had your eye on something else, I'd say that to her. I'd thank her for what she's done, reiterate how happy you both are with the tree however, you want different tags. I know you don't want to offend her but she does need to know that there's a problem, I wouldn't sweep it under the carpet as it will bother you the next time she does something like this...... I'm saying this cos I've had similar problems and I didn't deal with them so, a week before our wedding, we're both wondering what my MIL will do/change on our day without telling us!

I would tell her you have had your eye on other ones, or that you have already ordered them but didn't want to say when she showed you her ones.

My OH says to order the ones you like then tell her the day before the wedding you accidently dropped her ones in the sink...!

How about buying the ones you wanted, then having 2 boxes/baskets on the WishingTree table, each with a different type of tag - and just let your guests decide which to use

I would go with either telling her you had already ordered some as you did not expect her go to all that additional trouble when she had spent so much love and time on the actual wishing tree....or that you somehow damaged them before the big day. But i wouldnt have them if you had envisioned something else.

xxx

This and accidently leave the other ones at home...blame your OH ?

Hi Alipops

Definitely a bit tricky with not wanting to upset anyone. I don't usually suggest a little white lie, but in this occassion it might just keep the peace.

How about you tell your mother-in-law, that your maid of honour suprised you with a gorgeous present for your wedding to go with super wedding tree she is making? And you really don't want to let anyone down ...

Let us know what the outcome is. Best of luck.

Idit x

Can you say you already have some?

Could you just not go with them, just to save her feelings?

It seems that you have a good eye for such things and I am sure that if you have paid as much attention to all the other details, the whole day will look fantastic and nobody will even notice some below-par tags for an already super tree.

I don't want to sound like a "been there, done that" kind of person, but I got married three weeks ago and the tiny details really don't matter that much - well they do, but not as much as your MIL's feelings. Especially as she has gone to the trouble of making you the tree in the first place.

I'd have an "accident" with them, involving a bucket of water. And then say you had to order replacements in a hurry as you knew she wouldn't have time to repeat the exercise.

Ah, but wishing tree tags are for keeps. They go into albums and scrapbooks.

I'd go with this, and discretely point to my tags!

I think its so sweet that she has gone to the trouble of doing this for you. It will make her feel proud, and part of things if you keep them. Will guests really be scrutinising the tags on your wishing tree? will anyone remember them? as guests, if the bride and groom are happy thats all that counts surely. In 10 years time when you have put all the lovely messages in a memory box and have great memories of your day, will you be thinking "urgh remember those horrible tags"?? I doubt it. ️?️

Is it too late to say 'sorry we did not ask you to make tags because we have already brought them' ?