Woman proposing? Whats your views?

Sounds like a perfect timing to propose on his 40th! I don't see why a woman can't propose to a man. How long have you been together if you don't mind me being nosey??

I don't see a problem with the woman proposing however I would never do it!! If it'll make both you and your OH happy then why not, and your idea of proposing on his 40th in a fancy hotel is lovely x

We have been together 8 months, so by the time we get engaged it will be a year. We met online on a dating site and just clicked straight away. Its the best relationship I have ever had. Ive been engaged before and almost got married 5 years ago until I caught him cheating just before the wedding. I thinkwhen youre in your late 30s like me you know when you have found 'The One'.....he makes me so so happy! We want to get married in 2013, so a few years to go!

8 months isn't very long, but I guess if you're waiting till 2013 for the wedding that gives you a bit more time. And it's not as if you're 17 and too young to know better!

I think ladies proposing is a great idea! No need to wait for a leap year though. I think if my OH hadn't asked me I would have asked him before I turned 40.

I say go for it. You could get matching watches or rings instead of the traditional ER.

Thank you all for your positive comments. Yeah 8 months isnt very long at all but we are a bit long in the tooth, and dont think we are rushing it, but waiting til 2013 will give us time to save up too! I have a feeling he knows Im gonna do it on his birthday, but it will be private as I dont want to do it in a full restaurant - Im not that brave!

That is sooooo true. We were making plans for me to to move the 500 miles to move in with him after only a few weeks. We've lived together for almost two years now ...... and I'm just waiting for the next leap year!

Sandysounds.....dont wait its another 2 years to go til a leap year!! I think thats fab that you wanted to live together so soon, you know when you know dont you? My bf is bringing up his son, and I have 3 daughters so its not as straightforward for us....we have them to think about too, but we will live together soon, probably in the next year.

A work colleague of mine met someone from online, 3 months later they were engaged, bought a house and got married a year later....theyre still going strong 3 years down the line.

My H2B said he would like me to propose too but in the end he did it first on my birthday! We also met online and had known each other 5 months when we got engaged, we get married in March 2011 when we will have known each other for 15 months. You're totally right, when you're old, had kids and been married before (like me!) you know instantly when you meet Mr Right!

Just ask him!

x

Wedhead i completely agree! Ive never been married before (came close to it twice - my pals call me the runaway bride lol), and neither has the OH, a first for both of us.

i love your wee signature, thats what he calls me too, 'love of his life' awwwww xxx

Well OH wanted to propose after a few months and I said I wasn't ready so he kept asking when was the right time. I reassured him he would know and told him that if he didn't pick up on it and I was bored of waiting I didn't have a problem with proposing to him.

He did read my mind though and did it just at the right time but my point is - If he hadn't I didnt have any issues doing it myself. I say GO FOR IT!

If it suits you... then doesn't matter what anyone else says.

Thanks! Im kinda nervous about it, our plan is to stay in a lovely hotel, use the pool, spa etc....then go out to a posh restaurant that night............im thinking ill do it when we come back, in the privacy of our room, with some champagne.

Sounds good to me!

I always wanted my proposal to be massively romantic, but when it came to it, OH did it while we were cuddles up in bed and it was more perfect than I could have imagined.

Oh god just had a horrible thought....what if he says no or laughs at me or something? He has a very sarcastic sense of humour and id go mad with him if he tried that!

at the end of the day, youre engaged to be married, does it really matter how its done?

Haha fingers crossed he won't! I'm sure it means too much to him and he will appreciate the effort. Good luck and let us know how you go!

I proposed to Mr T on the 29th Feb 2008, I even got down on bended knee... the only thing missing was the ring as I wanted us to get one together.

It was fab, and we've discussed it since that if I hadn't asked I would more than likely still be waiting!!

Go for it, January will be a fab starts to the year and his 40's...unless he gets in first with a romantic christmas pressie!!

Hiya celticgoddess

I too proposed to my man, after 15 years i thought it was about time! I did it on valentines day this year, it was rather scarey, and there was only me, him and our 2 year old there! But he said yes, so all was well and we get married next June!

i say go for it, you know he'll say yeas?!!!!

DG x

Awh thats a lovely idea, I say go for it. My h2b and i had only been together 6 months when we got engaged and together about 7 weeks when we 'officially' moved in together, i agree that you just know.

Despite being already engaged i ask my h2b if he will marry me every now and then, usually when we're all cuddled up on the sofa and it always feels special x

Definitely go for it!! And I think what you've said you're planning sounds lovely. I proposed to my h2b (this year - didn't wait til a leap year)! Was only nervous about whether or not he'd be happy with the proposal, didn't doubt whether he'd say yes as it was something that we'd already discussed/decided on so that was safe! If he'd jokingly said no though I'd have killed him so know what you mean about your man being a joker and your worry re that. The only time I was worried was when I asked his son for permission, thought that since I was doing the asking, I should do the asking of permission and his son seemed the best person. I was nervous beyond belief that day, which is so unlike me, but so needed him to say yes. Luckily he did and we're planning our wedding for next year! Be sure to let us know how things go with you, if you think he suspects you may ask him, maybe ask him the night before his birthday, when he wouldn't be expecting it? Then you can spend the next day, his birthday celebrating his 40th and your engagement!! Good luck!! xx

Thanks everyone your encouraging words are great and i so cant wait to do it, wish it was january 3rd now! we talked about it last night, and are going to get measured for rings this weekend, although he still isnt 100% sure its on his birthday, he does have a good idea that it will be! (if that makes sense lol)......i know which kinda ring im gona get him now and i hope to God he knows what i like, as if i havent dropped enough hints....but then again he has the worse memory ever so will have to remind him again lol...................is it unlucky that i already know my dress, venue, cake, bridesmaids colour (im having my 3 daughters and my two best mates) which is emerald green or hunter green......i dont want to jinx it!!!

Why not!

Sounds a lovely idea.