Worrying about simple things on the day-advice please

Hmm not sure I know all the answers and I'm 12 days away!

Hope I've helped but re-reading my answers I'd guess not!

1. Left

2. Up to you. I like the bm walking in first, although some people think it's a bit 'American'. Not sure if there are rules around this with a church wedding though - hope not!

3. I shall give mine to my MOH.

4. I don't know!

5. My son will have ours as the ring bearer!

6. Not if you don't want to. Most brides don't.

8. I'm planning on doing it in the evening so evening guests feel included a bit in the day, but if you're serving it as dessert or with coffee, you could do it whenever

Hi thanks for the reply.

I am getting married in a hotel so I'm not due to meet the registrar on the day and there won't be a rehearsal. Guess I'd better make date to meet up with him or her before the wedding to iron out the creases lol

I'd suggest:

1) what side do I stand on when walking down the isle? Your father or whoever is giving you away walks to your right. https://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20060819093908AAYqcVc

2) do I walk in first or does the bridesmaids walk in first? this is up to you. Traditionally in the UK BMs walk in behind the bride and her escort.

3) who holds my bouquet at the alter? usually your MoH

4) am I allowed to hold my fiancés hand when I reach the top? Yes - many do - I know I will Can I give him a kiss? Again - many do and I most deffo will

5) who holds the rings? (Not having a best man) if no best man then the groom is prob best placed to have them

6) will I be expected to do a speech during the wedding breakfast? (Not having formal speeches) no

7) when do you cut the cake- during the breakfast or the evening? up to you - whenever suits your arrangments best.

It's up to you whether you or your bridesmaids go first... I was always under the impression that the bride walked in first but I think it's up to you. I'm giving one of my BMs my bouquet to hold, usually it's your chief bridesmaid or MOH who holds it.

We're cutting our cake after all the evening guests have arrived and then having our first dance straight after....

After that I don't know any other answers... But now you've got me thinking....!

xx

Panic not - it'll all be fine and church things just ask the vicar, and venue things, just ask them, failing that, mothers tend to be rather opinionated on all these sorts of things!

This is one of the reasons why you will see the registar about 15/20mins before hand and they will go through things with you then.

A peck when you meet if a hotel but in a church you might want to save it

A hotel 99% of the time it will be the bridesmaids first down but in a church bridesmaids down first 40% of the time

I always thought the bride came down the aisle on her fathers right arm so that she comes to the left side of her groom and so the father doesnt have to walk around her train if she has one xx

Most have already been answered but I've given you my answers below. The main thing I'd say is try to relax! you'll drive yourself up the wall if you worry about little things like this for the next 7 months, most of which can just be sorted on the day and will just fall in to place. I know I got a bit fixated on the little details and avoided the big stuff, now further down the line i'm ignoring the little details as I've still got some major things to sort out and hardly any time!! Hope this helps, hitched is a good place if you're not sure about stuff, it also might help to have a look at photographer pics, read wedding blogs and pictures and search articles and posts on here to get more of an idea in general about weddings if you're not sure what to expect.

Your venue should be able to help with a lot of stuff too - don't be afraid to ask them as (depending on your venue obv) they often have lots of weddings so will be able to tell you what usually happens there, our venue has been great with this.

Hope this helps.

1) what side do I stand on when walking down the isle? on the left

2) do I walk in first or does the bridesmaids walk in first? Either is fine apparently BMs first is coming more popular but you first is tradtional

3) who holds my bouquet at the alter? BM/mum/anyone you'd like to hold it I guess.

4) am I allowed to hold my fiancés hand when I reach the top? Can I give him a kiss? i'm not sure but you can always check if you really want to do either of these things - you meet the registrar before hand so you can always just ask then or phone and ask if it's really important to you.

5) who holds the rings? (Not having a best man) Whoever you want to hold them - whoever it is will need to be near to the front

6) will I be expected to do a speech during the wedding breakfast? (Not having formal speeches) Nope - if you want to do a speech, do, but if there are no formal speeches definitely not

7) when do you cut the cake- during the breakfast or the evening? Usually just before the first dance

I did this! As did Kate Middleton, who is my reference point for most things wedding etiquette-related. ? On the way out I was on my husband's left.

This is what annoys me about weddings (no offence to you at all, I'm talking in general; the 'etiquette' worry) ... surely the answer to all of these question is "However you want it to be"?

It's your day, you both dream it and then make it come true.

We are getting married in a hotel and had a meeting with their wedding co-ordinator at the weekend, she ran through absolutely everything and answered all my questions, so maybe you could speak to someone at the hotel and they would be able to help ?

1) what side do I stand on when walking down the aisle? no idea! I can picture it in my head as me on left and Dad on right.

2) do I walk in first or does the bridesmaids walk in first? Personal choice I think. My bridesmaids will walk in together ahead of me.

3) who holds my bouquet at the alter? Erm...probably one of the bridesmaids (hadn't thought about it!).

4) am I allowed to hold my fiancés hand when I reach the top? Can I give him a kiss? Don't see why not!

5) who holds the rings? (Not having a best man) Our best man will be, otherwise I would have given them to my nephew to give him a job.

6) will I be expected to do a speech during the wedding breakfast? (Not having formal speeches) Not expected, up to you. I might just thank the bridesmaids etc, depends how I am feeling, I hate public speaking!

7) when do you cut the cake- during the breakfast or the evening? Personal choice. Ours will be cut at the evening reception before the first dance so about 8pm ish.