Would this annoy you

Yes it is completely unprofessional, but why did you ask her to qualify her comment? I would have just ignored it, or told her there and then that she was being extremely rude.

Because she walked into a room where my grandmother was who has lost a great deal of weight I wanted to ensure I had heard her correctly... The nurse who was in the room with me looked totally shocked..

I also need her slightly onside to help ensure my Nan gets the best level of care, however now I am going to ask for her to be reassigned I think...

Totally unprofessional and uncalled for. I'd put in a complaint about that comment. There is absolutely no justifying why she said that to you. How bloody rude.

Ah I see. Did you think she was aiming the comment at your grandmother instead?

I would complain in that case.

Very rude, and yes it would definitely annoy me!

The only reason I would ask for her to be reassigned though, is if it was in th best interests of your Nanna and Grandpa, I wouldn't because of the weight comment as obviously changing Social Workers can be very disruptive to the service users, i.e. your Grandparents.

I bet you couldn't belive your ears though, how could she possibly think it is okay to say that?

Very rude and unprofessional.

Is the comment part of a spectrum of bad behaviour on her part? If so, then yes I think you're probably justified in asking for someone else. If it's a knee-jerk reaction to her annoying you, it's probably not that reasonable though.

Yes it was one of many things she has failed miserably at..

She has been my Nan's social worker for 3 months and she actually apologised to me today for our last phone conversation and that she hadn't done the action I had asked her to do as she was going on holiday... And that is my fault why?!!! (She did no hand over with anyone in her team even though she assured me during her absence her manager would be fully briefed on all her cases!!) I also asked her about some forms I had completed and sent to her over 6 weeks ago and if she had received them and why I hadn't had a response!

All it makes me wonder though if I wasn't there constantly chasing what would happen.. I honestly just feel sorry for any other older people who are in hospital without a close family member to get things moving... ☹️

Yes, in that case then I would definitely complain - the focus being on the poor support your Nanna has received and the incompetency of the Social Worker, but mention the weight comments as well - but do this after you have stated the issues you have had with the service she is (or isn't) providing to your Grandparents.

Good luck x

I am going against the grain and will say that yes, whilst im sure it didnt sit well with you, she probably meant no harm as you know what some people are like, speak before thinking about it. I think if we carry on this "complain and moan" for every little thing that is said to us, we wont be able to comment on anything in the future or have an opinion and not voice it. I can see how you may have been offended, but i really am sure that she didnt mean it the way it came out. As you well know, its become the "norm" to suggest that once a person is married they automatically want to produce some kiddles, however, this is not always the case but thats just life. As for the fertility issue, im sorry but she would never be privvy to that information and therefore i dont know how you could be offended.

I think she was trying to make conversation with you but went about it the wrong way. Thats how i see it anyway ?

That would indeed annoy me. Will you make a complaint?

I work with social workers on a daily basis and the ones here are absolutely useless... and ALWAYS late.