Work colleagues dilemma

One of my colleagues got married recently and not many people from work were invited. I've worked with her 3 years and talked to her about her plans often, I wasn't invited but to be honest I don't really mind as we're not friends out side of work. If she had invited me I would probably have gone just for the sake of it rather than to see her marry her soul mate! Anyway the following day she had some drinks in one of our local bars and invited everyone to come and toast them which was really nice!

I think if you're not friends outside of work then they shouldn't really expect to be invited - especially if they don't know our OH.

Hi I say don't invite them as you don't see them out with work and if you left would you ever see them again? I have realised with planning a wedding you always manage to offend someone but it's your day xx

I haven't invited anyone from my work, nor has my OH. We both get along with them but neither of us socialise with them outside of work, like you said apart from the Friday drink. They all know we are getting married and my work people asked me about the plans and that.

My OHs boss got married about a year ago and we wasn't invited.

If you don't want to invite them than don't, don't feel like you should.

Both my OH and myself work in around a team of 30. We invited most apart from a few grumpy ones, but only to the church and then the evening reception.

It wasn't too far away from where we are based though, but I would have felt really uncomfortable not inviting them having talked about the wedding for a year!

Good luck!

I get on with my colleagues but I'd never invite them to my wedding - they're not my friends.

I'd just invite them to the evening, even if it is two hours away, that is their choice if they want to go that distance for you. At least nobody could say you didn't ask.

First rule of wedding - it's your day, do what you want. Don't feel bad for just not inviting them - do you see them outside work? You don't have to invite people just because you feel obliged. When you look back at your photo album and see them, will you still be in touch with them?

I socialise with mine a lot so will prob invite the usual suspects to the evening do, but not the whole day shebang.

I had a similar problem which was I have a number of people I really wanted to invite but not as sure about the others. Our wedding was about an hour and a quarter away and didn't think anyone would come but we invited everyone to the night do only. About 10 people came who I was really pleased to see there but the vast majority didn't come but as I'd invited them I didn't feel guilty at all about talking about the planning etc.

Im really close to a lot of the people I work with and I will be inviting them all to the evening reception...this is only because I am close to them and see them as friends rather than work colleagues. If this wasn't the case I wouldn't feel obliged to invite them. With regards to the distance there are some of my H2B's family who live 4 hours away who he is not particularly close too and we are just inviting them in the evening. You have to draw the line somewhere with day and night guests and its up to them to make the decision if they are willing to travel. At least then you don't have to worry about them being offended that you didn't invite them.

When I got married only two of my colleagues whom I've worked with for over ten years got invited to the day. The rest were invited to the evening do only. Some came, most didn't. I simply explained to them that we were short on numbers and we had a lot of family which obviously took priority. Everyone understood.

I've invited the guys from my department who I work closely with every day. There's only 6 of them and they're only invited to evening. I've been there for 5.5 years though. I probably wouldn't bother in your position.